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Why Is My Pregnant Self Crying? (April Edition)

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Current pregnancy -
First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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Re: Why Is My Pregnant Self Crying? (April Edition)

  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    Because I have to interview for this job I don't want and with everyone making a mass exodus from teaching, I feel like we will be hired. I don't want to be hired. My resume is great, I don't interview the best, but my husband interviews great and his resume is blah. He has the charisma that will get us hired, I have all the extras that will get us hired. 
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  • mamamoomoo12mamamoomoo12 member
    I just feel like crap. I thought I finally got my headaches at bay and now I have another- I really don't want to be at work.
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  • dsmith211dsmith211 member
    Work sucks and no one will leave me alone today. It’s been a day of useless meetings and equally useless co-workers. And to top it off my team lead is out for a week so everyone is asking me everything. Leave me alone! 😩 
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  • mamamoomoo12mamamoomoo12 member
    10 more minutes until its an acceptable time for me to leave work. Thank god, I've been on the verge of puking and dizzy all day.
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    Because the world is a terrible place that it took 2 years for someone to realize a little girl from my home town was missing and no one is saying where she is. That poor baby. 
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  • liliennelilienne member
    I keep relistening to my favorite audiobooks over and over again to try to keep my stress level low...and one of them has made me cry every time I've gone back to it, because the ending is so perfect. I'm trying to stick to stuff that won't make me cry! But I also really like this book...so now when I relisten I stop before the last chapter.  :p
    First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22

    Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!

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  • babywiikbabywiik member
    @jhysmath what?!?? For serious? Someone knows where she is and it's most likely the ones that would have reported her missing. So sad!
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @babywiik Google "harmony Montgomery" you can read the terrible story because it's been picked up by so many national news coverage. 

    Basically mom was addicted to drugs and the kid bounced from foster care pavements with her little brother until she was 5ish and dad got out of prison (for attempted murder for shooting a drug dealer in the face asking with a list of other things) dhfc thought it was the best option for the little girl to go live with her dad (brother was adopted sometime before) she was with dad, step mom, and half siblings for 9ish months when they were evicted and then living in a car. A couple weeks after they were evicted people noticed the girl wasn't with them anymore. The uncle of the dad I guess made a report about it, but no one ever followed up. The uncle has also said something about the little girl having a black eye and he tried reporting them for that too because she looked frightened when he saw her last. Then the father shut everyone in his family out and made no contact and covid started so no one was looking for a kid in school (she was living in nh but registered in MA). Some how in December someone decided to check in on it and realized kid was missing. Dad said he hadn't seen kid since dropping her off with mom on Thanksgiving 2019 which they found was a lie because she was there when they were evicted after that. Dad is currently in prison for something else and his girlfriend (not the mother of any of his children) was just found dead in a motel, I'm guessing drug over dose reading about their backgrounds. So yeah this baby has been missing for 2 years. I just can't understand why and how this can happen. It makes me hate people so much more, it also makes me thankful I don't teach younger children, I think I'd get charged with kidnapping because I'd take them all home with me. At the middle high school level, my husband and I have discussed taking one of his students and getting a foster care license, but I'm sure if we had little ones it would be harder to send them home to their parents. 
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  • babywiikbabywiik member
    @jhysmath oh wow! For the little girls sake, I hope she is either found alive and healthy or that if she died, she is in a better place so she doesn't have to suffer anymore, living with parents who didn't care to take care of her. So crazy that no one checked up on her after the uncle reported maltreatment, especially since she should have had a social worker beings as she was already in the system. So so sad!
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @babywiik part of me is hoping she isn't alive just for the fact I feel the dad and step mom might have sold her to someone worse than them and I can't imagine that baby having to live through that. 
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited April 2022
    Just about finished the Sword of Shannara on audiobook and [SPOILER ALERT] Hendel died. It was so valiant but I just can’t. Dwarves are stoic but really caring and remind me of my dad, and he was also a great character.

    also, 24 HOURS of build-up and the Warlock Lord fight took all of a literal minute? What in the heck. That was too realistic.
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  • wisehwiseh member
    I don't normally check this thread because I don't need extra reasons to be sad, and I am definitely not glad that I did. How absolutely terrible for that little girl, @jhysmath. I agree with you that while I hope for a good outcome, part of me is hoping she isn't alive, in pain or being abused. How truly, truly awful 😔😔
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    The ny times morning email about the mother's who have had to flee Ukraine without their husband's and have to raise their children alone in another country without any means for child care and work. 

