Wedding before or after baby?

Re: Wedding before or after baby?

• wisewitch222 member

  December 2021

  I've never had to deal with this issue personally, but I have had two full term pregnancies and I would say all other things being equal, wedding after the baby, hands down. You feel a million percent better once the baby is born, even if it's still the newborn phase and you don't sleep much. One of my cousins became engaged after she found out she was pregnant and the planned the wedding for about eight weeks after the baby was born and little man had on a tiny infant white baptism type suit and it was adorable and a beautiful wedding and she had her whole body back. 

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• paytonpedro member

  December 2021

  Hello! There is a great big question thread or the weekly Randoms where this question would fit right in! Just to keep the board clutter free. 🙂
  But since I’m here, I haven’t been in this situation but I have had family in this situation and they chose to get married before baby came. My family is also very conservative and Christian so the view was still “married before children”, technically. I think if I was in that situation, I would at least get legally married before baby came- if that’s the plan eventually anyways- because in the hospital it’s 100x easier with paperwork, to be married. You would also have your husband there to make medical decisions on your behalf should the need arise, instead of having to locate your parents or next of kin. You could always have a big ceremony and reception after baby to celebrate when you can partake in the festivities!

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• chellelin-34 member

  January 2022 edited January 2022

  @paytonpedro no disrespect, but conversations get way easier lost in those threads. There’s 197 questions and comments in the symptoms thread alone. You have to go through a lot to see questions and answers. 

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• starkette member

  January 2022

  I don't have personal experience in this but @paytonpedro's idea is super good! Getting married civilly before baby comes and then planning a BIG event for a few months afterwards. That would make everyone happy!

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• darkrose88 member

  January 2022 edited January 2022

  My parent's planned and had a small wedding in about 4 months (my dad proposed to my mom when she found out she was pregnant with me lol). Their anniversary is in April, I was born in August. They pulled it off but my mom had a lot of help and they kept it small. If you want a big wedding, I'd say go with @paytonpedro's idea. If you don't mind having a small wedding of 20-30 people, and you'd have help, go for it. But if you aren't going to have help, I think it would be too much to plan a wedding right now. I planned my own wedding with very little help for 100 people and it was exhausting. I wouldn't do it while pregnant. 

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• onlygooddays08 member

  January 2022

  Thanks for the thoughts, everyone! I think we're leaning towards a small ceremony before baby 😁 I don't care much about a big wedding, so this may work out just fine!

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• maggiemadeit member

  January 2022

  @onlygooddays08 We had a tiny wedding, just 10 people, and it was perfect. I wouldn’t have changed it for anything. Small can be really nice and special too! 

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• lovey122 member

  January 2022 edited January 2022

  @onlygooddays08 we are in a similar boat. We looked at a venue and tentatively booked it for October 2022 before we were engaged, although knew we were going down this path. We were officially engaged on December 27 and I found out we were pregnant December 29. I had always wanted the wedding before the baby because I wanted to enjoy the party and have a no children wedding. For that reason I think we are going to wait until next year. But interesting to see @wisewitch222 response; eight weeks would be about the same for us and makes me wonder if taking on planning a wedding, baby, work, life and recovery are possible. 🤔 It would be a lot and doesn't leave much room for anything to go not according to plan. If we were just doing a ceremony, a little bump would be nice. Look forward to hearing what you decide! Congratulations.

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