After Dark Thread! 3.19

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  optimistgardener member

  March 2022

  i may be single but i have my ways.

  https://youtu.be/KFq4E9XTueY?t=44

  (link is fairly tame 80s silliness, lest anyone worry)
  

  History

  I am doing this on my own. Left ovary and fallopian tube removed due to cyst/necrosis just after birth. Right ovary and tube still purport to function.

  Began TTC in Aug '18 @ age 35

  5 or 6 (or 7?!) cycles using frozen donor sperm, ICI. All BFN

  Mar-Jun '19 IUIs, all BFN
  

  Began process of referral for RE in spring of '19, blood tests confirm low AMH (.54) but all else is good.

  May '19 HSG shows open tube, but ultrasound suggests fibroids
  

  MRI in June '19 confirms two large fibroids, one growing through wall of uterus

  In June '19 I move from California to Oregon, disrupting my insurance, referrals, etc. 5 months spent piecing it all back together.
  

  Nov. '19 attempted myomectomy (vaginal approach) failed. 2nd surgery using laparoscopic method in Jan '20 is successful.
  

  April '20 --> June '20, natural IUIs, all BFN.

  July? saline ultrasound and bubble test demonstrate open tube
  

  July '20 clomid cycle cancelled for thin lining

  Aug-Oct, 3 femara cycles, all BFN

  RE referral. While waiting to set up an appointment Nov-Jan,I continue with natural cycles and ICI, using a known donor, BFN...
  

  Jan '21 more bloodwork, AMH is worse (.30), FSH high albeit not catastrophic at 13.2. hysteroscopy all good. "looks cozy!" says the RE.
  

  Feb '21, injectables (menopur, novarel), iui, BFN (doc said the frozen donor sperm sample had the "best numbers she'd ever seen!")
  

  Mar '21, injectables, iui cancelled due to lack of follicles, converted to at home-insem. BFN
  

  May '21, first IVF round cancelled due to cyst.

  July '21 IVF: standard antagonist. 225menupur/225gonal-f/cetrotide/5000u trigger, AFC 7; 6 days of stims. 8 eggs retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilize, 4 made it to blast. 3 are 4AB, 1 is 4BB. PGT-A results all abnormal.
  Oct '21 somewhat improved AMH (.51) and significantly improved FSH (8.9). Maybe it's all the pills I swallow.
  Dec -21, standard antagonist. 225menupur/225gonal-f/cetrotide/5000u trigger, AFC 5; 11 days of stims. retrieval yields 5, 4M, 2 reach day-6 blast (4AB & 4BB). 1 low-level mosaic (chr. 3 deletion), 1 complex abnormal.
  Feb '22 FET (low-level mosaic): CP.
  May '22 egg retrieval, lupron flare protocol. HGH priming for 1 month before stims; md lupron 20/20u daily; menopur 225, follistim 225, 10k trigger after 8 days of stims; AFC 10; 13 retrieved; 10 mature; 8 fertilized. All frozen at 2PN for later thaw, grow, and biopsy.
  July '22 egg retrieval same protocol: 9 days of stims; AFC 8; 10 retrieved, 8 mature, 4 fertilized and frozen.
  Sept '22 ER same protocol: AFC 10; 12 retrieved, 11 mature, 11 fertilized.
  From the 3 retrievals, 7 survived to day 5-6 blastocyst, from which I have 2 normal embryos!
  Jan 20, Fully medicated FET, baby aspirin, dexamethasone, acupuncture, and as much woo as I can stand (which isn't very much). BFN.
  July 23, Natural FET + baby aspirin. BFN.
  

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  @optimistgardener girl, spicy!
  

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  portentosa member

  March 2022

  DH and I send each other mood setting music videos and/or explicit gifs all day while we're apart when we're planning to get together that night. Definitely does the trick.
  
  Honestly though, he's had some bad health issues for over a year that have affected his energy levels and he just last month hit on a medicine combo that has brought him back to full energy where the bedroom is concerned... so it has been a fun few weeks. 💃🏼

  

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  @portentosa I love that YH has found his grooooooooove. Last year, when I was experimenting with MHs supplements, I found that Ashwaganda had him acting like a teenager!!! 
  
  MH is so vanilla, so there's not a lot that I need to do / have to do? to get him going. Most of the time, the trouble is on my end. The SSRIs really don't help in that area. Anyways, I got a subscription to Burgandy Box (lingerie subscription service that comes 4x a year) and it's GREAT! I get to feel sexy and even though it takes MH 30 sec to take whatever it is I'm wearing off, the sentiment lingers and the brain awaits the next time. Plus, it helps that MH's memory is equivalent to that of a goldfish so I can rewear the thing I got 3 months ago. 