    I'm not the praying type, but I pray this war doesn't ever reach us here. It really makes me realize how lucky we are to live where we do, and makes me hate the fact that I complain over dumb things like rising fuel costs. I'm not having to worry about my children dying because of a bomb. I'm not worried about having to give birth while bombs go off around me. I'm stupidly worried about where I'll give birth and if I'll get my vbac, these moms just want to carry to term and not die. 
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    Survivor just made me cry like a baby.  Youngest player in the game, Black, essentially having to explain to the entire tribe (and America) the massive emotional effects of constantly having to think about race and how it impacts her life.
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    Talking to my favorite midwife today explaining what happened at the big hospital yesterday bawling my eyes out telling her that I just want to give birth with someone I care about and not a random doctor... She started tearing up too... Maybe she can go back to the head obgyn now and let her know how important this is to me and they can do something about it.... Wishful thinking I know. 
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited April 2022
    Sent some maternity clothing links to my SIL for opinions and accidentally found out that my MIL has already ordered some things. Sooo I’m crying because I really HATE surprises and why in the heck can’t I get to be involved in the clothes I wear and the FIRST EVER maternity clothes I get? I get that it’s out of love, but seriously?
    I’m glad at least I chose these damn pants myself!
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  • babywiikbabywiik member
    edited April 2022
    @pangolindrome wait? She ordered YOU clothes? That just confuses me. Is that normal for her? I think I'd cry too, that would stress me out. I'd be so afraid of hurting feelings even though your feelings weren't thought about too much. Will she be butt hurt if something doesn't fit or you don't like it? The only person I would let buy me clothes is my sister and that's only because when we lived in the same town we'd go shopping separately and come home with the exact same items. 

    @jhysmath sending hugs! Why do so many people in birthing rooms not get how important it is for a women to feel safe during labor? I feel like I hear stories like this all the time. Just because they assist women in birthing babies all day every day doesn't mean they know what each women needs to feel safe during maybe the most vulnerable time in their life. I hope your favorite midwife can pull some strings for you🤞🏼
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    @babywiik NOPE. In-laws have bought me a couple of athletic items I’ve asked for, and they buy me Nikes because again, I wish or ask for them, but this has never happened before. I am super stressed about what she got. I hate this. There is enough unknown going on without being surprised with clothes I wasn’t included in the choosing of. Before, if she wanted to get me something, we always talked about it and sometimes we had fun looking together.
    As of the pandemic and being unable to see my parents in Sweden, I’ve taken to referring to my husband’s parents as mom and dad (I differentiate by talking about my parents using the Swedish words) and I know they are super excited about the first grandkid, but I feel very left out. 
    She could be hurt if I don’t like what she got but I think it would be worse to accept the things and just not wear them if I really dislike them. I’m so stressed about what kind of clothes they are.
    The ONE good thing is that I’m CERTAIN she has consulted hubbs’ cousins because they’ve had a lot of recent experience with maternity clothes… and I do think they have good taste and all, so maybe it will be okay. She wouldn’t usually do this, so I really hope she found things she has gotten good feedback about and is ridiculously confident that I’ll like.
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  • maple1422maple1422 member
    Made it through yesterday like any normal day and of course waited until laying down to sleep to have a breakdown and feel horrible. DS1 has to split his time between our home and his dad's. He wants to be both places all the time and has to juggle feeling happy to go back and sad to leave every week. I wish I hadn't been so naïve when I was younger, so he wouldn't have to go through this. I wish DH was his father and we didn't have to split time. We live and learn, but it just sucks how it impacts DS.
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  • csardaszzcsardaszz member
    I cried reading Make Way for Ducklings. Why was it so hard for Mr. Mallard to understand that Mrs. Mallard just wanted a safe place to raise her family? Why did the police have to get involved for it to work out? 😭 Also, I miss Boston. 😭😭
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