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Mental Health Check In

tuxielove93tuxielove93 member
in July 2022 Moms
We had one of these in my previous bump groups, and I always found it super helpful. But each group ran it differently, so I thought I would see what everyone was most interested in before I started one for real. 

In one group, we had a monthly thread where anyone could just pop in when they were struggling or had questions. In the other, we did a weekly check in. It was like the regular weekly check in with questions, but it was all focused on mental health. Questions like: How are you feeling mentally? What are you doing to take care of yourself/your mental health this week? Is there anything stressing you out? What is making you happy? 

What does everyone think? 
Hubby and Me
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
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Re: Mental Health Check In

  • zinnia19zinnia19 member
    @tuxielove93 great idea! I think a monthly one would be fine (seems easier to keep track of, at least for me), but I am down for whatever. 
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  • inthewoods23inthewoods23 member
    Sounds great!
    *TW* History:
    Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016

    TTC #1 since 7.2017
    Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies

    IUI #1-3 | all BFN
    IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
    FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
    RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
    FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
    2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
    Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
    TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20

    Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
    Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
    Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
    Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
    BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 B) | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
    DS born 7.19.22 after induction


    TTC #2 begins 6.2023
    Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
    Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
    Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
    Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
    Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
    Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
    Repeat labs in 8 weeks
    Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
    TTC put on pause indefinitely
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  • inthewoods23inthewoods23 member
    These were the prompts we had for the mental health thread on the TTGP board that was created monthly. Not sure what format BMBs have used.

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    Mental Health Diagnosis (if you have been) or What brings you to this thread today?:

    Status (WTO/TWW/Benched/TTA): ((obviously we would omit this one))

    Where are you in your mental health journey? (in treatment, looking for support, on meds, in counseling, having a rough day, etc.)

    How are you feeling?

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    Another possible idea (if you listen to the Office Ladies podcast you might have heard of this) is to have a question like "how heavy is your backpack today?". That may work better for a weekly thread than a monthly one though. And I do love the idea of adding in what's making you happy or something positive that is going on to balance out the heavy stuff.

    *TW* History:
    Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016

    TTC #1 since 7.2017
    Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies

    IUI #1-3 | all BFN
    IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
    FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
    RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
    FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
    2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
    Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
    TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20

    Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
    Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
    Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
    Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
    BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 B) | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
    DS born 7.19.22 after induction


    TTC #2 begins 6.2023
    Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
    Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
    Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
    Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
    Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
    Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
    Repeat labs in 8 weeks
    Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
    TTC put on pause indefinitely
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  • jellie603jellie603 member
    I love this and was hoping we would start one! I'll go off the basic prompts listed above but feel free to add/change so it evolves. 

    I'll kick us off because I was fairly open about what I was going through once I found my way back here.

    Mental Health Diagnosis (if you have been) or What brings you to this thread today?:

    Generalized anxiety, anxiety that presents as anger, depression, mild OCD. What brings me to this thread could fill a book, so I will try to keep it short. At 8 weeks when I went in for my first US I was getting small cold feet as it was. Just starting to realize that we were starting over (we have an almost 5yo) and just mourning our great routine and great sleep and ability to drop him with grandma if needed. The I find out it is twins and I start spiraling. Already mourning our current life, but now mourning the life we imagined when we were planning for only 2. Selfishly hating what this will do to my body. Knowing that I am already struggling mentally and having it effecting my parenting of my current child. A lot of feelings, worries, emotions. I couldn't get off of the couch for a few days. I told my husband I couldn't talk about it until my next appointment in 3 weeks. 

    We have been through a lot in 5 years and I feel like we haven't just been able to "be". And the thought of that ever being a thing now is so far gone in my mind. 


    Where are you in your mental health journey? (in treatment, looking for support, on meds, in counseling, having a rough day, etc.)

    I was already seeing a therapist weekly. OB added Zoloft but I didn't take it last week. I started for a couple of days and it knocked me on my ass and I couldn't do it while traveling. 

    How are you feeling? How heavy is your backpack today?

    My backpack is a huge one and it has been full to the brim. Over the last week or so, it has been feeling a few percentages lighter. I have definitely accepted what is to come and that has helped a lot. I am feeling a bit better now that my Type A planning has taken over. 

    What is making you happy, however big or small?

    My quick work trip time away made me happy. Sometimes, honestly, you need a king-sized hotel bed with no one calling your name. And gourmet donuts and coffee on the company dime haha!
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