Mental Health

Katek819 · January 2022

How is everyone doing mentally ? The pandemic, new year, new baby. It's a lot. I am a big advocate for mental health, with my son I had bad pre and post party depression and anxiety. I just want everyone the have a safe space to talk.

For me right now my concern is trying to handle to not feeling good while also taking care of my son. I'm afraid failing him.

and_peggy · January 2022

Weekly check in is a great place for this.

ced45 · January 2022

Overwhelmed... anxious... SO guilty that im a useless potato right now and my husband is doing absolutely everything around the house and to help me. Even stuff that i know he despises doing but he's not complaining at all. This is totally not meant to be a humble brag about him, im legit just weirdly anxious and stressed and feeling so guilty and worried that Im not pulling my weight. Which logically i know is not true but i just cant shake the feeling

@Katek819 this is my first so even just thinking about doing this with another kiddo around seems impossible. Major kudos to you.

Katek819 · January 2022

Oh yea the guilt starts early. My hubby has been doing the same and i remember hating feeling like this with my son. Especially since I’m a stay at home mom. Luckily he has been on Christmas break and today and tomorrow are snow days so i get him a couple extra days before he goes back.

leahrnmom · January 2022

Thanks for starting this. I think it's a nice idea to have a mental health check in.

I'm doing ok depending on the day. I feel a bit like I'm failing my two kiddos with how tired I am and nauseous. We haven't told them yet but once they know I will feel slightly better. My daughter gets really worried about me when I'm throwing up.

wisewitch222 · January 2022

I'm trying to get back into a daily meditation habit. I had an okay one before winter break but between the nausea and having everyone home it sort of stopped.

maggiemadeit · January 2022

@wisewitch222 I started a meditation practice in the middle of 2020 when I thought I was going to lose my mind being home with the whole family and trying to hold down my full time job without daycare. It’s helped my anxiety and sleep so much. Do you have a favorite app, or do you meditate on your own?

wisewitch222 · January 2022

@maggiemadeit I used Calm for a little in 2018 when I was first learning how to meditate, and then after I got the gist I switched to a free meditation timer app. The kind of ethereal background music on those apps helps me keep focused.

starkette · January 2022

I'm definitely feeling overwhelmed thanks to a friend who likes to vent via text about everything that's wrong in the world. They have ADHD and autism and have a tendency to fixate and over explain things. I feel selfish saying "I don't have the mental capacity to take any more of this, it's really depressing and scary and I can't spend all my energy on this." But I finally had to say it and they tried to push me to participate in one of their calls to action but I just...can't even concentrate enough to read them.

Like, I have two kids, one who is special needs and has many things during the week that demand my attention and energy. I work from home part-time and try to do *some* self-care. I can't fixate on the problems of the world when I can barely keep up with the problems in my own life.

Ugh.

m_liane · January 2022

Thank you for posting this. I feel similar - there’s just a lot and trying to navigate the pandemic while pregnant, having a toddler at home and teaching full time is like mental gymnastics. Sigh. I like the suggestions here about using meditation. I may give it a try! Sending my best to anyone who is struggling with their mental health at the moment.

Katek819 · January 2022

@starkette I completely understand. the world is bringing on a lot right now. Delaware is getting really bad with covid. indoor mask mandate back on, no support person at the ultrasound (terrified to be alone if we miscarry again) father in law, neighbor and sister all have covid right now. The main hospital in the state just put out a emergency plan or something to their employees saying all this scary stuff about staffing. My friend has worked there 20 years and has never seen it happen before so yea this blows!

anniemarie887 · January 2022

@Katek819 Marylander here, but my parents retired to the DE beach. My mom was just updating me on it. A good friend from high school used to be an ICU nurse at Beebe in Lewes but left mid last year. I don’t know how the healthcare workers are hanging in there.

malloryfrommn · January 2022

Add me to the 'Mom Guilt' club for being completely useless due to 1st trimester symptoms. We are completely relying on TV to keep DS entertained. I feel SO bad, but I can't leave the couch. I just keep telling myself the nausea will pass, and things will return to normal.

mdfarmchick · January 2022

@malloryfrommn girl. Same. I am just so tired and nauseous. But I know second trimester is coming and it is so much better if I can just make it until then.

