Weekly Randoms 1/10

bearsandbeets7 · January 2022

Any and all random thoughts go here!

*Insert funny GIF here*

let’s have a good week!

inthewoods23 · January 2022

Does anyone know if it's possible to watch Prime Video shows from the computer? I either go to bed earlier than DH or fall asleep while we're watching Mr. Robot so he's often a half a season ahead of me because he'll just keep watching them.

I'm WFH for the next 2 weeks so if I can get caught up while doing work that would be super helpful.

sjb2215 · January 2022

@inthewoods23 it looks like on my computer if you hit the 3 lines "all" column on the left side it can take you to prime video. Not sure if it needs to be added to a watchlist or not.

My random is that I'm so over this cold. I walk between the middle and high school during my day today and it was 3 degrees, but with wind-chill -13. Yuck.

zwink1 · January 2022

@inthewoods23, yes, you can! I do it all the time when WFH (or taking a bubble bath).

inthewoods23 · January 2022

@sjb2215 This cold blows!! I just went out to grab our mail and decided I better put actual winter boots on instead of walking out in my slippers. I think we have a day in the upper 20s or 30s later this week and I'm like thank god I can finally go get my car washed! Been meaning to do that for at least a week.

zinnia19 · January 2022

@inthewoods23 I love a car wash! Especially in the winter when there is so much salt on the roads and my car gets coated. It's so satisfying to have a sparkling clean car. Even if it only lasts a few days. 😆

bearsandbeets7 · January 2022

@sjb2215 @inthewoods23 I will never complain about it being cold here again(who am I kidding yes I will). We are having a cold snap with lows in the 20s and highs in the 40s and that is colllllld for us lol

My random for the day is we finally managed to get moved, unpacked the important parts of the house and I finally feel like I can breathe. My brain is the type to obsess over something I have coming up, especially if it’s a big thing, so I can’t focus on anything else until it’s done. I feel so at peace and we actually have a backyard, we’ve lived in apartments for 5 years now I almost forgot what it was like to have a house lol.

melanier26 · January 2022

@bearsandbeets7 I forgot you just moved too! We are still living in chaos over here lol. Today is the first day I have energy (recovering from covid) so hopefully I’ll be able to start getting things in order

tuxielove93 · January 2022

I was just reading that at 15 weeks, the uterus should be four to five inches below the navel. I measured and I don’t even have five inches below my belly button 🤣 I feel better about how big my bump is now. I was starting to feel weird about it

sunshineandlemons · January 2022

@bearsandbeets7 glad you got moved in!

@melanier26 glad you’re starting to feel better!

@tuxielove93 that seems so low for 15 weeks, especially considering how big the baby is according to all the bump updates! I would have been surprised by that info too. I’m like you, I don’t know that I would have 5 inches!

bearsandbeets7 · January 2022

@melanier26 I loathe the living in chaos waiting to move. I hope it goes smoothly for you!

AnonnAni · January 2022

Forgot how great it is to feel baby flutters, missed this and didn't even realize

stardustskies · January 2022

I'm jealous of the NT ultrasounds I'm seeing posted. I called my doctor's office on Monday to ask to schedule a NT ultrasound and the nurse told me since I got the NIPT that I don't need one. My NIPT results came back clear so it would be redundant. Now I'm sad I don't get to see baby until 20 weeks. I see the doctor on Thursday and I'm gonna see if I can talk her into a growth scan just for peace of mind.

melanier26 · January 2022

@tuxielove93 This is my body’s 4th time doing this so it knows what is happening. My uterus definitely moved up out of my pelvis much earlier than TB said it would. I’m 12 weeks and it’s probably 4 inches below my belly button

inthewoods23 · January 2022

@stardustskies I wanna say if you had done the NT scan first they'd maybe entertain the NIPT if the NT scan results were indicating a problem since the blood test (I'm assuming) is more accurate. I had the luxury of weekly growth scans for the reproductive immunologist I was seeing for up to 12 weeks and now that it's been a few weeks I'm bumming over here that my frame has a 2 week old photo lol. But I really shouldn't complain about that!

LJMoon6 · January 2022

@stardustskies I’m sorry your doctor wont let you do the NT scan. They really should be allowed to everyone, even if you’re getting the NIPT too. I luckily found an OB that was happy to do both (I had a fight with my first OB who initially refused it and turned very condescending). My new OB agrees that they are both beneficial in different ways. But she did make the comment that she has to fight with the ultrasound techs more and more these days. If it’s something you really want then I would push for it. But if you would be happy with just a growth scan then maybe that could be a good compromise.

bolson16 · January 2022

I’m struggling to love my body and this process right now and would love some advice. I’m 12.5 weeks and I can’t tell if I’m bloated, just gained weight in my stomach, or am starting to show. First time mom here! My stomach isn’t hard like they say, but it’s really messing with my mind and making me super uncomfortable. I know I deff get more bloated in late afternoon/evening but everyone is telling me you don’t start showing until 18/20 weeks as a first timer and I’m all in my head right now.

