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March 2022 Moms
Panaceia
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PGAL 9/30
Panaceia
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This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). TW for entire thread due to discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc.
Weeks/EDD?
Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)?
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically?
Any appointment updates?
Any big milestones?
Any big milestones?
Rants/Raves/Questions?
Re: PGAL 9/30
Any big milestones? I've started having pregnancy dreams...like dreams where I am pregnant. I had dreams about both of my girls before they were born and they both ended up looking exactly like they did in the dreams. I had a dream about this little boy the other night, and I'm starting, finally, to feel more attached.
Aww, kudos to dreaming of your boy!
Weeks/EDD? 17 weeks +1 day, due March 9
Any big milestones? I felt baby girl kicking for a good five to ten minutes straight the other day and I’m hoping it’s a sign I’ll feel her more.
DH is stubborn, though, that I shouldn’t let others rob me of raising a daughter named Lillian if that’s what I want. I just am tired in anticipation of the criticism.
@faithmovesmountains so sorry about your aunt, you were definitely in the right blocking her you don’t need that added stress. Also I’m with H don’t let them rob you of the name Lillian
Any big milestones? Just want to get to my AS
Sorry if I’m a downer, I’ve just been overwhelmed. I love how supportive this community is, though, you guys have been helping more than you know.
@faithmovesmountains ugh so sorry you're getting that reaction from your family. You are doing what's best for your family, i wish they saw that. Also, never worry about being a downer, that's what we are here for. Everybody has their turn needing support and being able to give support
@gembud Sorry about your cold! Hope it clears up quickly
Weeks/EDD? 15+4?
Any big milestones? well past all losses. Also really looking forward to some movement. I could have sworn i felt a couple flutters the other day, but nothing since.
MC in April
Feeling better physically. Have had a few down days this week but focused on getting outside and doing things I love like bake and work on nursery ideas/registry. Got preliminary genetic screening results back today which indicated very low risk for trisomies and neural tube defects. Makes me feel a little more relieved- have started focusing all my worry on the AS and every potential complication that could come of it. Sounds like most people are in the same boat.
AS on the 18th and 20wk appt on the 20th
Felt first unmistakeable movements this past week. Usually when im sitting still or eating/drinking. Didnt feel babe once today which of course prompted me to pull out the doppler. All good 👌🏼 Also finally told my parents this past weekend a d sent out a group text to extended family. Finally felt right to let people in on our secret.
@gembud hope you feel better soon ❤️
But DH and I view it in a different light. We only wish to honor our first, not replace her.
As cheesy as it may sound, I’m a Christian and one of the things I’ve said that helps me cope is when my kids one day find out about the loss is their big sister didn’t have a lot of time, but she wanted to assure they were taken care of.
For DS she gave all her earthly possessions (the things we’d bought in prep for a baby).
I think she then turned to God and asked “And what can I give my sister? There’s nothing left?”
The answer came.
“Your name. For your name means innocent, so will she be. Your name means love and the love she shows will touch the hearts of others.”
I also read somewhere that in some Native American culture when a brave warrior died, their name was one of the most precious gifts to be given to another.
I don’t know, you guys will probably all think I’m crazy now, but I swear we’re not trying to replace the one we lost. We have no expectations attached. We just want to love and raise her and plan to mostly call her Lilly and Lil while Lillian is just the full birth certificate name with a brand new middle name attached. Never used nicknames with my first for obvious reasons, didn’t even know she was a girl until she was stillborn because of the membrane rupture being pre AS.
Thank you all so much. I was honestly scared to post my reasons purely because of the judgement that has already been passed on me. I guess I was tricked into thinking everyone would condemn my choice.
It means so much to have all of your support, even if we’re all strangers at the end of the day.
I think it will be easier to stand my ground having proof positive that in fact others can understand and accept me naming my daughter Lillian, so again thank you all, truly.
Today has been tough. Every time I start to feel excited, I get hit with more new. Today was amniocentesis day! They did a very detailed ultrasound, and found 3 markers for Down Syndrome. One foot was turned in, and the bowels were brighter than typical. Neither of those are a huge deal. At this point, the left aorta does not appear to be in the correct spot. It is still too early to tell if there is a heart defect, but there will be many more ultrasounds. We should have amnio results Monday.
Any big milestones? 16 weeks is a big deal. And she is moving around plenty in there. They kept saying she was trying to hide from the US, so I'd like to think she has a big, strong personality already. I'm holding on to these little wins.
@faithmovesmountains How awful of your aunt - good for you for blocking her, you definitely do not need that negativity!
On a positive note, the subchorionic hematoma is gone!
Anatomy scan October 20, next OB October 14.
Any big milestones? That little bonus ultrasound this week helped a lot mental health wise - I’m still doubting that there is actually a baby in there most days. Seeing them really helped me to start forming a bit of a connection with them.
Aw, you poor thing
I wish I could offer something helpful, but just try to take things bit by bit. It’ll be Thursday before you know it.