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March 2022 Moms
knottie5f868c3b632eb3a1
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Baby Shower Thread
knottie5f868c3b632eb3a1
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First off, I’d like to say that I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or mean, but I need to vent my frustrations and I think this might be the only place I do just that, hopefully without judgement.
I come from a very uninvolved immediate family, so I knew early in my pregnancy that my mom planning a baby shower for me was not going to happen. So, I started trying to plan my own early on in my pregnancy even though I’m not crazy about parties for myself—I didn’t want to lose out on another lifetime opportunity that most people seem to get.
As I entered my 6th month of pregnancy, my cousin decided she would take over planning and coordinating the baby shower—my only big stipulation to her was that I didn’t want to be surprised on the day. I wanted to be prepared for a gathering and look/feel my best. I had also mentioned to her that I was looking at two weekends for my shower, early in my third trimester. Fast forward to today (8 months pregnant/33 weeks), she tells me that she’s not going to tell me the date of the baby shower until the night before since she doesn’t want me to stress out—talk about more stress, how do I plan my remaining weekends accordingly? Well, I was able to find out that the baby shower is scheduled 2 weeks before my scheduled c-section; just 2 weeks! And I’m freaking out a little.
I am already so exhausted and miserable that I can’t imagine having a baby shower that close to when I deliver. My husband works M-F and it’s nearly impossible for him to get things done and put together during the week…leaving barely 2 weekends to get organized after the shower. Plus, to top the whole thing off, I feel like they only chose that date because there is also a bingo that day that most of the family is going to—so it’s convenient for them. I think this part bothers me the most since it seems like they’re more worried about what’s convenient for them and not the person who the party is suppose to be for. I can see it now, let’s rush through gifts, etc., so we can get to bingo.
Again, I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but this already hasn’t been the easiest pregnancy and I hate feeling a lack of control over the situation. I thought that the ideal date for a baby shower is 1-2 months prior to your due date—not 2 weeks. Am I crazy? Should I just suck it up and be happy I’m getting one at all?
I come from a very uninvolved immediate family, so I knew early in my pregnancy that my mom planning a baby shower for me was not going to happen. So, I started trying to plan my own early on in my pregnancy even though I’m not crazy about parties for myself—I didn’t want to lose out on another lifetime opportunity that most people seem to get.
As I entered my 6th month of pregnancy, my cousin decided she would take over planning and coordinating the baby shower—my only big stipulation to her was that I didn’t want to be surprised on the day. I wanted to be prepared for a gathering and look/feel my best. I had also mentioned to her that I was looking at two weekends for my shower, early in my third trimester. Fast forward to today (8 months pregnant/33 weeks), she tells me that she’s not going to tell me the date of the baby shower until the night before since she doesn’t want me to stress out—talk about more stress, how do I plan my remaining weekends accordingly? Well, I was able to find out that the baby shower is scheduled 2 weeks before my scheduled c-section; just 2 weeks! And I’m freaking out a little.
I am already so exhausted and miserable that I can’t imagine having a baby shower that close to when I deliver. My husband works M-F and it’s nearly impossible for him to get things done and put together during the week…leaving barely 2 weekends to get organized after the shower. Plus, to top the whole thing off, I feel like they only chose that date because there is also a bingo that day that most of the family is going to—so it’s convenient for them. I think this part bothers me the most since it seems like they’re more worried about what’s convenient for them and not the person who the party is suppose to be for. I can see it now, let’s rush through gifts, etc., so we can get to bingo.
Again, I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but this already hasn’t been the easiest pregnancy and I hate feeling a lack of control over the situation. I thought that the ideal date for a baby shower is 1-2 months prior to your due date—not 2 weeks. Am I crazy? Should I just suck it up and be happy I’m getting one at all?
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