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History
I am doing this on my own. Left ovary and fallopian tube removed due to cyst/necrosis just after birth. Right ovary and tube still purport to function.
Began TTC in Aug '18 @ age 35
5 or 6 (or 7?!) cycles using frozen donor sperm, ICI. All BFN
Mar-Jun '19 IUIs, all BFN
Began process of referral for RE in spring of '19, blood tests confirm low AMH (.54) but all else is good.
May '19 HSG shows open tube, but ultrasound suggests fibroids
MRI in June '19 confirms two large fibroids, one growing through wall of uterus
In June '19 I move from California to Oregon, disrupting my insurance, referrals, etc. 5 months spent piecing it all back together.
Nov. '19 attempted myomectomy (vaginal approach) failed. 2nd surgery using laparoscopic method in Jan '20 is successful.
April '20 --> June '20, natural IUIs, all BFN.
July? saline ultrasound and bubble test demonstrate open tube
July '20 clomid cycle cancelled for thin lining
Aug-Oct, 3 femara cycles, all BFN
RE referral. While waiting to set up an appointment Nov-Jan,I continue with natural cycles and ICI, using a known donor, BFN...
Jan '21 more bloodwork, AMH is worse (.30), FSH high albeit not catastrophic at 13.2. hysteroscopy all good. "looks cozy!" says the RE.
Feb '21, injectables (menopur, novarel), iui, BFN (doc said the frozen donor sperm sample had the "best numbers she'd ever seen!")
Mar '21, injectables, iui cancelled due to lack of follicles, converted to at home-insem. BFN
May '21, first IVF round cancelled due to cyst.
July '21 IVF: standard antagonist. 225menupur/225gonal-f/cetrotide/5000u trigger, AFC 7; 6 days of stims. 8 eggs retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilize, 4 made it to blast. 3 are 4AB, 1 is 4BB. PGT-A results all abnormal. Oct '21 somewhat improved AMH (.51) and significantly improved FSH (8.9). Maybe it's all the pills I swallow. Dec -21, standard antagonist. 225menupur/225gonal-f/cetrotide/5000u trigger, AFC 5; 11 days of stims. retrieval yields 5, 4M, 2 reach day-6 blast (4AB & 4BB). 1 low-level mosaic (chr. 3 deletion), 1 complex abnormal. Feb '22 FET (low-level mosaic): CP. May '22 egg retrieval, lupron flare protocol. HGH priming for 1 month before stims; md lupron 20/20u daily; menopur 225, follistim 225, 10k trigger after 8 days of stims; AFC 10; 13 retrieved; 10 mature; 8 fertilized. All frozen at 2PN for later thaw, grow, and biopsy. July '22 egg retrieval same protocol: 9 days of stims; AFC 8; 10 retrieved, 8 mature, 4 fertilized and frozen. Sept '22 ER same protocol: AFC 10; 12 retrieved, 11 mature, 11 fertilized. From the 3 retrievals, 7 survived to day 5-6 blastocyst, from which I have 2 normal embryos! Jan 20, Fully medicated FET, baby aspirin, dexamethasone, acupuncture, and as much woo as I can stand (which isn't very much). BFN. July 23, Natural FET + baby aspirin. BFN.
R/R: still feeling vulnerable after my boxing day infertility share out and one of my friend's gauche responses. I talked to my psychotherapist yesterday (I somehow managed to find one that specializes both in infertility and family estrangement... two things I'm dealing with atm) about it and she basically said that it might be time to cull that friendship. That resonated with me; I think we don't have much in common any more. The only reason we've stayed friends is that we've been friends for so long. But I just don't feel like I can be my true self around her.
Anywhooooo. Today we're headed over to in-laws for self-hosted wine tasting (we brought some wines from CA with us from when we took my BIL and SIL to Napa/Sonoma 2 weeks ago). We're also celebrating BIL's upcoming 40th, and FIL's belated (2 years I think?) 70's. Should be a nice time!
@acleverusername I'm sorry that you're still dealing with the fallout of your friend being hurtful and I'm glad that you have someone to talk to about it. Sending a hug. The wine tasting sounds like a great plan! I definitely miss having cases of wine in the pantry from the CA days. Have a wonderful family celebration!
Month/Cycle: 4/4
CD: 13
WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, etc
R/R: Well, we're all making the best of quarantine. I have a date for a remote game of Trivial Pursuit in an hour since there are so many of us in isolation all over the place. It's like lockdown all over again 😂 Luckily so far we are all pretty healthy given the situation. Also, got a positive OPK today so it looks like O should be today or tomorrow, meaning that Covid & the booster don't seem to have messed with my usual O too much (which is great because we maxed out our timing and I don't think we could last much longer ).
CS/Q: Not today; thanks again for all the replies yesterday!
