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PGAL 12/2

faithmovesmountainsfaithmovesmountains member
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This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). TW for entire thread due to discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc. 

Weeks/EDD?

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 

Any appointment updates? 

Any big milestones?

Rants/Raves/Questions?
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  • achanceintimeachanceintime member
    @faithmovesmountains I completely understand where you’re coming from. Time is flying and it’s hard to balance taking care of myself and still getting everything done in time. I hate to hear that you’re feeling so overwhelmed. Wish there was a way I could help. Please know I’m here, and I don’t feel like anyone is simply putting up with you. We are here FOR you, and to commiserate with you! 


    Weeks/EDD?  25w3d/March 14

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? Ectopic in 2016, MMC in 2020, and CP at Easter 2021

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I’ve been having tons of pelvic girdle and hip pain for about the last week. Which makes me so frustrated when I’m trying to get things done. 

    Any appointment updates? I have my glucose screening on Dec 13, and I’m strangely getting anxious about it. I didn’t have GD with my son, but I’m feeling apprehensive about this screening and I don’t know why. 

    Any big milestones? Not that I can think of at the moment. 

    Rants/Raves/Questions? I feel like I’m riding a bit of an emotional rollercoaster the last week or so. My 3yo is really getting in to the Christmas spirit, and it’s so amazing to see the magic of the season through him this year. And then I’m in pain and have to take more breaks and I get frustrated. Or today’s roller coaster: We had an amazing family night last night, I woke up this morning with energy and minimal pain (despite a 3 hour stretch of insomnia from 2:30-5:30 this morning), and was able to get some things ticked off my to do list! Then my MIL starts drama, and as much as I try to ignore it, my heart rate started going up. Which made me worried that the palpitations were going to come back or my BP was going to go up. (I had preeclampsia with my son, so I’m already vigilant about my BP). So I went from happy and feeling semi productive to mad and anxious and frustrated all over again. So now I just want to sit here on the couch with my son and watch Christmas movies and try to feel Baby Girl kicks. 
    Other Rant: anyone else having issues with the Bump app? Any time I try to post or comment I have yo sign back in like 3 times??
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @faithmovesmountains You shouldn't be fine. You should be exactly the way you need to be. People don't get the overwhelming stress that loss causes a pregnancy on top of the regular stress that any pregnancy brings. Even having gone through my losses I don't understand the stress of a later loss and I can't imagine the constant worry, concern and panic you must have to deal with on a minute by minute basis. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Honestly, I say just let things get undone for a while. You need to do what is best for your mental and physical health and if anything really starts to bother your H I'm sure he'll start to pick up the slack. Thinking of you ❤ 

    @achanceintime I was really worried about my GTT test this time too...because of age and weight gain that I have never had in previous pregnancies. But once I got it over with I'm actually feeling calm. I think it was partly the anticipation. And I only use The Bump on my phone but I never use the app. I just have the web page bookmarked (our birth month, so the March 2022 page) and I never have issues. It stays signed in and I find it super easy to use.
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    Weeks/EDD? 24+3 / March 21 (RCS will likely be between the 13th and 15th...will book the same in January)

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MMCs 14 and 10 weeks, CP, MC 7 weeks

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically sane old same old. Sick as always. Emotionally...the kicks and movement are definitely helping...but now that I ordered a bunch of boy clothes (couldn't help myself...I love boy clothes and couldn't resist since I only have girl stuff...and yep, I am totally one of those people who need to dress baby boy in boy clothes despite the fact that he won't know the difference) I'm worried that I have jinxed myself. I am already planning who I'll gift everything to if something goes wrong:/ I feel like if I was a few years younger I wouldn't be so stressed about it...but the age component is totally messing with my mind:/
    Any appointment updates? GTT this morning. OB on the 14th, GP on the 22nd

    Any big milestones? Passed viability! Next goal is 3rd tri...

    Rants/Raves/Questions? I know I already said this above, but spent waaaay too much money on boy clothes...but I'm super excited about it:) Helping me feel more connected.
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  • rachelredheadrachelredhead member
    edited December 2021
    Weeks/EDD? 25w3/Mar 14 (RCS will likely be 3/7 or 3/11)

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 2 early MCs before DS

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically I hate my right hip and sleep is tough. I’m a very active sleeper and tend to roll around a lot and that is HARD these days. Emotionally I’m having a lot of Covid anxiety around the variant. This is my second pandemic pregnancy and I’m just exhausted by all of the things to worry about.  

