Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 2 MMCs, 1CP, 1MC
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Like dirt. I am struggling to function or keep anything down...plus low BP so constant dizziness and blacking out. I need this to get better at some point and not worse. Emotionally much better since our US! Of course now I'm stressing about other stuff, but at least we have a strong heartbeat!
Any appointment updates? First US was today. Nugget was measuring 1 day ahead of what I thought, so 8+2 instead of 8+1 with a nice strong heartbeat...and actually looked like a nugget.... Doctor's appointment on Monday, and then NIPT on the 30th.
Any big milestones? We have a heartbeat 💓 Both times we've had a heartbeat we've brought a baby home...now we just need to get through the NIPT.
Rants/Raves/Questions? The tech today was soooooo nice. I told him how stressed I was and literally within 1 seconds of putting the wand on my tummy he said "you're good". He didn't make me wait at all and even gave me a picture at the end (here techs aren't allowed to tell you anything so it was a big deal!). Also SOOOOOO happy that they only did an abdominal US and that I didn't need an internal!!!!
@Panaceia hooray for a great US and a good tech. Aslo, i have alwasy called dd nugget
Weeks/EDD? 8+5 3/20
Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 3 previous losses, all early.
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? better after the US, still short of breath and nauseous all the time. I have been taking b6+unisom and it definitely takes the edge off, but i still don't feel great. Also feel like i'm already looking like 18 or 20 weeks compared to last time lol.
Any appointment updates? Had an OB visit yesterday, she was the ob who prescribed my clomid (how we got this bb) so we were both very excited to have the appt. Next will be in a month.
Any big milestones? like @panaceia, a heartbeat is a huge milestone for us so i'm feeling great about that.
Rants/Raves/Questions? WELL. Apparently i'm ama now. I'll be 35 at delivery (my 35th bday is february) so now i have to have a genetics referral? I'm annoyed lol.
@morgantu what’s a genetics referral? Just because you’re 35? That sounds so young to me, since I had my first at 39 and will be 41 when this kiddo arrives. But really, being AMA just gets you some extra attention, maybe a bit easier to squeeze in an extra US, etc. So it can be a benefit, I think, when it comes to care.
Weeks/EDD? 9w4/March 14
Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 2 MC before my son, both at 7w
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Feeling better physically but still dealing with intermittent nausea, exhaustion, headaches, and insomnia. Having RLP some when I move quickly.
Any appointment updates? Had a boring midwife appointment and they did a vaginal swab because of some spotting. I have a BV infection so taking an insert for 5 days to clear that up. NIPT next week and 12w US on Sept 1
Any big milestones? Like previous posters, Heartbeat is a huge hurdle for us. When we have had a healthy heartbeat in the past, we had a take home baby. So I’m feeling happy and hopeful.
Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 1 MC, 1 CP
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I’m feeling ok but it seems to swing drastically day to day. On days I’m feeling better I stress HARD that my symptoms are gone and that this is coming to an end. So it sucks because the days I’m physically feeling better, emotionally I’m a mess, and vice versa.
Any appointment updates?
Yes! I had my US last week and was measuring spot on at 8+2 with a strong heartbeat of 176. It was a vaginal US so of course later that night my bleeding got worse and I panicked (I have a SCH and have had spotting on and off for over two weeks now). I also had my first “official” appt with the OB and she went over the US results with me and basically said everything looks perfect and there is nothing to worry about, but I still can’t stop the worrying. Hoping this stress goes away once I’m out of the first trimester!
Any big milestones? Just the US! It was such a relief to see a strong heartbeat and know that we’re measuring right where we should be.
Rants/Raves/Questions?
I’m just exhausted but we have a lot going on this fall and I just want to not be busy so I can sleep when I’m not working. Yesterday I fully cried about it 😂 Hormones are a trip haha
@morgantu I definitely look 20 weeks pregnant already too:/ And I'll be 43 in February (the 28th...) it's a good month! The only thing that they did differently for my pregnancy at 40 with DD2 vs my pregnancy at 34 with DD1 was that I got the NIPT. Other than that I has less attention than with my first. Here they don't really consider you AMA until 42 so I'll to see if they do anything differently this time around...
@btate01 I can commiserate with the emotional vs physical feelings. I was so stressed before the US yesterday because I was feeling so good physically! Everything was great and I threw up all night, but not feeling those symptoms can be so triggering (which is sort of ridiculous for me since I never lost my symptoms with my MMCs...and yet here I am...).