Any advice on how to love your body would be much appreciated because I’m in a very weird in between of my mind and old behaviors telling me I need to lose weight now and I’ve done something wrong

creativesoul63 · January 2022

@bolson16 I definitely remember it being a really awkward stage from 12 - 17 weeks when I had a bump, but I felt like to everyone else it just looked like a tummy. I felt better if I just wore looser fitting clothing but once I had a legitimate bump I definitely started with the tighter fitting maternity clothes to show it off! So I guess what I’m saying is even if you need to buy a few new things, wear clothing right now that makes you feel comfortable and confident, whether it’s maternity or regular clothes or a mix of both!

sunshineandlemons · January 2022

@bolson16 I agree with starting to wear maternity clothes. I feel like (at least the above belly pants) they help to shape your bump and your regular clothes can make you look like you’ve just put some weight on. Plus, with the change in your bloat from morning to night, I think you’ll be more comfortable too. Hang in there! When I feel blah sometimes, I try to think about the amazing things my body is doing to help create this little person and the amazing things it will do afterwards. Sometimes it’s easier than others but it does help. ❤️

melanier26 · January 2022

@bolson16 You’ve already gotten some great advice about clothes. I’d also recommend watching some of the videos that show recreations of a baby growing in utero. Our bodies are doing amazing things right now!

stardustskies · January 2022

@bolson16 I'm only 12 weeks and have definitely put on some weight. I understand why you're feeling the way you are but as everyone else said, you're growing a baby! Your body will change, but that's ok!

inthewoods23 · January 2022

@bolson16 I remember well before getting pregnant I thought I would hate this weird "is it a bump or bloat" period. I actually thought I wouldn't really show until much later due to having a tilted uterus but sometime around 12 weeks I was noticing some roundedness in the belly area (plus an ultrasound indicated it was no longer tilted at that point so baby was more forward). This baby is over 4 years in the making so any resemblance of a bump fills me with so much joy because that's the baby we've worked so hard for starting to make an appearance! I don't think my stomach is very firm either but I do have a bit of fat in the region providing some cushion.

Like everyone else has said, your body is doing something amazing right now and that's worth celebrating!

LJMoon6 · January 2022

@bolson16 I’m having some body image issues right now too. I’m only just 12w tomorrow so I know I shouldn’t be showing already, and yet I look like I’m 6 months pregnant and feel really fat. Even my flowy pregnancy shirts from last time are tight already. It doesn’t help that I started this pregnancy off being 20lbs heavier than I was last time. I’m sure that has a lot to do with it. I’m just hoping I “pop” sooner rather than later so that I can embrace the bump. It’ll help once we start telling everyone too. Trying to hide it is not helping.

zinnia19 · January 2022

@bolson16 I'm 13 weeks and definitely showing! Especially in a t-shirt. In a thick sweater it just looks like I put on weight. But I feel more comfortable since last week, when I told my coworkers. So now I don't have to think about them wondering. Though i don't think people actually look at others that closely!! I am excited for when the bump is bigger and its more obvious!

tuxielove93 · January 2022

@bolson16 I definitely struggled a lot with my first baby. I didn't have a great relationship with myself/my body at the time, and it brought up a lot of old things that I thought I had already worked through.

First of all, I don't care if it's bloating or extra fat or actual uterus.... that is a bump. YOU did not do anything "bad" to cause your body to change. It's changing to make room for and support a whole brand new human that you are building from scratch. It is only changing because you are pregnant. Therefore, it is a baby bump and no one should be giving you any kind of crap about it.

Second, it always helped me to know what the added weight that I was gaining was. Here is a basic breakdown of those 30 pounds at the end of the pregnancy:

1.5 pounds: the placenta

7 pounds: maternal stores of fat, protein, and other nutrients

7.5 pounds: your average full-term baby

2 pounds: breast tissue (we know it feels like so much more!)

4 pounds: increased fluid volume

4 pounds: increased blood volume

2 pounds: the uterus

2 pounds: amniotic fluid

Total = 30 pounds

Of course, that's just an average. Some women need more, some women need less. But it's all being "gained" in the service of making a new human.