R/R: We are still recovering from this cold, and it messed with our sexy times on an important date in my fertile window. Blergh. It looks like O is today, so time for me to do four sit-ups and brush my hair.
CS/Q:
@acleverusername It sounds like you got some good advice from your psychotherapist. I’m sorry you’re going through that. But your wine tasting sounds fun! I saw that you live in the SF area. My husband grew up in Atherton/Menlo Park. Not sure if you’ve heard of it. It’s a beautiful area, but sooooooo expensive. We could never afford to live there now.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
R/R: Going out to dinner tonight with my teaching team! I can’t wait! We went out after school the last day before break and decided we needed to do it more often. It’s been a week and a half since I saw them last, so I’m excited to not just be sending snapchats and TikToks to each other 😂😂
When I went through my MC in 2019, I was very public about it. I still talk very openly in person and on SM about it. It has made me realize a lot of true friendships over friendships that had run their course. Hopefully you find peace in releasing those friendships and find some stronger friendships through your journey!
@acleverusername sorry about the friendship, it's always hard to let those go. But it sounds like you have a fun time coming up!
@Paturkey glad you guys are able to enjoy yourselves remotely! It really does feel like the beginning of the pandemic all over again. I'm hoping that it keeps trending toward this common-cold-like thing and away from serious illness, and maybe we can get back to "normal" again soonish.
@elle-0409 sorry you're still feeling icky. I'm glad you were able to get in at least one sex session in time for O, though.
R/R: still feeling blugh. MH was able to get tested this morning after waiting 3 hours in a driveup line. The rest of my family that I saw on Christmas plans to get tested tomorrow, so by the weekend we should know if I spread it at all. Hopefully they're all negative. Other than that, the plan for today is basically quilting and working on my internship application.
Re: WTO Weds. 12/29
Month/Cycle: 23/18/1AL
CD: 10
WAYDTGKU: everything and then some
R/R: still feeling vulnerable after my boxing day infertility share out and one of my friend's gauche responses. I talked to my psychotherapist yesterday (I somehow managed to find one that specializes both in infertility and family estrangement... two things I'm dealing with atm) about it and she basically said that it might be time to cull that friendship. That resonated with me; I think we don't have much in common any more. The only reason we've stayed friends is that we've been friends for so long. But I just don't feel like I can be my true self around her.
Anywhooooo. Today we're headed over to in-laws for self-hosted wine tasting (we brought some wines from CA with us from when we took my BIL and SIL to Napa/Sonoma 2 weeks ago). We're also celebrating BIL's upcoming 40th, and FIL's belated (2 years I think?) 70's. Should be a nice time!
CS/Q: Nope.
TTC#2
TTC #2 ... preparing as of March 2024
TTC #1
TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing
03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH.
06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering...
06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023
Month/Cycle: 4/4
CD: 13
WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, etc
R/R: Well, we're all making the best of quarantine. I have a date for a remote game of Trivial Pursuit in an hour since there are so many of us in isolation all over the place. It's like lockdown all over again 😂 Luckily so far we are all pretty healthy given the situation. Also, got a positive OPK today so it looks like O should be today or tomorrow, meaning that Covid & the booster don't seem to have messed with my usual O too much (which is great because we maxed out our timing and I don't think we could last much longer ).
CS/Q: Not today; thanks again for all the replies yesterday!
Month/Cycle: Cycle 3 AL
CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: Stuff & Thangs
R/R: We are still recovering from this cold, and it messed with our sexy times on an important date in my fertile window. Blergh. It looks like O is today, so time for me to do four sit-ups and brush my hair.
CS/Q:
@acleverusername It sounds like you got some good advice from your psychotherapist. I’m sorry you’re going through that. But your wine tasting sounds fun! I saw that you live in the SF area. My husband grew up in Atherton/Menlo Park. Not sure if you’ve heard of it. It’s a beautiful area, but sooooooo expensive. We could never afford to live there now.
Month/Cycle: 1/1
CD: 10
WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, HIO EOD
R/R: Going out to dinner tonight with my teaching team! I can’t wait! We went out after school the last day before break and decided we needed to do it more often. It’s been a week and a half since I saw them last, so I’m excited to not just be sending snapchats and TikToks to each other 😂😂
CS/Q: none
@acleverusername I’m with your therapist… TW: MC mentioned
Month/Cycle: 14/13
CD: 15
WAYDTGKU: lots of things
R/R: still feeling blugh. MH was able to get tested this morning after waiting 3 hours in a driveup line. The rest of my family that I saw on Christmas plans to get tested tomorrow, so by the weekend we should know if I spread it at all. Hopefully they're all negative. Other than that, the plan for today is basically quilting and working on my internship application.
CS/Q: nothing interesting rn