September 2022 Moms

Thankful Thursday

What are you thankful for this week?

Thankful Thursday Bookstagram Love 40 - Jennifer L Armentrout
Current pregnancy -
First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


Re: Thankful Thursday

  • I am thankful for a live, wiggling baby with a good heart rate.
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • I got to hear my baby's heartbeat at an appointment yesterday and it was healthy! Going for the 12 month ultrasound/screening next week!
  • @mwes
    I assume you mean the 12 week ultrasound? lol
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


  • I'm thankful that it's 50 degrees and I have the windows open and can smell the fresh air. I need spring to come. 
  • I am grateful that I am able to eat more than just bread and milk this week and my energy levels are starting to uptick! 
  • I am thankful for the encouragement from some of you about nighttime weaning my one year old. This whole week I’ve slept in my daughter’s room while my husband has had the baby. There was one night where the little guy cried for two hours and my husband was so patient and held and rocked him. After that he’s been quick to fall back asleep with my husband and last night he didn’t wake at all 🙌 I’ve noticed a huge difference in myself feeling more ready to cuddle him and feed him during the day. I still get really nauseous nursing him but the break at night is so helpful! I am not ready to move back into bed with the little guy yet and am so glad to give myself permission to take the space since I realised this week I have really needed it. It feels so good to take care of myself and also to be close to my daughter. 
    Also so thankful for a good appointment this week and to see the new little nugget! 
  • I'm thankful for a job that is flexible and a supervisor who understands that family and health come first. It's been so nice to be able to take an hour off in the afternoons when nausea has hit, or to not worry about taking a couple hours for appointments for myself or my kiddos. 
  • Umm... what?  :|
  • Pretty sure that's a bot. Second one I've seen in here. The account was made yesterday. Report it.
    DD 10/2019
  • Hahahaha oookkkkay
  • Was there an extra comment in here and I missed it?

    Also, I am thankful I was working from home today, since THE STRUGGLE IS REAL and I totally just took a two hour nap (I will do some extra work to make up for it this evening).  Unfortunately I don't get to work from home every day.
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


  • @kboydbowman yes, there was a bit that spewed a whole lotta nonsense about Clay Aiken. 
  • @mnmomma84 excuse me, that was Clay Aiken number 3. 😂 
  • I too took a two hour nap today and it was glorious!!! 
  • Last night I asked DH to Google how to do an at-home facial 😆 admittedly, first he Googled “how to murder my wife” but then he did the facial and it was really entertaining lol. We put on calming spa music and he did a 5 step facial. Most fun I’ve had on a Friday night in a while 😂 
  • I am so thankful I am starting to feel ~slightly~ better! Today we went to a river nearby for a swim today and I didn't want to die from nausea so that was so nice, though I did need a 4 hour nap to recover from the adventure afterward. I am also thankful for flexible work so I too can have daytime naps 🤣

    So glad you're feeling more yourself @komamommy and especially the feelings towards contact time outside of feeding. I felt exactly the same when I was weaning my DD and I hate to say it but I am sure it's a normal feeling, I just didn't want to be around her. All she wanted was to breastfeed and all I wanted was for her to stop. I needed her to stop touching me and to have space. I had severe nursing aversions and towards the end just seeing my daughter gave me a sense of dread. We are in a much, much better space now that we have finished completely and I absolutely love spending time with her now. I hope weaning continues to go well for you but also don't beat yourself up if there are set-backs, it doesn't mean you're failing it's just a normal part of the process - it took me ~6 months to wean completely and we started that 1 year after she night weaned. During that period she nursed overnight on occasion, particularly if she was sick. <3 


  • @wiseh Thank you so much for the encouragement! It is really validating to hear your experience. The way you described it is just how I feel! My little guy loves nursing and before getting pregnant I loved it too. But now the nausea has me so averse that I associate HIM with feeling sick. I am trying to balance wanting to give him comfort (especially knowing he wont be the baby too much longer) with my own need for space. I think I can handle the daytime much better now knowing I am relatively touch free during the nights. I never thought I would ever be one to feel "touched out" because my love language is heavily physical touch, but it happens!
    Can I ask how old your daughter was when she totally weaned? 
  • @komamommy her last breastfeed was New Year’s Eve - she was 2y ~7m. 

    I’m a breastfeeding educator with the Australian breastfeeding association. At our last conference I joined a small group discussion on breastfeeding aversion and it was so validating hearing everybody else’s stories of breastfeeding aversion. It’s a real thing even though there’s not much info on it. There’s also a phenomenon called D-MER which is the feeling of negative emotions whenever you have a letdown. It’s such a shame that there’s no service like the ABA in the US but feel free to have a read of the ABA articles if you need some extra reading materials - www.breastfeeding.asn.au 
  • @wiseh Oh my gosh. I had never heard of D-MER until just now. After reading about it I can say I absolutely experienced that with my daughter. Is there anything that can be done to help that, or is it just the name of the game for some women? 
    DD 10/2019
  • @trapperkeeper87 the only info I have is this article on the ABA. It also has a link to the official d-mer website. Hope this helps <3

    website https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/dysphoric-milk-ejection-reflex-d-mer
    https://d-mer.org/
  • @wiseh thank you so much for this info!
  • It didn't happen every time, especially as DD got older but for a while there I'd feel super anxious as soon as she would latch on. Drinking watch helped but otherwise I'd just have to close my eyes and take deep breathes for about 30 seconds and then I was fine. It was sort if a let down (haha) when I was expecting all the happy feelings that I read about. Glad there are more discussions happening about such things.
  • @wiseh Thank you so much! I'll add that to my reading. To know that what I experienced is normal is a major comfort I can't even describe. I used to tell people that for the first few minutes of nursing and pumping I would get so incredibly angry and didn't know why. Sometimes it lasted the whole session, sometimes just a few minutes. It was incredibly uncomfortable to deal with and made me feel so bad about myself. But now that I know what I do, I feel a million times better about the experience. I could never thank you enough for mentioning that. 💛
    DD 10/2019
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