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When to tell family/friends

knottie42c77cf6eea1b2a3knottie42c77cf6eea1b2a3 member
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I'm about 7 weeks along and I've been debating when to tell family and friends. My first obgyn appt isnt until about 9 weeks and I'm not sure if I'll be doing an ultrasound at the appt. I am definitely pregnant, but this is my first time doing this and I have no one to ask. Any advice?
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Re: When to tell family/friends

  • harpseal135harpseal135 member
    It's all personal choice.  We told my parents the day we go a positive.  We went to their house and told them! 
    Others like to wait.  Its cemetery up to you. There is no right or wrong answer.  
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  • brennybirdbrennybird member
    My husband and I have been debating this!  We’re getting the ultrasound at 10 weeks, but I’ll be seeing my parents (who several states away) next weekend and want to tell them in person. I‘ll be 7 weeks then.

    I don’t think we’ll wait til the 1st trimester is over, though. I know part of that being “the usual time” is because of risk of miscarriage, but if that were to happen, I think I would actually rather my family know about the pregnancy so we could support each other!
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  • beckalove88beckalove88 member
    edited April 2022
    It is totally up to you! My parents also live out of state so we'll be telling them at about 10 weeks and my husband's birthday is at the end of the month so we'll tell friends about 11 weeks. For me, I wanted to wait to tell folks because if we have a miscarriage I don't want to have to deal with people asking. I have told a few people but they're the people I'd reach to for support if something happened. So far so good at week 9 and we've got our ultrasound Monday.
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  • kh7487kh7487 member
    edited April 2022
    I told family and close friends at 5/6 weeks. Personally, i decided to tell anyone who i would also tell if something happened. I had 2 chemical pregnancies that my family and friends knew about. I knew if something happened with this pregnancy they would all be there for me. Also it’s so hard for me to wait to tell people, i feel too anxious.
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  • ashnicellashnicell member
    Some of our friends were the first to know. We went out for my husband's birthday when I was about 5 weeks. They knew we'd been trying and guessed immediately when I turned down a celebratory drink. We decided to wait to tell our families until we see them in person on Easter. I'll be 11 weeks at that point. Our 9 year old will be finding out Easter morning as well. There will be a big brother t-shirt in this Easter basket.
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  • knottie0372faf10d26f521knottie0372faf10d26f521 member
    I told those closest to me when I found out with my 1st pregnancy because then they would be there if I had a miscarriage (which I did). I am glad I did because I felt better supported because they knew why I was so sad. So many friends reached out with stories of their own loss and I didn't feel so alone.I will be telling my close family and friends again with this pregnancy.
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