    Any appointment updates? Dec 23 for 28w check and schedule RCS

    Any big milestones? Can’t believe third tri is so close! 

    Rants/Raves/Questions? Just kicking myself for stalking the August BMB. I like to read the intros of new months. I read a woman’s loss story involving a nuchal chord. And that sent me SPIRALING because my son was born with the chord wrapped around his neck 3 times. I know that nuchal chords are verrrrry common and rarely dangerous but I hadn’t really thought about that particular worry and now I’m in a pit of anxiety about it for this baby. 

    @faithmovesmountains totally understand the overwhelmed feeling! You aren’t alone. ❤️

    @panaceia boy clothes are super cute! My son has a pretty ridiculous toddler collection of bow ties. 🤪

    @achanceintime I’m anxious about my sugar test, too. I’m older, heavier, have gained more weight…and I have the test Dec 23. I just think there’d be a special cruelty getting a GD diagnosis right before the holidays. 
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @rachelredhead I'm sorry for the spiral and the experience you had with your son. I rarely play on social media but the past couple of weeks I keep getting these heartbreaking post suggestions pop up on Instagram any time I open it to check my niece's account and it is adding to my anxiety. I have decided not to open the search bar anymore:/
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  • gembudgembud member
    @faithmovesmountains I totally feel that way too, I push myself too much and then freak out, but if I don’t certain things won’t get done - or at least not in the timeline I want. Also, 14 weeks?! What how!!??? That was a reality check for me 

    @achanceintime jeez just what you need stress from MIL, I don’t get some people you think she’d be trying to keep a happy and calm environment for her future grandchild 😑 but, glad you guys enjoyed cuddles and Christmas movies 

    @Panaceia gahhh I’m glad you did some shopping and I can’t wait to see the little love in his new outfits!!!

    @rachelredhead ugh I feel for you, two covid pregnancies is so horrible 😔 so much added stress and worry
     
    Weeks/EDD? 27w0d

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC in April 

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I’m in denial next week is third tri for me, I feel totally unprepared to have this kid 😬

    Any appointment updates? Gestational on the 8th, I’ve been tracking my blood sugar out of curiosity and easy access lately so I wish I could save myself the time and just submit my own data 😂

    Any big milestones? 

    Rants/Raves/Questions? I was bringing Christmas stuff down from the attic and found a newborn Christmas onesie that I bought TTC when it was 90% off after Christmas. That sent me spiraling since my MC baby was due on Christmas Day, but I’m glad I had that cathartic cry, now I can focus on making the holiday happy for DS who is going through way more than a two year old ever should and who deserves the best Christmas ever
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @gembud 3rd tri AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!! I'm sorry about the onesie 😔 M pulled out a rattle toy I bought right after my first loss...I bought 2 as a sort of my *screw you* to the universe and a promise to myself that I would get a chance to use them. I used 1 with N but couldn't find the other one...but M found it the other day and pulled it out, so I've put it aside for baby to have once he gets here. Seems fitting...especially since the EDD for this little guy is almost the same as my first loss.
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  • faithmovesmountainsfaithmovesmountains member
    @achanceintime
    Sorry about your MIL drama :/ 
    Also the Bump App logs me out like once every 3 weeks or so I feel like, but is generally okay?

    @Panaceia
    You are literally the sweetest.
     I’m sorry you’re still so sick, but glad you got some boy clothes! With DS that really helped me feel more eager and excited.

    @rachelredhead
    I get it. My son was born in May 2020 and so the end of that pregnancy became so confusing and scary and being pregnant during the pandemic again definitely hasn’t helped my anxiety for sure.
    Wishing you all the best.

    @gembud
    Aw I’m sorry, but I hope your son really has a great Christmas. It seems like he will with a mother as determined and caring as you seem to be.
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @faithmovesmountains as others have said, you are completely, 100%, absolutely entitled to feeling any and everything that you do. There is no need to validate or explain to anyone, including us. I really do hope for a smooth last tri to your pregnancy and an ease into newborn life for you. You deserve it!

