Pregnant After Loss (PGAL) check-in 3/10

EmilyE13 · March 2022

This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). TW for entire thread due to discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc.

Weeks/EDD?

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)?

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically?

Any appointment updates?

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind?

Rants/Raves/Questions?

EmilyE13 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? 8w4d/Oct 17

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? Lost DD1’s twin at 7.5 weeks in Feb. 2017. MC at 5.5 weeks in Dec. 2020.

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Really relieved after good ultrasound this morning. Physically I’m still battling a lot of fatigue, nausea, and digestive stuff. Feeling more stretching in tummy too.

Any appointment updates? Ultrasound this morning showed great growth but also a small SCH (3.4 cm) that may or may not get absorbed. Gave 6 tubes of blood to top it all off.

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? NIPT in 2 weeks.

Rants/Raves/Questions? My husband forgot about timing for my appointment this morning and was still driving back from the gym when I was needing to leave (I was stuck at home with DD1 and 2), so I got a late start and was already crying when I got to the doctor. 🤦‍♀️

Hoping my fellow PGAL moms had a good week!

sandy5693 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? 9w1d, 10/13

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC July 2021 during my first IVF transfer

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically, I'm still nauseous and tired, but the nausea has definitely decreased in severity. I feel like I can mildly function. Emotionally, I graduated from my RE Wednesday, weaned off the IVF drugs, and had my first OB appointment today. I've been so cautiously optimistic, but it really feels good to be onto the OB!

Any appointment updates? Today was the first appointment my husband could come to since my RE had strict COVID restrictions. He was finally able to see the blob on the US and talk with the doctor. My OB is also much more relaxed than my RE and it was nice to feel the shift of vibes in our appointment today.

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? This was a big milestone week, and I am really looking forward to the next one - for us that is getting safely through the first trimester. We're waiting to tell our family and friends until that point.

Rants/Raves/Questions? RAVE: NO more early RE appointments & no more IVF hormones! I am still in shock.

Wishing you all a great weekend!

shortstack930 · March 2022

@EmilyE13 so glad you had a good u/s! I hope the SCH resolves on its own. That's a bummer about your start to the day.

@sandy5693 congrats on graduating from the RE!! That's a great feeling!

Weeks/EDD? 6w6d, 10/29

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC at 5 weeks in November 2021

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Still super sick with morning sickness and so tired all the time so at least that's still reassuring. Emotionally just anxious about every physical thing I do, worrying that it could cause an issue even though I know that's not true.

Any appointment updates? First ultrasound coming up this Monday 3/14

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? Nope

Rants/Raves/Questions? My mom has been amazing and has been coming over during the day this week to help me since I've been so out of it. I've barely been able to get off the couch so she has been a huge help.

EmilyE13 · March 2022

@shortstack930 yay I’m so glad your US is finally around the corner! So wonderful you have your mom to help. When I feel like garbage, all I want is my mom. I think she likes to feel needed, too!

kkerner29 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? 7w3d, 10/26

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? I had a loss in July. I was 11 weeks but found out at that appt that just baby stopped growing at 8.

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Some days I feel okay and others it’s hard to let myself get excited. My symptoms keep coming and going so that is stressing me out.

Any appointment updates? I have my 8 week
ultrasound on 3/16. My first ultrasound was at 6w2d and baby was measuring 6 week with a heart rate of 111bpm.

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? No big ones yet

EmilyE13 · March 2022

@kkerner29 the fluctuating symptoms mess with my mind so much, too. Just keep repeating to yourself that it’s totally normal—because it really is in the first tri. Hope your ultrasound is great next week!

ctcollins9109 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? 11 weeks

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC Nov 2021 an 37 week stillborn May 2019

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I'm on a wave of emotional poo..on top of stress im sick all the time

Any appointment updates? Few apts coming up next 2 weeks

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? I'm in despair I got results my baby girl might be positive for downs.. I have been nonstop crying but trying my best to stay positive... My daughter I lost at 37 weeks killed me an now I feel im mourning the loss all over though this baby is growing parts of me is sad that she's going to struggle

Rants/Raves/Questions I just want to feel normal Is there ever a time when it lightens up I feel so much darkness is following us I pray every day for light

mae23322 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? October 30 (dating ultrasound tomorrow to confirm)

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 2 miscarriage at 16 weeks and 15 weeks

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically?

I don’t feel pregnant- it don’t typical have a lot of symptoms but I’m not even feeling fatigue this time. Even though I’ve taken a million pregnancy tests I still half expect to go to my ultrasound and have them tell me I’m not pregnant.

Any appointment updates?

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? Since my losses have always been later I anxiously await getting to the anatomy scan!

Rants/Raves/Questions? I had my intake visit and the Dr. suggested taking 1 baby aspirin a day because of my previous losses. Any one else take asprin during their pregnancy? I’ve done just a tiny bit of research because I don’t want to freak myself out about it and in general they says it’s safe but the warning on the box kind of had me second guessing take it.