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  portentosa member

  March 2022

  @acleverusername
  *makes a note of ashwaganda* 👀👀
  
  I had one of those lingerie subscriptions a few years back and loved it. I've gained some weight since then... should maybe think about getting some new things again. Make MHs eyeballs pop. 😈

  

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  maggiemadeit member

  March 2022

  I like to keep the lingerie collection fresh for my hubby. We’ve been together for 20 years, and I am an old married lady, so that’s about as spicy as it gets these days. I also find the lingerie gives me a little more confidence in the bedroom, especially now that I’m carrying a few extra pounds. It covers some of the smushier parts. 

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  mambo5-2 member

  March 2022

  We are in a dry spot we've just had a lot going on in our lives plus we've had COVID and influenza and some grief stuff happen since the new year. Hopefully now that it's slowed down we can get back. 
  
  We like to send sexy messages back and forth, especially gifs. 

  Spoiler for History 
  
  

  Me - 30 DH - 32
  
  April 2009 - 8+ week MC
  January 2012 - BFP - DS Born 10/21/2012
  May 2013 - BFP - Twins MMC @ 13 weeks D&C
  Oct 2013 -  BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Dec 2013 -  BFP  DD Born 8/16/14 - Cholestasis at 36+5
  Nov 2016 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Dec 2016 - BFP  DD Born 6/19/17 @ 28+4 Severe Pre-E, IUGR, Cholestasis 
  Nov 2017 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Jan 2017 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Jan 2019 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  DH Vasectomy Aug 2019
  Feb 2022 - TTC #4 with IVF - RPL testing
  Protein C and S Deficiency - Blood Thinners for Treatment - Maybe we don't know!
  June 2022 - IVF - 2 embryos - 1 transfered 6/22/22 - Transfer Failed
  July 2022 - FET

  
  
  

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  @portentosa and @mambo5-2: where do you go to find sexy/explicit gifs? Lol. 

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  portentosa member

  March 2022

  @acleverusername I just Google the specific thing I'm looking to convey. Google images then pops up lots of x rated options to choose from. If I'm looking to be more coy/funny instead of full on xxx it gets more challenging... I go for specific TV show scenes that DH and I both like.

  

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  mrsmtothek member

  March 2022

  Alright ya'll are making me feel LAZY over here omg. I cannot do the sexy texting unless we're long distance. We did that for so many years that it feels like a call to the past in a way that I don't want to revisit haha. That stuff really just doesn't come naturally to me.
  
  My husband is a Scorpio so he's *on* like ALL the time. All. The. Time. His love language is physical touch too of course (which is NOT MINE) and so I make a concerted effort to let him know I want it as much as possible, even if we can't have it right then. He usually is in the drivers seat in the spicy department but on holidays I'll surprise him with some lingerie. Maybe I need to do this more?!? lol, but honestly, it's an effort to do it 3-5 times a week (he'd prefer every day) that he's plenty happy with just me initiating. He is most excited when I take control in the bedroom, initiate dirty talk, and offer up things like back door access.  

  
  

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  mamafox14 member

  March 2022

  Another vote for spicy texts haha I like to send risqué pics or just general spiciness while he’s working because I know it drives him crazy and also makes him feel really good. Also fans of the Ashgawanda over here!! 

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  @mrsmtothek I... don't know what it's like to have a husband that's so into sex. I've never even had a partner like that... well, maybe my first boyfriend but then again we were both 20 and wanted to do it all the time. No Ashwagandha for you... haha... otherwise he'll insist on doing it 2x a day!
  
  @mamafox14 how much Ashwagandha do you take? 
  

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  mamafox14 member

  March 2022

  @acleverusername I don’t take it but he does, I’m not sure the dosage but I’ll find out and let you know! I’m not home now but I’ll check later. If I forget remind me! He takes a couple other supplements for testosterone support that supposedly help his general energy/stamina and it seems to work as if it were up to him we’d probably have sex twice a day every day. I’d also like that honestly haha so we do our best! 

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  kiki047 member

  March 2022

  Dammit, I missed the After Dark thread last week. Paging my gutter partner @keikilove to make sure we get the memo next time! 
  
  Not to resurrect an old(er) daily thread but to chime in with my 2 cents, now that we're doing IVF and aren't stuck with TTC-safe lube I found an incredible locally made sex oil (Fractionated Coconut Oil, Organic Sunflower Seed Oil, Organic Evening Primrose Oil, and GMO-free Vitamin E) and let me tell you, it is a *game changer*. Dunno who else has been using PreSeed but it's the worst, I hate it so much. 
  
  MH is on bupropion (Wellbutrin) and sertraline (Zoloft) and the latter pretty much depletes his libido down to nothing. He gets really discouraged (that's putting it lightly) if he tries too often and can't get going, so while we HIO a lot less often than I'd like/than we used to (like once or twice a week), it has been better for our sex life in general when we don't have the pressure of TTC timing looming over us. I get reeeaal grumpy when I'm on forced pelvic rest due to IVF though, which feels like the majority of the past 2 years. 
  