Third: Even those fat stores you are gaining are SO SO SO important. One of the reasons you gain (and hold on to) extra weight in pregnancy is to make sure your baby always gets the breastmilk they need (I'm of course referring to a world in which we didn't have formula here) I got the unfortunate privilege of watching this in action when my 2 year old got really sick this year. He got a stomach bug and was vomiting for 5 days. I was not sick, but I was completely consumed in trying to take care of him, and I was not eating the way I should have been. The only thing he could drink or eat at all was breastmilk. I am sure I saved him from being in the hospital on an IV. He never even got dehydrated, and that is all because my body was able to provide for him. But, I lost 8 pounds in those five days. I gained it back in about two weeks after that. I now very lovingly refer to my extra belly/leg fat as my baby emergency pack. And I wouldn't change that for the world. My babies and my body need me to have that extra fat so I can make them milk no matter what. It is not 8 pounds of bad decisions. It is 8 (or 10 or 12 or whatever your personal number ends up being) of emergency storage.

Fourth: It doesn't work for everyone, but giving birth and gaining the knowledge of the incredible things my body can do changed everything for me. I love my body. I love what it can do. I am not trying to be the "perfect" model. I don't need to look a certain way to know how valuable I am. I just need to look at the two entire living breathing perfect little humans that I MADE. I made those babies. I built them and supported them and gave them life. I love my stretch marks because they are a tattoo of what I went through to make a whole new person. Twice. I love my extra fat and my wider hips and every way my body has changed because the ONLY way that these two perfect little creatures ended up here is because my body housed them and brought them here. And I am proud of what had to change to make that happen. And I am incredibly empowered knowing that I can create a whole new life and give birth and that I did that. Me and only me. I am infinitely more valuable for the things my body has done than I ever was when I "looked" more perfect. It didn't sink in until I had given birth and held my first baby in my arms. But every single day my love and confidence in my body grows as I watch the little ones I created run and play and love and do all the amazing little things they do. Because me and my body made that happen, and the added fat and stretch marks and changing shape were all necessary so that they could be here.

And that's the only way I think about it now. It isn't about me "looking" a way I don't want to. The way I look now is a testament to what I did to bring these perfect little people I love so much to life, and what my body is currently doing to bring a third little one into our family. I'm a mama. I wouldn't change that to "look" perfect. Looks fade, but family is forever.

cmhme · January 2022

@tuxielove93 You just made me cry!!

Well said, thank you!

bolson16 · January 2022

@tuxielove93 and everyone who took the time to respond, THANK YOU! I’m literally crying right now, y’all are the best.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! This is SO helpful and means so much ❤️

LJMoon6 · January 2022

We just found out that MH's cousin is pregnant (which I suspected) and is due the week before us! I'm so excited!

melanier26 · January 2022

We’ve been craving bbq potato chips all day so when DH offered to pick up dinner on his way home I ordered from a local sub shop with chips as my side. AND THEY FORGOT THEM. I cried. Luckily they had awesome pickles with their subs that almost made up for it but damn I want those chips.

I accidentally typed “we’ve been craving…” but I figured it was appropriate and left it 🙃

twentythree19 · January 2022

@melanier26 the “we’ve” made me chuckle. Whenever I had weird cravings with the last 2 kids I’d just tell DH “hey, I’m just doing what the parasite demands!” Lol

sunshineandlemons · January 2022

Not sure if anyone else felt this way or if it was just me…

rosegoldg · January 2022

@sunshineandlemons immediately sent my husband a screenshot and told him we had a good run

stardustskies · January 2022

My FIL's wife just said I'm already starting to look pregnant, and aren't I still early? I'm gonna have an athlete. 😭 #12w4d

twentythree19 · January 2022

stardustskies said:

My FIL's wife just said I'm already starting to look pregnant, and aren't I still early? I'm gonna have an athlete. 😭 #12w4d

Ughhhh why do people like your FIL’s wife think these kind of comments are ever appropriate?!?! My mom does stuff like this too. 🤦‍♀️

edited for clarity

bolson16 · January 2022

@stardustskies first of all making comments about women’s bodies (prego or not) is highly inappropriate and I’m sorry you had to experience this. I know how painful words can be, my mom has continuously made comments about her “6pack” she had before me and how she didn’t show til week 20 … and how she’s never seen me eat so much bread in her life. (Mind you, all I could keep down over the Christmas holiday at my moms was GF pretzels and a very specific GF toast 🙄).

Anyway, I do my best to take these comments and situations as “it’s their own shit coming to the surface” but it still hurts none the less. I believe @tuxielove93 had some beautiful words about our bodies a little higher up on this thread. Sending love to you, your beautiful body, and baby!!!

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