    @achanceintime I hate family drama so much. I hope your christmas movie marathon improved your mood and you were able to feel more of how you did before your day was derailed.

    @Panaceia baby shopping is so fun! Im so glad it’s helping you connect and want to remind you that you are absolutely allowed to feel excited AND apprehensive, joyful AND worried you’re jinxing yourself. No feeling exists exclusively. We are complex human beings with complex thoughts, experiences, and feelings. Sending you love.

    @rachelredhead I can relate to the increased anxiety re:pandemic; though, I can’t imagine living it twice. It affects so many aspects of life that it’s hard not to let your mind wander to anxious what-ifs. I’ve also been targeted recently on Instagram with birth trauma accounts. I completely understand a person’s need to share their experience in whatever way they need. Just hard realizing there are real people with real loss and trauma out there.

    @gembud thinking of you ❤️ I was also due in December before my loss. Sending you love.
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    Always happy reading about how you ladies are doing every week :)

    Weeks/EDD? 26 weeks, March 10th

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC in April

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Emotionally, coming off a great family trip and feeling really happy about that. Our first trip in 2-ish years and one that I surprisingly felt quite safe doing. It was actually great timing to also help distract from some big feelings surrounding the due date of my loss coming up on the 5th. Creating new, happy memories in this time and enjoying my little family has helped me feel like in a way we are honoring the little soul that wasn’t able to make it to us. The trip was truly unforgettable, just as they are.

    Any appointment updates? GTT and OB on the 17th

    Any big milestones? Loss due date is this Sunday. Plan to do all the Christmas things this weekend. Was looking through pictures on my phone today, scrolling back to find a specific one, and stumbled on pics of when I surprised DH with a positive UPT in March. Had that weird stab of pain and a twinge that lingered after. Navigating loss is more unpredictable than I expected.

    Rants/Raves/Questions?
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  • rachelredheadrachelredhead member
    @night_nurse thinking of you as you navigate that due date. Feel all the feelings you need to. ❤️
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @night_nurse I'm so glad you had such a great trip! And thinking of you as your loss EDD approaches. You never know when those feelings are going to hit and the the things that can trigger painful memories. My last loss happened last New Year's Eve. I watched the countdown alone from an ER waiting room where I also sat with all my previous losses. I'm sure New Year's is going to trigger something for me this year and I'm not looking forward to it:/ Sending love 💗 
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  • gembudgembud member
    @Panaceia ahhhh you know me, I feel like that’s all kismet and maybe baby boy is your first loss baby ready to join the world ❤️ Crazy/amazing that she found it!

    @night_nurse glad you guys had such a great trip and were able to honor baby, I’ll be thinking of you this weekend ❤️
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  • morgantumorgantu member
    @faithmovesmountains I totally get how you feel. There is so much i want and need to do, but i do not feel up to it. It's so hard. Never worry about sharing here, that's exactly what this group (and especially this thread!) is for. <3 

    @achanceintime sorry about the MIL drama, the worst. But isn't toddler christmas so sweet? DD asked me to sing her jingle bells when i was trying to get her back to sleep for the 15th time last night. 

    @Panaceia i'm always thinking about how i'm jinxing myself, and then of course, just the thought about jinxing is a jinx. What a mindf*** pregnancy is. 

    @rachelredhead my OB just told me to wait till after christmas to do my GTT..."so you can eat more candy just in case" lol. very great medical advice. 

    @gembud yep, yepyepyep finding a onsie would send me off the deep end. I'm glad you felt your feelings and are ready to go onward and upward!

    @night_nurse Thinking of you this weekend <3 





    Weeks/EDD? 24+5 3/20

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 2 MMC, 1 CP

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Emotionally I'm ok about this baby. I'm a mess about my toddler (more below). This baby is moving around just fine and I'm feeling pretty good. Physically, i slept weird the other night and my neck is fully out of whack so that's uncomfortable. That and bad sleep are my big complaints atm. 

    Any appointment updates? Had an OB check on Wed. All was well. Gotta do glucose screen before my next appt- then we move into appts every 2 weeks- how is it that time already?!?!

    Any big milestones? Anniversary of two losses this month. MMC in 2017 and CP in 2020- talked to Dh about it a little last night...I'm usually ok on those days, but this pregnancy is weird, so who knows. Otherwise, yay viability!