Katek819 · January 2022

Today i forced myself outside bc my sons BBF finally got over covid. She wasn’t actually sick just positive so naturally it’s been 2 weeks since we’ve seen them plus it’s been so gloomy out but today thier was sun. It felt good to get out I was tired but we did 1 lap around the pond in our neighborhood while the kids drove their power wheels. The most exercise I’ve had in weeks and i am tired. But it’s a tired from doing stuff not just tired from doing nothing, so that feels good.

I’m finally starting to appreciate the power of the sun on my depression

starkette · February 2022

Entering the second trimester on Sunday and I'm feeling some anxiety. I had my last baby during the second trimester...all I want is to make it to the third trimester this time. I'm doing everything I can to prevent another premature birth- taking baby aspirin daily, taking extra vitamin d, eating healthy foods that promote blood production and watching my sodium and caffeine intake. But there's only so much I can do...all of these things are just theoretically helpful. Even the aspirin only lowers my chances of pre-e by 15%.

I just want to make it to the end this time. Maybe I need to start meditating or doing yoga to calm myself. I do positive affirmations which help, saying things like "my body is capable and strong" and "this will be a healthy and full-term pregnancy". Sigh...I'm going to be questioning every symptom and headache.

buffythevampireslayer · February 2022

@starkette just sending love your way. I have faith that you will make it. We will be here cheering you on each week. You are doing everything you possibly can, you are already such a good mama to this little baby!

mdfarmchick · February 2022

@starkette hugs. I vote for anything to help keep you calm and focused. TW: loss

It’s not the same at all, but I had back to back losses before successfully carrying #3 and the whole pregnancy I was waiting for something to go wrong. There is nothing I can do to stop the unexplained losses that we had—there was nothing wrong with my 11 week loss. No explanation. The only “answer” is in genetic testing done on me—that I am prone to blood clots and that those cause problems with the placenta. I have special meds to take, need aspirin daily and also am on heparin shots. My MFM has told me the same thing for the last pregnancy and this one: Right now you have a healthy baby. Do not allow anymore negative thoughts to take root. We are going to have a baby in August. Because until something changes, that is the outcome. I don’t know why his speech is so reassuring to me but every time the worries and the anxiety starts building up in my head, I just remember his words and it helps. Maybe that will help you too. ♥️ Either way, I’m here to listen whenever you need to talk about it.

bridgiebee82 · February 2022

@starkette I can't even imagine the feeling. We are here to go through this journey with you. Anything to keep you calm has my vote, too. Sending hugs.

starkette · February 2022

@buffythevampireslayer and @bridgiebee82 thank you so much

that's just the type of support and reassurance I needed.

@mdfarmchick that really does help actually, those type of thoughts keep me grounded.

stephanie309 · February 2022

Omg I'm a mess! I had a Mc in September. It changed my whole life. My first pregnancy was a breeze I never worried or questioned anything.

This one... every day is a struggle for me mentally. I'm almost 12 weeks (tuesday) so I'm feeling so much better. Tired still but the morning sickness is all but gone. Tbh I miss it! It told me everything was okay. I've heard the heartbeat bc I freaked out after my covid vaccine so my wonderful nurse made time for me. It was strong, but I couldn't find it at home with my dopler. I know that's normal (it was 10ish weeks), but still sent Me into a tail spin. My nurse calmed me down a bit. Now that I'm feeling better there's little to no reassurance everything's going okay.

I have my next appointment Monday and I'm praying to literally every God and goddess ever created that I hear that heartbeat!

Thanks for letting me vent! ❤

bridgiebee82 · February 2022

@stephanie309 I'm so sorry for your loss. This rainbow baby will hopefully bring you and your family so much joy. You're in my prayers. I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well. Please keep us updated. We do have an amazingly supportive group of ladies in our PGAL threads. I'm glad your nurse was able to help you feel better. 💜 sending you love

and_peggy · February 2022

@starkette sending you love today. Due date twinsies 💙💞 you are a warrior.

Katek819 · February 2022

@stephanie309
I'm sorry for your loss. I am also pregnant with my rainbow baby. I'm 11.5 weeks. hopefully the worries will subside with every time you hear your baby's heartbeat.

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