Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Lisa3379
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Re: Hospital Bag Thread!
-a robe
-snacks (though I wasn't allowed to eat in my son's NICU room, and I wasn't in labor at the hospital long enough prior to giving birth). Also not sure about COVID rules now, but I know at one point you were not allowed to leave the hospital and then come back.
-comfy clothes with an elastic waistband (I feel like this is a duh)
-toiletries (face wash, hairbrush, toothbrush/toothpaste, etc)
-make up (?) I didn't care the entire time I was in the hospital, but I think I will pack some this go around just to feel freshened up and for pictures.
-small/medium cozy blanket (for your laboring partner and/or yourself)
-going home outfit for baby
That's all I can think of right now. I'll add more if I think of any others.
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
- long phone charger cord, mine couldn't reach the bed
-pillow and blanket
-boppy/nursing pillow if breastfeeding (I had a c section and this helped a ton with positioning/supporting the baby and keeping off the incision)
-toiletries (shampoo, conditioner, face wash, toothpaste)
I'm sure there was other stuff but that's what I can remember using/wanting to he most!
Toiletries for both of you
Comfy pjs and\or robe
Change of clothes for ride home ( still maternity clothes)
Diaper bag
Baby coming home outfit various sizes
Snacks
Obviously a car seat
Hospital will have diapers and wipes( take everything that is in the bassinet)
All I used when I was in hospital was:
Chargers
Pillow
Toiletries (I showered in the afternoon after giving birth)
I wore the hospital gown the whole time I was there
Change of clothes to go home
Carseat
Snacks
Water bottle
Breast feeding pillow
Diapers/wipes for baby
Diapers for myself
Outfit for baby to go home
Change of clothes, toiletries, pillow for partner
This is probably all I'll bring this time.
Definitely take everything you can when you get discharged (my nurses encouraged it and made a pile/put together a bag of stuff for me to take home). I got extra little bottles, nipples, diapers, pump tubing, diapers, wipes, mesh undies, pads, etc. I figure we paid for it through our hospital bill, we're entitled to it. I actually still have a bag of things left over from when I had my son.
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
Toiletries (esp lotion and at least a couple tubes of chapstick - I always lose mine)
Earplugs! Multiple pairs.
A robe or maternity/nursing pajamas (something easy to wear in a hospital bed - I wore a hospital gown the whole time both times and while it was convenient to have easy access to stuff, I can't figure out how to properly get in and out of those stupid things)
Hair ties
Nursing bras
Nipple cream/pads/other nursing stuff
Pillow from home (if you're particular)
One outfit to come home in
For my husband:
Change of clothes
Toiletries
Newborn outfit
Larger outfit
Car seat
Nursing pillow
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
Comfy clothes
Makeup/showering supplies
Phone charger
Going home outfit for baby