GTKY: How will you announce?

LJMoon6 · December 2021

How are you planning to announcing your pregnancy?
I know with the holidays coming up there might be some people planning to announce at Christmas. Are you doing anything special for it?
Or if you have announced already, what did you do? Or if you're planning on waiting, what will you do and when?

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tuxielove93 · December 2021

None of our family are close and we aren’t seeing them for the holidays. I announced a few weeks ago so the boys wouldn’t accidentally give me away. Plus I’m so sick, my family would have noticed when I dropped off the face of the earth.

I sent them a hangman game that spelled out “I’m such a sweet kid, I got promoted! Love, DS2”

and then I sent a picture of DS1 “teaching” DS2 in a Big Brother Training class. Just cut out big construction paper letters that spelled out “Big Brother Training” and put a couple “lessons” under on white paper. The idea was that DS1 stood at the wall and DS2 was sitting on a blanket but I couldn’t get the toddlers to cooperate so they just stood next to each other with the signage

quelinda99 · December 2021

We're not doing anything special. After a MMC, we just aren't feeling up to it. We haven't told anyone yet because I wanted to see the baby on US first, but my mom is here visiting and I think she knows anyway. I may just tell her. Other than that, we'll probably just text out a picture of the US to immediate family only. Not telling anyone else until at least second trimester, and won't publicly announce until probably almost 20 weeks. I was really effected by our loss and one of the saddest things is not being able to just enjoy being pregnant. I feel like that was taken away from me since it was our first pregnancy.

Last time, my husband sent his parents mugs saying "Grandma established 2021" or something like that. They still have the mugs on their shelf, even though they didn't become grandparents! It's so awkward.

L1C4gal · December 2021

We had family pictures already scheduled a few days after we found out about this pregnancy, so we bought a message board and arranged the letters to say "Baby [Last Name] 2.0 Coming July 2022." We had DD hold the sign in a few of the pictures. Fortunately, she's not quite reading yet and we told her it was a Merry Christmas sign

If all goes well at our first appointment on 12/21, we'll frame the picture and give it to my parents and ILs as a Christmas gift (shortly after telling DD, because we want her to have her own moment but don't think she'll be able to hold in the news very long

).

peppylilfoxy · December 2021

I'm not announcing. *Tw* After losing my son full term and then having to announce his death and dealing with people's constant questions afterwards, we decided to keep everything close and only mention it to those that are close around us should the topic come up. Like for example, a couple people at work know because they were asking me the dreaded "do you have any kids question" so I shared my journey. If it doesn't come up though, we are keeping it to ourselves until we have a living baby in our arms.

melanier26 · December 2021

We told my parents on Thanksgiving. My kindergartner made a turkey and wrote what he’s thankful for on the feathers, including “our new baby”.

For extended family and friends, I’m going to be sending out a card. We will be moving to a new house right after Christmas so once I’m in the second trimester I’m going to send a “New year, new house, new baby” card, so that everyone has our new address. 2 birds, 1 stone 🙃

zwink1 · December 2021

I honestly don't think we'll do anything to "announce." We didn't do any sort of social media announcement with DS, and just sort of told people organically as it came up. Both of our immediate families already know because we're IF and our parents/siblings are aware of the situation, so they knew we had restarted treatment. Outside of family, I'll probably start sharing toward the beginning of 2nd Tri. H can't keep a secret to save his life though, and had already shared with a few close friends. Which is annoying to me, but whatever I guess.

My biggest challenge right now is deciding when/how to tell DS. He's 3, so old enough to get it but not really get it.

feather_heather · December 2021

DD wore this to Thanksgiving dinner with my family (in spoiler so it doesn't take up the whole page)!

Haven't decided how we'll announce to everyone else yet.

LJMoon6 · December 2021

So I’ll only be 9 weeks by the time Christmas rolls around. I’m not sure I would feel comfortable telling the whole family then. I’d like to have the NIPT and NT scan done first. But we should have an ultrasound to confirm the heartbeat in a couple week. I might just tell my mom by putting an ultrasound picture into a card and having her open it in private.

The only people we’ve told so far are our best friends (everyone in my old BMB lol and MH’s friend who lives states away). I feel a little weird keeping it from my mom since I know I would tell her if we ended up having a MC anyways. But MH asked me not to. So I’m going to respect that. I also really want to tell my grandma, because she’s told me that she’s praying for me every night (she knows we are/have gone through fertility treatment). It feels wrong not telling her.

The other thing I thought about doing is putting DS in a shirt that says “Brother bear” and just letting him walk around my parents house until they notice lol.

