My lo will be 4 months in less than two weeks and has always been a challenging sleeper. From birth she has wanted to sleep while being held. For the first few months I was running on almost no sleep and feeling anxious and upset. Through a lot of work I finally got her to sleep at night in her bassinet by my bed. We’ve had good nights where she will start with a 4-5 hour stretch then wake up every few hours after but settle easily. But mostly we have bad nights where she wakes frequently and won’t settle, or wakes up as soon as she hits the bassinet. I feel like I’ve read every book and blog. I’ve tried the drowsy but awake and she either cries immediately or takes to herself then cries. She won’t settle unless we pick her up and rock her. She is too young for sleep training and I don’t think I can let her cry. For naps to get quality sleep she needs to be held. She has been in daycare since six weeks and they can’t hold her obviously, so sometimes she naps a total of an hour in the 8 she is there unless she had a random good day where she naps a longer stretch in her crib. It doesn’t seem to make a difference how much she naps because on days she is home and I watch her wake times and sleepy cues, it still doesn’t guarantee a good night. Sorry for the long rant. I’m just feeling so helpless and like I’m doing something wrong. Lately to get any sleep I’ve resorted to bringing her into bed with me, but it’s not ideal because I’m really just not comfortable with it which means it’s not working for us. Most moms I know seem to have babies that can already fall asleep independently or who sleep through the night, so I feel alone.