TW - sorry friends

magnolia209 · February 2022

It’s a missed miscarriage. There is a gestational sack measuring 6+1. There is a yolk. She said it all looks so perfect. Usually in miscarriages it looks deflated and mine looks so healthy. But I knew. Then we talked dates. I knew. She finally agreed it would be very hard to be this off based on what I told her. We’re doing hCG tests today and Sunday to confirm and then will talk about options on Monday. I’m so so so bummed. But, I know it just wasn’t meant to be. We’ll try again. I wish you all the best in your pregnancies. I know many of you have been here. It’s very encouraging to know so many go on to healthy pregnancies. My OB was very encouraging about trying again right away. My husband is being encouraging also. ❤️

trapperkeeper87 · February 2022

@magnolia209 I'm so so sorry. 😞 Many prayers and good vibes being sent your way for future healthy pregnancies. 💛

mokay19 · February 2022

@magnolia209 so sorry to hear this! Take care of yourself!

beccaneu · February 2022

I’m so sorry. Sending love and hope for a healthy future pregnancy

kboydbowman · February 2022

So sorry to hear this

jhysmath · February 2022

@magnolia209 I'm so sorry. ❤️

Amphibious22 · February 2022

Oh @magnolia209 I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you all the love. ❤️❤️

jamiesc58 · February 2022

@magnolia209 I am so sorry. Praying for you. ❤️🙏🏼

blanket_girl · February 2022

I’m so sorry to hear…you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers ❤️

elle-0409 · February 2022

@magnolia209 Oh, I’m so sorry. Sending you so much love. ❤️

mamamoomoo12 · February 2022

Sending so much love and light your way!

magnolia209 · February 2022

Thank you all so much.I’ll update when I talk to the doctor on Monday and with what my hCG levels were incase that’s of interest or helps anyone else out. I’m feeling better today. Looking forward to getting past this and being able to try again. I hate the feeling of still being pregnant but it’s not going anywhere. I want to find the quickest way to end it. It’s sad but now, I know it wasn’t meant to be - this month! And, I feel like it will happen and then everything will make sense. Like this one couldn’t work out because the next one needed to happen. You know what I mean?

Anyway. @Amphibious22 I sent you a private message.

kboydbowman · February 2022

@magnolia209 When I had my missed miscarriage in 2014, I elected to wait it out...took 3 weeks...I called it "pregnant not pregnant" and it's such a weird limbo state...

babywiik · February 2022

So many thoughts, prayers, strength and love being sent your way❤

scimomma · February 2022

I'm so sorry to hear this and please feel free to share any updates. Sending love to you and your husband and I wish you the absolute best moving forward!

wiseh · February 2022

My heart is breaking for you ❤️❤️❤️ I wish you the best outcome possible ❤️

channas20 · February 2022

@magnolia209 I'm sorry to read this. Sending you strength for the next part of your journey.

chelsraec · February 2022

@magnolia209 sorry about this terrible news. I hope you have a good recovery and I’m sorry for the pain.

maple1422 · February 2022

@magnolia209 so sorry

that’s never easy news. I’m glad you have a great support system

and I wish you the best as you move forward together!

whitta1015 · February 2022

@magnolia209 Oh I am so sorry to hear this! Thinking of and praying for you during this time! Idk if it helps but when it happened to me, I just kept trying to think "better now than further into the pregnancy". Surround yourself with love and support!

wiseh · February 2022

Hope you are doing OK after yesterday @magnolia209

theblondebump · February 2022

I'm so sorry to hear this @magnolia209 sending you hugs and wishing you the best

magnolia209 · February 2022

Thank you all so much for your support. My hCG was 27,000 ish on Friday and 29,000 ish on Sunday. So okay, that’s why I still feel pregnant, because I have all those hormones! But, my OB said that’s not enough of an increase to indicate viability. I’m scheduled for a follow-up u/s on Valentine’s Day followed by a D&C. I asked if they could do it sooner, but as soon as I asked, I started spotting. So, I’m pretty sure this is actually going to happen naturally and I didn’t have to wait around and also I didn’t have to be caught off guard. I’m glad I had a few days to adjust to the idea. If the bleeding continues, I’m thinking I’ll take the next few days off of work and just watch movies and give myself some space.

I wish you all such healthy positive pregnancies. I’ll probably be off the board for good now, but wanted to update if anyone was interested. But I hope to be back in a future BMB! ❤️

kboydbowman · February 2022

@magnolia209 when I had my MMC (discovered at 10 weeks with fetal loss at like 7+6), I elected to wait it out - it took almost 3 weeks and wasn't until my HcG was down to like 2k. So don't be surprised if it stays at just spotting until your appointment. Some slightly graphic informational stuff below the spoiler about the actual process if it happens before then.

If it happens on its own, you will know - it is an actual labor (although not as intense) with fairly regular contractions. A hot bath or shower while it's happening will help with the pain a lot (and also make it a lot less messy to deal with). Once you've had a large clot or two, purposeful coughing can help the rest pass faster. We chose to keep the p.o.c. (the amniotic sac w/baby and placenta were both distinctly identifiable) for burial. After the primary p.o.c. have passed, you'll have some additional bleeding for about a week, much like a normal period, but it will get lighter quickly.

As far as the pain...It's pain, but it's not excruciating (or at least wasn't for me); you might ask your provider for a small script of Percoset (couple pills) just in case the actual miscarriage starts prior to your appointment.

magnolia209 · February 2022

@kboydbowman Thank you for sharing. That’s all super helpful. I really hope this is it starting naturally (I’ve of course stopped spotting as of now) but, my hGC was over 29,000 yesterday - so what you said makes sense. I’ll just keep my OB appointment for a week from now and let her tell me how it’s going. But, again thanks, in my head I was thinking this is the end, but I think you are right to warn me it could take many weeks. ❤️

whitta1015 · February 2022

@magnolia209 Had you on my mind today. So sorry you are dealing with this. I know there's nothing anyone can really say to help, but please just know you have a big group of internet strangers supporting you if you feel like you need to talk!

magnolia209 · February 2022

@whitta1015 Oh thank you! I really appreciate you all. I do keep checking back here and might lurk a bit. It’s so good to see you all doing ok. ❤️

It totally sucks, I’m not going to lie. But, I’m doing okay. Just waiting and more waiting. I’m trying to take it easy and just focus on my family and wait for this to either happen or for a D&C next week.

pfirestarter · February 2022

So sorry to hear your news @magnolia209. My heart goes out to you. I had a missed miscarriage this spring. Tried all summer and got pregnant in December. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that another pregnancy comes when you are ready for it, and that your baby and you are healthy anf thriving.

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