Anyways, all of that is basically saying I don’t know what we’re doing yet lol.

stardustskies · December 2021

I wish I could do a cute announcement but everyone already knows. 😔

quelinda99 · December 2021

Well after all my dramatics about not wanting to tell anyone (woe is me!), I started dry heaving today and my mom said "Is there something you want to tell me?" So now she knows! And it made me feel better. And it even made me feel like it's ok to get excited. Any Psych 101 student probably would have known that, but sometimes you just have to go through something to learn.

rubyrose_0919 · December 2021

We are for sure Team No Announcement.

***TW***
We've had too many losses and seen firsthand how horribly some of our loved and trusted friends and family responded in the aftermath. It feels so lonely to go through a loss, but the isolation compounds when people respond to a loss without any compassion.

PGAL Mamas, my heart is with you, it's so hard to feel solid and safe after loss. ❤

runnergirl2018 · December 2021

Not positive yet. I’m a PGAL mom and it was recent so we’ve been more cautious about sharing early. A couple of my close friends who live out of state know and hubby just let it slip to a couple of his friends this week. I’m feeling a little better after our US today so will decide with hubby what to do and when. Maybe tell immediate family soon or wait until my follow up and NIPT in a couple weeks.

I also got this shirt that we might use

inthewoods23 · December 2021

I might do my "it's not a food baby" shirt for extended family if we tell our parents at Christmas haha.

sunshineandlemons · December 2021

I didn’t publicly announce either of my babies until 16-18 weeks. If someone asked, I’d tell them but we didn’t tell the world until then. My mom knows and my two best friends know. I’m not sure what we’ll do this time (TW***that timeline lines up with the due date of the baby I miscarried in July, so will probably push this out). Maybe we’ll do Easter and do it with Easter eggs.

katy5787 · December 2021

We told immediate family only on Thanksgiving. I was only 5.5 weeks at the time, but our families live on opposite sides of the United States and it was an extremely rare thing that they were all together so it was the perfect opportunity. Our first pregnancy started right when COVID started so we couldn’t announce to our families in person last time which was a big bummer. So glad we got to do it in person this time around! Only very close friends and immediate family know at this point. We probably won’t announce publicly until about 20 weeks after we’ve completed all genetic testing and anatomy ultrasound to make sure the baby is ok first (that’s what we did for the first pregnancy too and it seemed to work out well).

velvetblue88 · December 2021

I'm not going to do a formal announcement until I'm much further along (too many risk factors), but my MIL is coming over for Christmas this year, and my DH wants to put an ultrasound pic in her Christmas card. ☺️ I'll be 9.5wks when she's in town.

TW:
We lost the last pregnancy almost 2.5 years ago at 9+wks, and my MIL was at my house when I got the last BFP, so she was devastated when I miscarried. I'm nervous, but our next OB appointment is before she gets in town, so hopefully we'll know if something is up. 🤞

creativesoul63 · December 2021

I gave my parents a Hannukah card that said “Sorry, your Hannukah present is on layaway until July” when we saw them last night to celebrate. They got a big kick out of it and are very excited. So excited that my stepdad immediately posted on Facebook how excited he is to be a grandfather again 🤦🏻‍♀️. As soon as I realized I told him to delete it, but my two best friends definitely saw it as well as another friend (and who knows how many others) so I’m majorly pissed because I definitely had plans to tell my BFFs in person and was NOT ready to announce on social media yet. I hope my ILs didn’t see it because I was planning to reveal to them at Christmas by having DD open a “big sister” shirt. Maybe now I’ll take a picture of her in the shirt and just announce on social media then, even though I was going to wait to do that until January when I’ll be 12 weeks. I also wanted to do some sort of dinosaur themed announcement (planning a dino themed nursery for this kid) so maybe I’ll do that for the sex reveal.

twentythree19 · December 2021

We don’t know when we are announcing yet…BIL & SIL we’re scheduled for/did a FET a couple weeks after we got the BFP (they’re in the TWW right now). If the FET works, we want to discuss with BIL & SIL on their plans so we aren’t stealing any thunder - we’ve done this before, and they haven’t and I want them to have their moment. So send all your sticky baby vibes for them!

But yeah, we’ll tell immediate family first but none of the parents can keep a secret and my family all works in the same industry so we’ll likely tell the world within a day or two if telling family.

@creativesoul63 I am so sorry that happened to you! That is one of my nightmares too. Fx that not too many folks saw it and that your stepdad doesn’t do anymore boneheaded moves like that!

tsh2021 · December 2021

We got immediate family members “gifts from Santa.” I told everyone that after the all the loss from this year (much family drama stemming from a divorce), Mr. and Mrs. Claus thought we could all use an extra gift.

My sisters and sister in law got bracelets with a personalized note from Tiny Human. The bracelets have their birthstone and Tiny Human’s birthstone. I got my mom this artistic family tree that has a spot for Tiny Human’s name and birthday. My mother and father in law got Christmas ornaments that say “parents est. 1987. Grandparents est. 2022.”

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