EmilyE13 · March 2022

@mae23322 I will start baby aspirin at 12 weeks because I have a history of “white coat hypertension” and because I will be 40 when this baby comes. Basically, my stress and worry at appointments gives me high readings but then if I get sent to triage for monitoring my BP is always normal or low.

sandy5693 · March 2022

@mae23322 I’ve been on daily baby aspirin since my transfer. Both my RE & OB recommend taking it since I’m 35. Most of my other 35 and older friends have also taken it throughout their pregnancy.

shortstack930 · March 2022

@mae23322 I took baby aspirin during my last pregnancy and I'm taking it for this one. Some studies have shown it can reduce miscarriage rates and since we did IVF I figured why not. Last time my doctor just had me stop taking it at 36 weeks so that it didn't increase chances of bleeding during delivery.

robbinsegg317 · March 2022

Weeks/EDD? 10w4d, Oct 14th

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? Had an ectopic of unknown location September 2021 treated at 7w.

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I feel very up and down emotionally. Some days it’s easy to feel the joy and hope and others it feels like a cloud of doom is hovering over me. Symptoms come and go, so I’m thankful when I do feel them. Had a great US at 6w4d with bean measuring on track and a heartbeat of 138bpm, but it’s like I’m just waiting for the other boot to drop.

Any appointment updates? I have an appointment tonight, so I’m hoping everything is continuing as it should and I’ll feel some relief.

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? If everything goes well, I’ll be announcing on the same date as my first due date, so that’s been on my mind a bit.

Rants/Raves/Questions? Not currently.

EmilyE13 · March 2022

@robbinsegg317 I hope you have a great appointment this evening! Will you get to have an ultrasound?

robbinsegg317 · March 2022

@EmilyE13 it was a great appointment! Got to hear the little bean’s heartbeat on the Doppler! I would’ve gotten a scan if we couldn’t hear it yet, so I lucked out on that, but I’m just happy there’s really a little person in there! My next scan won’t be until 18weeks for the anatomy scan

relizabethp · March 2022

@ctcollins9109 I have been thinking of you and I hope you are doing ok.

Weeks/EDD? 10 weeks / 10/19

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? Loss son at 16 weeks

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I had a large bleed two weeks ago . The dr found fluid leaving the cervix but a healthy baby. A week later a small hematoma was found on my u/s (2.7 mm), which caused additional bleeding. We were told that a hematoma could have caused the placenta to abrupt which was what caused me to lose my son. Went for an ultrasound on Monday and the hematoma was gone. The bleeding has stopped as well. So I have not been doing well emotionally. I still am not convinced the hematoma has resolved and ill start bleeding. I wake up nightly checking for bleeding. On top of that I am incredibly sick with morning sickness- i am throwing up 3-5 times a day. My husband bought me a relief band which has reduced the amount of times im throwing up but im still getting sick. I struggle with being hungry but not wanting to eat.

Any appointment updates? I have another u/s Friday , it is with my obgyn office who I don’t trust at all but can’t do anything about because it is Kaiser and I don’t have any other choice. I will be moved to the high risks group after 16 weeks (my uterus was torn while in labor with my daughter so I will be heavily monitored in my 2 and 3 trimesters) but I think I might ask to be transferred immediately- i feel like there are more qualified to meet my needs.

Any big milestones or loss-iversaries on your mind? No

Rants/Raves/Questions? After reviewing my medical history with the intake nurse I realized i was never fully told what happened with my son. After researching what they had written down and reviewed with my medical history I realized my sons death could have been prevented if i was monitored properly. I am very upset - every pregnancy i have had was fumbled by the Kaiser obgyn - first pregnancy was ectopic- they didn’t do an u/s when i went to urgent care and told me i was experiencing a miscarriage - i was bleeding internally and then hours later my fallopian tube ruptured- I bleed so badly I lost over 25% of my total blood supply - second pregnancy my uterus was tearing while i was laboring which was only caught but the incoming obgyn who did an immediate emergency c-section- third pregnancy i lost my son from the abruption- i was on bed rest and they went weeks without scanning me and told me i was ok to resume normal activity- i called multiple times because i had black clots and they said it was the hematoma-im certain it was the placenta- I don’t want to be there but I can’t pay out of pocket for a private obgyn . I hate that i have no real recourse - thankfully I have no problem advocating for myself and I will every single day of this pregnancy.

Sorry this is long.

jilliboo · March 2022

We are 10w6d and have had one previous loss. Have an appointment today for loss of pregnancy symptoms and possible yeast infection. No bleeding or spotting. On progesterone. So scared and anxious. I still have sore boobs, headaches, and smell aversion. But other than that maybe a cramp a day,…nothing much. I’m so scared we’ve lost this baby too….

EmilyE13 · March 2022

@jilliboo how was your appointment?

Hey PGAL ladies, what are thoughts on doing these as monthly check-ins instead of weekly for now? We can just keep this thread going if you want for March. Also happy to do it every week if you’d prefer it.

sandy5693 · March 2022

@EmilyE13 I feel good about monthly!

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