  @mrsmtothek ohhh back door access, *rolls eyes* MH is incredibly jealous that I gave my ex back door access once upon a time but he refuses to admit that it is something he wants and/or is interested in even though he's always poking around there. I flat out told him, if he wants in I need to hear him say it and he won't, lol, so that door remains closed. 
  
  You have to know MH though, he's like the most timid, passive person in general, doesn't have an aggressive bone *ahem* in his body, but every once in a while something comes over him and he finds a liiittle bit of dominant energy and HOT DAMN I'm here for it. 
  

  
  TTC History:
  

  Me: 36  MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017

  Aug '18: PCOS dx

  Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil

  Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN

  Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN.  Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)

  Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)

  Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil) 

  Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.

  Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.

  Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w                                                  

  Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d. 

  May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN. 

  June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between. 

  
  

  Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal

  Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic

  Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex

  Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP

  Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN

  Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin. 

  Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal. 

  June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.

  July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN. 

  Sep '22: Taking a break

  Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed. 

  Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23

  
  

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  @kiki047 Sorry girl! I'll be sure to give you EXTRA NOTICE next time there's an After Dark thread. Lol. I was doing anything/everything possible to get the Peggies off my feed. I'm gonna have to pick up some of that lube next time I'm back home. Shoot me the name if you can. Also, +1 when H gets a bit "bossy." 
  
  I didn't really watch Game of Thrones beyond a few episodes of Season 1 (I justify it as 'I started watching it, then started my MBA program, and promptly had to give up all fun) but there's that scene where Khaleesi is "taught" how to enjoy sex by her maid? and then she flips things around with her forced husband (the sexy Jason Momoa) from rape to being in control... well that scene is effing sexy. And I could be remembering it all wrong, but my version is pretty great and really gets things going. 
  
  Also, on Monday, MH and I were lying in bed, both on our laptops and I sent him a message... 
  

  
  

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  ReadyForaB member

  March 2022

  @acleverusername I lol'ed a little too much at your spoiler.  Totally some my DH and I would do. 

  TTC History:
  

  Started dating DH 2006 . Married 2015
  

  
  TTC July 2015-November 2015
  

  BFP November 2015
  Baby boy born August 2016
  
  Oops BFP February 2021
  MMC March 2021
  
  Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
  
  TTC Since March 2022
  MMC June 2022
  
  BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!

  
  

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  kiki047 member

  March 2022

  @acleverusername I'm snort laughing at your spoiler. Hahaha so good. Also, YGPM. 
  

  
  TTC History:
  

  Me: 36  MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017

  Aug '18: PCOS dx

  Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil

  Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN

  Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN.  Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)

  Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)

  Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil) 

  Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.

  Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.

  Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w                                                  

  Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d. 

  May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN. 

  June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between. 

  
  

  Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal

  Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic

  Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex

  Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP

  Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN

  Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin. 

  Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal. 

  June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.

  July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN. 

  Sep '22: Taking a break

  Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed. 

  Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23

  
  

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  mambo5-2 member

  March 2022

  Bridgerton Season 2 started today, enjoy that TTGP After Dark 

  Spoiler for History 
  
  

  Me - 30 DH - 32
  
  April 2009 - 8+ week MC
  January 2012 - BFP - DS Born 10/21/2012
  May 2013 - BFP - Twins MMC @ 13 weeks D&C
  Oct 2013 -  BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Dec 2013 -  BFP  DD Born 8/16/14 - Cholestasis at 36+5
  Nov 2016 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Dec 2016 - BFP  DD Born 6/19/17 @ 28+4 Severe Pre-E, IUGR, Cholestasis 
  Nov 2017 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Jan 2017 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  Jan 2019 - BFP MC @ 6 weeks
  DH Vasectomy Aug 2019
  Feb 2022 - TTC #4 with IVF - RPL testing
  Protein C and S Deficiency - Blood Thinners for Treatment - Maybe we don't know!
  June 2022 - IVF - 2 embryos - 1 transfered 6/22/22 - Transfer Failed
  July 2022 - FET

  
  
  

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  acleverusername member

  March 2022

  Oh boy! This is the after dark thread that keeps on giving! Love it!

  MY CHART

  TTC History
  TTC#2
  

  Me: 40.5; MH: 39 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
  
  

  
  TTC #1
  

  Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
  TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
  2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
  07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
  07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
  07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
  08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
  09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
  10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
  11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
  11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
  12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
  01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
  02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
  03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
  04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
  04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
  05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
  05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
  06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
  07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
  08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
  09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
  11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
  12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
  01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
  02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
  03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
  05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
  06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
  07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023

  
  

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  mamafox14 member

  March 2022

  @kiki047 @acleverusername if you’re looking for lube I have to recommend Foria - one of the greatest tools in my admittedly robust arsenal. 

  
  

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  Both the Awaken Arousal Oil and the Intimacy Oil are 🔥🔥🔥

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