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September 2022 Moms
kboydbowman
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PGAL (pregnant after a loss) 2/10
kboydbowman
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How far along are you?
Anything you're nervous about?
How are you handling your stress?
Questions/concerns?
Anything you're nervous about?
How are you handling your stress?
Questions/concerns?
Current pregnancy -
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Re: PGAL (pregnant after a loss) 2/10
Anything you're nervous about? I keep trying to decide if I have fewer symptoms. I'm not a "symptom heavy" person anyway, but until I have my ultrasound on Monday my brain is still convinced it's going to end up being a MMC or blighted ovum.
How are you handling your stress? Mostly just trying to keep myself busy. Also doing a bit of affirmations - "Today I am pregnant."
Questions/concerns? Not at this time.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Anything you're nervous about? I worry with every little cramp. I still check my toilet paper every time I pee. I do feel better being this far along, but always still nervous. Get to hear the baby's heartbeat again at my 12-week appointment (Feb 23), so just looking forward to that!
How are you handling your stress? Just reminding myself to be thankful every time I feel nauseous, bloated, or out of breath.
Questions/concerns? natm.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Anything you're nervous about? I lost my first pregnancy at 10+2 so that's bringing up stuff. Telling family after 12 weeks but before I see my MW again at 13 weeks and hopefully hear the hb and feel better.
How are you handling your stress? I'm doing okay.
Questions/concerns? I gave my doppler to my cousin because her BD wasn't allowed to attend appointments and hear the HB. I really want it back, to ease my mind, but It's been like 1.5 years since I gave it to her and she moved so I don't even think she'll know where it is, and I don't want her knowing just yet. I'm tempted to just buy a new one, but the cost has doubled since then. Also I'm worried I won't hear it and freak out, because I won't be able to find it yet. I held out in previous pregnancies until my MW found it with the doppler. I'm pretty good at finding it and deciphering between mine, the placental, and baby heartbeats though.
Anything you're nervous about? Absolutely everything right now. 9 weeks is how far along I was when I found out there was no heartbeat last time, so I am a bundle of anxiety this week. I am also not a symptom heavy person except for the sore boobs. I move them around multiple times a day to make sure they are still very sore lol. I am definitely a toilet paper checker too.
How are you handling your stress? Keeping busy.
Questions/concerns? Not today
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Anything you're nervous about? I saw the heartbeat on Monday and baby was measuring perfectly, but I’m nervous about going back at 12 weeks and there being a problem. It’s ridiculous, but I almost feel like if I relax too much the rug will be pulled out from under me.
How are you handling your stress? Affirmations help so much. I also try to keep busy and focus on the present. This is a different pregnancy than my loss.
Questions/concerns? I haven’t started seriously thinking about names yet. It just feels too early. Anyone else? I’m sure I’ll feel differently after the NIPT results come in.
Anything you're nervous about? Same as others, worried that my next appointment something will be wrong. I’m still checking every time I pee for blood or when I’m a little crampy.
How are you handling your stress? Trying to distract myself as much as possible and avoiding social media (other than this group). I’ve been reading a ton of books which has been a good distraction. I’m also trying to remind myself that I was symptom free with my son so much so I didn’t realize how pregnant I was when I went in for my first appointment. I thought I was 6 weeks and I was close to 15 😝 so I’m trying to remember all of that when I’m concerned I don’t have particular symptoms.
Questions/concerns? My doctor gave me way too many options for NIPT. Has anyone had experiences with MaterniTi/panorama/claritest? I’m overwhelmed and confused.
Anything you're nervous about? Of corse another loss. We lost our first with a missed miscarriage followed by two healthy babies (now 3 and 1). I keep finding myself feeling numb and anticipating a loss this time around. I can’t help but think I’m “due” for another loss. I feel very validated reading that others are checking the toilet paper too because every time I find myself checking for blood.
How are you handling your stress? Choosing to trust that whatever happens is out of my control. Faith really got me through the first loss and I know if it were to happen again I can safely enter the grief and still make it to the other side.
Questions/concerns? Why are miscarriages so common? I don’t think this is a question anyone can really answer, but I wonder so often about this.
The test was a simple blood test and I got our results a week or so later.
Nervous that I will have a missed miscarriage again. It was so traumatizing to show up to my 9wk US last time and find out my baby had died 1.5wks before and I didn’t even realize… Pants getting tighter is something I never had last time, so I’m taking that as a positive sign!
Affirmation “my body is healthy,” going to bed early, getting really into my book, exercising, being open with my hubby. Keeping pregnancy to myself this time until 12 wks. Started a countdown to my first US (2/21!) and appointment. Hoping for the best for everyone here!
Nervous that it will happen again. Last time it was early (5or 6 wks) but when it's that early it's not clear as to what caused it as it there are many factors. One worry I have is that it's me as there were months leading up to the first and after that I didn't ovulate. What if I'm the problem and they don't know it yet.
Distracting myself when I have those thoughts. Focusing on this pregnancy and how it's further along than before.
No questions yet. First doc appt next week.
7+2 days
Anything you're nervous about?
I think everything that could possibly go wrong. I had to change my Instagram reels algorithm up because triggering reels about loss kept popping up. I’ve never been the type to trigger, but lo and behold… last time I had a blighted ovum. I have a healthy almost 2 year old.
How are you handling your
Questions/concerns?
I guess I’m taking comfort in the fact that my body is kicking the shit out of me right now. It has to be growing something. Hubby said I was like this with 1st LO, but I don’t remember. I do feel like I stink all of the time which was huge with first little one.
Anything you're nervous about? Everything - I have VERY mild symptoms (I've also recently become a boob toucher), obsessively checking toilet paper, and just laying awake in the middle of the night wishing i was nauseous so i would feel more pregnant. I've had two good ultrasounds already and have an appointment next week, hoping to hear a heartbeat and feel a little less anxious.
How are you handling your stress? Not well obviously - trying to redirect by spending quality time with my three year old and planning a Disney trip (which was booked before I found out I was FINALLY pregnant). Reminding myself that a heartbeat at 8 weeks is such a good sign, and that its ok to have mild symptoms, if I hadn't had a loss I would think I was lucky.
Questions/concerns? Just knowing that other people feel the same way is really reassuring - i'm not a crazy person, right?
You're totally not crazy. There is so much that isn’t in our control and after having experienced loss it is so natural to be anxious and preoccupied. Self care and connecting with others is so helpful for me when I’m feeling overwhelmed.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
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How far along are you? 11w 3d
Anything you're nervous about?
How are you handling your stress?
I was stressed before my appt. today. Still so shocked that there’s actually a growing baby inside of me this time around. Belly rubs & slow deep breathing helps. Seeing an active baby was a huge help. I have lots of other ways to self soothe but I haven’t been utilizing most of them these last few weeks…I keep making sure my boobs are still sore too…
Questions/concerns?
natm