Is anybody else ridiculously nervous about miscarrying?

tmarie0805 · October 2021

I just can’t stop worrying! I get that I can only do so much to prevent it and my risk level is as low as I can possibly get it. I’m 26, healthy, no history of any issues or miscarriages (beyond normal), etc. All that being said, im 5 weeks and 2 days and every four hours I feel like im googling miscarriage rates as if it’s going to drastically go down in a few hours. It’s my first pregnancy and it’s something I’ve been waiting for since I was like 16, it just wasn’t the right time, so maybe that plays into. I don’t know. I’m just a mess!! Haha. Im going to go nuts if I do this until the end of the first trimester.

marionberry19 · October 2021

I am constantly worried sick about it. I have a thyroid condition, my thyroid is essentially dead, and according to my endocrinologist if I don’t keep my levels in check my chance of miscarriage increases by like 4 times. Well guess who went into their blood test at only like 4 weeks pregnant and their levels were already shooting up? They increased my dosage but I won’t know for another month if my levels are evened out yet. It also doesn’t help that I take my meds in the morning and immediately want to throw them back up. & my meds have to be taken on and empty stomach. So that’s super fun. My approach and the only way for me to stay sane during this is to remind myself that I am pregnant today, worrying doesn’t change what happens tomorrow. So I announced my pregnancy, I am buying baby clothes, I’m making a registry. I won’t not enjoy being pregnant because as of right now nothing is wrong.

huckleberrypie · October 2021

Yes, it's my first pregnancy and I am ridiculously anxious as well. I called my doctor to schedule an early scan and they got me in for Thursday (will be 6w3d so I should be able to hear a heartbeat) because I've been an anxious wreck today, thinking my breasts are less sore and my pregnancy test line is lighter (because I've been obsessively taking tests). Can't even focus at work 😅

I'm 34 and healthy. It took me 5 months to conceive, and I only want to birth one child. So it's not like I can't try again if it does happen, but it's so nerve wracking.

Oh, and I am so, so fatigued, I'm seriously useless and I never want to experience this fatigue again so please let this one work out 🥺

tmarie0805 · October 2021

I’m extremely tired too!! I get home from work and basically pass out but I’d love to get some steps in, I just can’t manage to do that!! The fatigue is killing me too. You’re not alone!!

tmarie0805 · October 2021

I love your mindset! When I say I’m generally healthy, I mean physically. I have severe depression and anxiety which is just off the charts right now of course. I know stress isn’t good. I wish you the best. I wish I had the courage to announce it. I really want to. I’m just afraid of miscarriage and spiraling into even deeper depression. I’ve heard people say they told others for support if something did happen. I think that’s that’s wonderful for others in different situations, but I honestly think it would scare the crap out of everyone I care about and I can’t handle that extra stress of worrying everyone with the what if’s “what if something happens and she ends up hurting herself”. I just can’t. They’ve been through enough as it is. I finally got it fairly under control to the point I can work and look forward to starting a family, but I do worry about the meds im on (Dr won’t dare take me off as the benefits strongly outweigh the risks) and I worry about the hormones setting something off and having my meds not do their job, but all I’ve ever wanted in life is this and it’s what kept my mom (genetic depression) on this planet and helped turn her mental health around, gave her a reason to be here, so after years of debate, counselling and thinking it was selfish to do, I’ve finally managed to change my mindset about it. It’ll finally excited and happy for something in my life after 26 years and I feel like it could shatter at any second, like a dream. I am glad to hear that this incessant worry isn’t just a “me” problem, as much as I wouldn’t wish it upon another.

luxstars · October 2021

I definitely have been making myself nervous going down the Google rabbit hole. I’ve known about my pregnancy due to several at home tests for a few weeks now. I originally had my first appointment scheduled for 11/22 so that I could get all the tests done at once, but the anxiety was killing me, so I moved my appointment to 11/1. I’d go sooner, but just enrolled in health insurance and it doesn’t kick in until then.

I’ve also told many people in my life about my pregnancy, so the support would be there, but I’d be totally devastated if anything happened. I’ve just been doing my best to focus on the fact that the odds are in my favor for a healthy pregnancy and baby. I’d say just refrain from researching that topic to avoid spiraling into an anxiety-ridden frenzy. Meanwhile, I’ll be doing my best to take my own advice 😅.

shelbielizabeth · October 2021

Yes, this is my third pregnancy but I feel like the anxiety is way worse this time. I did have a scare with my second baby and had pretty bad PPA with her as well. My first appointment is on Friday and I should be 9 weeks but I can’t help stressing that something will be wrong. I keep thinking my symptoms are decreasing as well.. and according to this app they should be at their worst this week. I’m hoping everything will be good and I’ll be less anxious once I have the ultrasound. Hate that other people are experiencing the same thing but happy to know I’m not crazy for being so worried.

yooleeah · October 2021

I was pregnant earlier this year and we lost them around this time. I’m 6 weeks today and they had estimated the loss around 6-7 weeks. I’m so so nervous and worried it’ll happen again. I do more blood work tomorrow and my first ultrasound sound is in two weeks.

I’m keeping the anxiety at bay by reminding myself to just not worry about tomorrow. Baby and I will be happy and healthy. My symptoms have been more intense this time around and I do feel miserable but makes me feel better at the same time.

pregnancyafterloss · October 2021

This is my 5th pregnancy with no living children. I've had 3 miscarriages (between 6 and 9 weeks) and my son was stillborn at 26 weeks due to blood clot disorder that they didn't know I had.
Needless to say I'm a stress case with this pregnancy. But I have to keep reminding myself that THIS pregnancy is a new one, it's a new baby and a new journey. It also helps that I get ultrasounds every 2 weeks and if I felt I needed one before the 2 weeks they will fit me in last minute.

Had an ultrasound at 6 weeks, baby measured perfect and saw the heartbeat, had an ultrasound yesterday and saw baby's strong heartbeat and measuring ahead and I started balling, so grateful 🙏
But still anxious.

chelsraec · October 2021

I have some light spotting and am freaking out. This happened with DD but I was closer to 10 weeks. I’ve read that close to your projected period their can be light spotting. Ugh. I am on the worry bus. Positive thoughts my friends. I’m going to stop googling now…

Tulips29 · October 2021

I think it's just our human nature. For all the ladies who've experienced loss, my heart is with you and I hope your anxiety eases with each week and good news you get. I've had a few scares with my first and my second started out with very low hcg numbers that I didn't think would lead to a pregnancy, so my nerves are all over the place now with the third one. Add not feeling any symptoms, and I can't get the worrying out of my head. For me, worrying doesn't stop ever I think. Even once they are born, it's a whole new set of worries.

shoarmie99 · October 2021

I am pregnant for the first time and I have to really focus on not letting worry consume me. I try to focus on positive affirmations - and remember that I can’t control the outcome and stay present. I don’t want to have any stress or anxiety affect the baby so I play this game with myself where I remind myself that no matter what happens, the only thing I can control is my thoughts and to keep them positive for the baby. I think the first appt in a week will help (I’ll be just over 8 weeks then). I hate reading about everyone’s stress - it is nice to know we’re not alone but I wish we could all feel less anxious

KFrob · October 2021

@shelbielizabeth if it makes you feel any better I think around 9 weeks was when my symptoms started to simmer down with my third and she’s 1.5 now! I know we went to a wedding at 10weeks and other than being a bit tired my voms were gone.

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