Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
| biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22

DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
Re: Product Spotlight: Diaper Bags
https://hellobello.com/products/promo-new-diaper-bag (code: DPRBG)
The bag is functional, nothing special and not particularly cute but will be a good backup!
Also, if y'all got any lists of "must have" features in a diaper bag that would be awesome! Does anyone find that the diaper bags with the slotted side pocket to pull out wipes/tissues super handy or not really?
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
Personally, I never used the designated wipes/tissues side pocket for wipes or tissues. Just too many layers of zippers/flip tops/etc. to mess with. I just threw the wipes in the main diaper bag with everything else. The side pockets are nice for small, frequently used things though.
My only real must haves are 1) that it be a backpack style bag; and 2) that it have designated bottle/cup holders. Which is a pretty low bar because that describes appox 50% of the diaper bags on the market, lol.
My must have list right now just includes
-backpack style
-insulated pocket for filled bottles needing to be kept cold.
-either a key clip or small pocket for my wallet so it has a designated spot. I've pretty much stopped using purses these days and have a plain/basic not for work backpack for certain travels or outings (like the zoo to hold any beverages or snacks we want to bring)
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
This time around, I also got one of the itzy ritzy crossbody bags (bought used). Looks like a purse but has a changing pad and place for wipes. It’ll be nice for quick trips to the store or doctor when I don’t need everything and don’t want to haul the diaper bag and baby.
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
I got my husband a diaper bag backpack from Tactical Baby Gear and he really likes it. It's the one we end up using whenever we all go out together. The main compartment unzipping all the way makes it much more easy to organize and find what you need, and the padded shoulder straps are great. Not my style aesthetic wise (it's designed to look like military gear), but it's very practical. I definitely recommend the backpack diaper bag style regardless of the brand you get.
The bags with "travel bassinets" are basically gimmicks. The "bassinets" are not safe sleep spaces. However, I highly recommend diaper bags that have a fold out changing pad, as it makes on-the-go diaper changes much easier.
Bottles, sippy cups and snacks I usually pack a small separate lunchbag with an icepack - I found that I didn't need an insulated pocket in my diaper bag because I liked to make sure milk stayed chilled with an icepack anyways.
Another really important bag for me (as an exclusive pumper) was my breast pump bag. I used this bag and then had this little cooler inside to keep the pumped milk in. I also kept extra breastmilk bags in there, a spare charging cord for the pump, a nursing cover (to use sometimes when pumping in public), a small towel (in case you spill), and of course snacks.
My essentials for a diaper bag are:
-Changing mat that is wipeable
-Agree with PP about the travel pouches - even if a bag has pockets I like having everything situated so there aren't a bunch of random little things floating around in the bag
-I like having some kind of key clip in the bag so I don't have to constantly dig for my keys. I, too, forgo a purse when I have the diaper bag, so I need to fit all my stuff in there.
-I always have snacks and water, both for me and the little one
-Spare change of clothes for the baby. Honestly, a spare of pretty much everything.
-Sunscreen, wipes, Advil/Tylenol for me, hand sanitizer, etc. Little toiletries I may need while out and about.
-Lightweight blanket - to use either as a nursing cover, something to lay baby on in the grass, cover for the car seat/stroller if it's cold, etc
I just used my faux leather work backpack that had a space for a laptop and a few interior pockets, and that was great - it was beautiful and comfortable! If you already have a bag or back pack that you love you really don't need to replace it with a specifically marketed "diaper bag" (especially if you are hoping to primarily breastfeed - we never had to carry around bottles, and I think that makes a difference but 🤷♀️). Save your money! If you feel like you need more compartments, grab a couple of zippered dry bags (which you will use long after your kid is out of diapers and bottles and are great for travel!) I kept diapers, wipes, change pad, cream all in one dry bag, a change of clothes in another, etc. colour coded so that I could just yank out what I needed when it was needed!
I seriously feel like the buzz kill on every thread. I can't stop, I'm sorry!
One hot tip that is **tangential** to diaper bags though - we made it a firm rule in our house that no parent ever left the other parent solo with baby without the diaper bag packed and ready to go. This made a huge difference in being able to get out the door quickly and ultimately helped keep my mental health in a better position during my leave.
HaloVa Diaper Bag Multi-Function Waterproof Travel Backpack Nappy Bags for Baby Care, Large Capacity, Stylish and Durable, Gray… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071RLWKGQ/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_SJKXKK6WMB02CJ0SHF89
No complaints. It has inside and outside pockets to help organize stuff and he insulated pouch in the front. I always threw a wallet or wristlet in it when out and about. Agree with PP about the essential list and can't think of any additions (except like crayons or little toys once you add a toddler in the mix)
I agree with someone else- i hated the pockets for wipes and also the containers they come with to put wipes in do not keep the wipes wet
We got something similar to this one from amazon (like the bag in the original post). The things I liked about it were the very wide and structured opening on top, the extra zipper at the bottom so you don’t have to dig, and the safe spot for your phone/keys/wallet. And of course the price lol.
https://www.amazon.com/Backpack-Upsimples-Maternity-Charging-Resistant/dp/B07HC3M6CD/ref=sr_1_8?c=ts&keywords=Diaper+Bags&qid=1645562794&s=baby-products&sr=1-8&ts_id=166767011
Married: 8/2015
TTC #1: 4/2017
Testing: HSG, U/S, BW, and DH's SA all normal
DX: Unexplained
8/2018: Clomid + TI = BFN
9/2018: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
11/2018: Clomid + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
12/2018: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone \\ Cancelled due to cyst
1/2019: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFP! \\ EDD Sept 30th, 2019
10/7/2019: Healthy baby boy!
TTC #2: 12/2020
2/2021: Letrozole + TI = BFN
3/2021: Letrozole + TI = BFN
4/2021: Surprise! Natural BFP! \\ EDD Jan 6th, 2022 \\ Chemical, betas not rising
8/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
9/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
10/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
11/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFP! \\ EDD July 29th, 2022
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause indefinitely
LUXJA Breast Pump Bag with... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078XQ2HZB?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
ETA - hope that’s ok to share here. I didn’t see we had a specific product spotlight for pump bags.
https://www.skiphop.com/skiphop-diaper-bags/V_200333.html
and really like it! Comes with a chang pad, it is the right number of pockets, some zippered some open and kept things quite organized. One downside for some might be the insulated side pockets don't zip up all the way, but I breastfed and usually had snacks in those ones so it worked out well for me. Love how it attached to the stroller when out and about. I will be using it again this time for sure.
It also comes in other colours if stripes aren't your style. I would definitely recommend to those who aren't set on a backpack style bag!
My husband on the other hand has this tank of a backpack. Its huge and its great for carrying stuff for multiple kids - especially since we're often out on day trips on the weekend. Either way, during the infant stage, I feel like there's always going to be a moment of "Where is the damn (insert whatever item you're looking for here)?!?!" But those days don't last forever.