Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Lisa3379
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Re: Post-Thanksgiving Weekend Randoms 11/27-28
Yes I feel like LO will be here sooner rather thsn later. More frequent and stronger BH to the event of waking me at night. Feeling more and more miserable everyday. Also feel like he's getting lower everyday.
@Lisa3379 I feel you w needing a sugar detox!
Thanksgiving was good! I am just getting so full so easily and feeling uncomfortable. Everyone kept saying how lucky I was being pregnant and being able to eat anything, but I feel the complete opposite of lucky.
I def feel like baby boy is coming early! But I had my first low stress test last Friday and fluid was normal and he was active. So nothing to indicate that other than a gut instinct. It’s exciting (and scary)! to think in just a few weeks we can be meeting our little ones.
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
I can’t believe how close we’re getting! Does everyone have nurseries set up, hospital bags packed, all stuff ready for baby?
I’m only 32 weeks so I’m still getting things together but definitely feeling the pressure to get it done.
also - does anyone have a baby monitor that they love? We’re looking into getting two - the Cubo AI and the Eufy
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
We didn't do much this weekend. My husband was splitting a load of wood we got this week and stacking it to cure for next year. I found myself making some Amazon orders for things that would randomly pop into my head that I'll need for baby (a white noise machine, pumping bra...). And we bought some sz1 diapers for baby. After his umbilical cord falls off, I'll use cloth diapers again.
Anyone else use cloth?
My left SI joint/low back are hurting, so I'm pretty useless a lot of the time. I was planning to work for 6 more weeks (I'm 32wks), but if this pain in my SI doesn't F off, I'm not sure how I'll do it (I'm a massage therapist).
I slipped on a stair yesterday and landed on the top of a sidewalk salt shaker container on the left side of my belly. And then I couldn't feel baby move much (though I didn't let much time elapse while waiting to see), and drove myself to the hospital. Thank God after 20weeks you get sent directly to the OB floor....the wait times in Ontario ERs can be enormous...the board said 4-5 hours yesterday afternoon. It's especially bad in the small town I live because we don't have walk in clinics- instead you go to the ER. Mind boggling.
Baby is fine. A nurse hooked me up to a HR monitor for baby, and I counted his movements. As soon as she put the monitors on my belly, he started kicking them and rolling around.
And his HR looked really good.
Note to self: just be barefoot until this baby comes.
@elksamm no nursery set up here. I think because this is our 2nd baby, I am in no worry to set up a nursery at all. He will be sleeping in a bassinet next to me for several months, and the room that will be his is currently our only guest room.
I'm not sure what my plan is...I might have to set the guest bed up in the basement.
And ill likely start packing a hospital bag and just slowly add things to it. Or at least write my list.
@fifilala516 I’m so sorry to hear about your family member, so hard to deal with 😥. Also Braxton hicks are jerks. Point blank lol.
@sarah_is_pregnant I will always give a shout out to Canada! My profile image is along the highway from Whistler to Vancouver
@travistori Wow, super busy weekend! Sounds fun though. We did some decorating yesterday, but our house is a total disaster and I need to work on that before I can really decorate. Why is it that it takes days to recover from being out of town? And that's neat that you'll be home potentially the day you give birth. I may be a weirdo here, but I like being in the hospital for a bit after the baby is born. It's kinda nice to only have to focus on myself and the new baby for a bit before going back to the mayhem at home, haha. Plus I can order food almost whenever I want!