    Rants/Raves/Questions? So my poor DD. I think i have mentioned she's been sick on and off for a couple of weeks. she seemed a lot better this week but yesterday I had to pick her up from daycare again because of a fever. She keeps having these random fevers with no other "typical symptoms" of a virus. Just fever, chills, lethargy. DH is taking her to the dr this morning and will ask that they draw labs because her swabs keep coming back negative and her physical exams look fine. I just want to get a plan/some answers so she can start feeling better. she was up on and off all night last night and I spent about 4 hours camped out on her floor beside her bed. Hoping for an easier day for all of us. 
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @morgantu Im so sorry about DD. Definitely push for every intervention you think she needs. Have they tested her for mono? I hope the doctors listen this morning and can help. That sounds absolutely miserable for everyone. Also thinking of you this month ❤️
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @morgantu I'm so sorry DD is still sick. I'm glad you're going to get labs done. I hate when littles are sick. It's so much worse than when we ourselves are sick ❤ I was up with DD1 most of the night because she was having chills and pains...and even though I knew it was nothing and would be gone by morning, I was still suuuuuper stressed about it all night. And she's 8 next month. Having something reoccurring and unexplained must be so so hard. I hope the doctor is able to give you some answers so you can all start feeling better ❤
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  • morgantumorgantu member
    @night_nurse we mentioned mono last week when we went in but she didn't have any swollen glands/spleen ((?) so they didn't pursue it. My MIL told me yesterday that DH has appendicitis when he was 4 and the only symptom was a fever, no belly pain or anything. So he will ask about that today and i asked him to push for the labs. 

    @Panaceia right? i know fevers and illness is common and usually nbd in kiddos, but it's still so excruciating to watch, and i feel so helpless. Hope your DD is better today as well. 
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  • gembudgembud member
    @morgantu so sorry about DD, hope you guys get some answers soon and it’s an easy fix ❤️
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  • achanceintimeachanceintime member
    @Panaceia yay for you GTT results! Big sigh of relief!
    @night_nurse Thinking and praying for you as your EDD approaches. So glad your trip went well! 
    @morgantu Aww! My son is actually literally singing Jingle Bells right now lol. He just turned 3 so this is the first year that he kinda gets what’s happening with Christmas, and it’s been pretty magical! I hope you get some answers for DD, and come up with a plan to help her feel better. For all of your sakes! 
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  • rachelredheadrachelredhead member
    @morgantu sick toddlers are so heartbreaking. I hope her pediatrician has some reassurance and y’all are able to get answers quickly. 
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @morgantu how did it go at the pediatrician yesterday? How is DD doing?
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  • goldfishcrakergoldfishcraker member
    @faithmovesmountains it's totally ok to not be ok ❤️. Your feelings are totally valid. And just because your logical part of your brain is telling you that things are ok, doesn't make it possible to overrule that deep seeded anxiety.
    I've been working with a PPA specialist physician and she has given me some techniques I have been finding useful for my PGAL brain. if you want, I can try to explain them.
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  • morgantumorgantu member
    @night_nurse thanks for asking. We are currently in the peds Ed waiting for lab and ultrasound results. DD is super annoyed by the IV but otherwise being a trooper. 


    Tw cancer talk....
    Both the fellow and the attending have mentioned that "it's probably not cancer". I appreciate the reassurance but nobody ever told us that it was something they were looking for. Now, could they rightly assume that I'm aware of that possiblity from Google, sure, but it was just a strange thing for them both to say. 
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @morgantu I'm so sorry they made a comment like that. I would be really upset if they made a comment like that without having first talked to me about it being something they were looking for. FX everything is clear and it's just a virus working it's way out. Thinking of you ❤ 
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  • achanceintimeachanceintime member
    @morgantu I’m sorry they just dropped their statements like that, without any prior explanation. Praying that everything comes out clear. Please keep us posted, and we are here for you!
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @morgantu im glad they are checking everything out. I agree that the C-word comment was totally unnecessary unless that was a concern you had brought up. I work with all ER doctors and can attest to the fact that very few have the bedside manner and people skills required of a job like theirs. FX for good news and a quick recovery for DD. Update here when you guys find out more please.
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