How is everyone feeling? What has you stressed? What are you doing to take care of yourself and your mental health?
Hubby and Me
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Re: February Mental Health Thread
if you are struggling, i highly recommend working with a therapist.
My only current big difficulty is that i have a client who is due with a baby this spring the same week i was due with a baby we lost and i'm really dreading it. I know she has been through her own pregnancy losses too and during my MMC time, i was just so hoping that she didn't have another loss because I know that would have been tough
We suffered a loss at 17 weeks last year, and I have become increasingly anxious and worried as I approach the 17-week mark in this pregnancy. I try to stay calm and enjoy things as much as I can, but it's tough. I did have a scan today (15 weeks) to take some measurements because of that loss. I got to see our baby moving around, and that's helped relieve some anxiety that I think has been building. But it's tough. I want to get excited but I also don't want to get too excited. I think the weather is also toying with my depression so I'm trying to remember that spring will be here in a few months and things will start looking up.
@runnergirl2018 - That sounds so tough, I'm so sorry. I worked closely with two ladies who were due the same week as I was last year, and watching them grow after I had my loss was very challenging.
@ab8020 I'm sorry to hear about your falling out. I know how tough it can be navigating this without a village. I think it's a great idea to reach out to other ladies in the area and start those relationships now. It's invaluable to have that support, if you can.
@twentythree19 and @knottie - I hope your doctors are able to help.
@knottie I hope she can help! I finally gave in after a lifetime of trying to deal more or less on my own and got medication in 2020. It's been an absolute game changer. I didn't even realize how bad things were until they weren't bad anymore
@twentythree19 I feel that. I know some days I'm just "off" and I try really hard not to say anything at all on those days at this point.
@ab8020 I'm so sorry you lost your friends. I am a few friends kind of person, and with how much we have moved as adults, I haven't been able to maintain any friendships. I finally found another mama who I really clicked with right before Covid. We got really close for about a year, but then she disappeared from my life shortly after I got pregnant. I wonder if it had anything to do with me being pregnant. **TW** She has suffered a loss herself. **end TW** It's made me feel really isolated and lonely. I honestly don't even want to try and make more friends right now because I'm not ready to be hurt again. I wish I knew why she fell off the face of the earth, but she just.... stopped talking to me. I'm so sorry you are also going through this. It's so hard.
@lindzsers When we lived in places that got winter, I always suffered with seasonal affect. Have you tried taking some vitamin D? D deficiency is a huge cause of winter blues.
So mini background on me: I am a csa survivor and have had anxiety since I was a young kid. I remember my first panic attack when I was 8. I'm sure I've probably had anxiety all my life. I finally had people around me who helped me realize that my life wasn't normal when I was 16, and I've spent the last decade+ trying to be a better person. Medication has made a huge difference for me since I started it in 2020. Pregnancy is always a rocky time. My hormones go nuts. I have suffered from PPD and PPA after both pregnancies. I am trying to be more stable this time and hoping being medicated makes that difference.
Right now, I'm not doing great. My anxiety has been really bad. One of the things I get is hypochondria and I keep talking myself into illnesses and problems I don't have. My normal pregnancy symptoms are making me freak out and that's exasperating the symptoms and it's all just a big feedback loop of stress right now. Working on trying to get it back under control.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I've spent all day on the couch, in my emotions with a massive headache.
I start fertility treatment on Monday. Crossing my fingers science will help me.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)