Could not find the time to chime in last week but happily updating this week! Happy we are all still here ❤️
@Panaceia congrats on such a great US. SO happy for you!! @morgantu sounds like your OB practice is a little more proactive. Probably not a bad thing until they tell you it’s only because you’re AMA 😥
Weeks/EDD? 10+1, March 10th!
Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC in April of this year.
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically have had a great last 4 days with minimal nausea which of course has me spiraling, this happens like every other week now and I have to talk myself down until im miserable again. I havent been able to find babe’s heartbeat with the doppler yet and by this time with my first it was easy at this stage. I’m thinking either tilted uterus or anterior placenta. Either way, cant wait to start feeling consistent movements.
Any appointment updates? Nothing until 8/25.
Any big milestones? Not this week.
Rants/Raves/Questions? Anyone struggling to tell family/friends? I find myself wanting to wait as long as possible this time
@night_nurse The only people we told are my parents and only because they are out of town and if the ultrasounds hadn't gone well I would have needed them to watch the girls during surgery which would have had to happen the next day. Other than that we are not planning on telling anyone...
@night_nurse totally understand the hesitancy in telling folks. We’ve told many people, but I think that has just been because we happened to see folks in person that we usually don’t get to see. For one of my losses, nobody but my husband knew at the time, and I found that to be much harder for me than having folks close to me to provide comfort and prayer. I appreciated not having to fake happiness around those people. But that is 100% a personal call.
@night_nurse With our daughter, we didn’t “announce” officially until a month before she was due. Those who needed to know (immediate family and my coworkers/friends) knew. We had almost announced the pregnancy before her, and lost the baby a few days after 12 weeks.
This time I haven’t told anyone, aside from having to tell my boss this past week after being told to take a week off by my OB. Really don’t want to tell my coworkers yet, so will have to come up with some reason for why I’m on modified this time.
We agreed that we won’t do a social media announcement this time until baby is in our arms. Those who need to know will know.
We won’t tell our daughter until 4 months, and then will have her help us tell the grandparents. I’m looking like I’m 4-5 months along already due to bloat, so have been wearing lots of oversized empire shirts and draped cardigans.
I’m such a private person as is, and one of our first losses my MIL told everyone (extended family, her church, all of their friends), we then had to deal with people calling, sending cards, etc. I just wanted to crawl into bed and hide out, so having to rehash it constantly was difficult.
Subsequent losses we hadn’t told anyone, and I felt like I could process and move forward without having to endure others not knowing what to say etc.
However, our 12 week loss we hadn’t told anyone, and I felt so alone and broken. It was awkward to bring it up a loss when nobody even knew about the pregnancy, and grieving that one was really tough on our own
I always have that hardest time telling people and knowing when to tell. It gives me a lot of anxiety. *TW* I actually blame a bit of it on my SIL. When we told her and her family about my first pregnancy I was 9 weeks along. She was upset I told them so early (even though we had seen the heartbeat) because she didn't want to tell her kids if something went wrong. Well then I miscarried at 11 weeks (1 day away from 12 weeks). It was horrible. I felt so stupid and so much shame. We plan to wait as long as possible to tell them.
@nightnurse I'm starting to unexpectedly have trouble telling people. Personally, I have preferred to tell people early because after going through our first loss alone, it was a world of difference having the love and support with the second one.
However, we are not exactly getting positive reactions when we tell people about this pregnancy. There is no excitement or happiness or "congratulations!". Everyone is just like, "really? Oh.." And I don't understand and it's starting to hurt. it's kinda making me want to stop telling people, and just show up with a baby one day..
I'm sorry people aren't more excited for you @goldfishcraker 😞 I find that sometimes when people know about my losses they are more cautious in showing their happiness early on...I bet as you get further people will start showing more excitement ❤
@kgg2241 I'm a little shocked that your SIL would say that to you and I'm so sorry she made you feel that way. You had every right to share your happiness when you felt comfortable doing so!
@goldfishcraker, im so sorry everyone’s reactions have been completely disheartening. That is a huge fear of mine also, and probably part of the reason I am holding back.
@kgg2241, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you are getting more support and love this time around for this babe. I feel like when we do share the news it’ll just open a huge can of worms and I’m such a private person, I prefer to just keeps things close.
@Jeenyus our personalities sound very similar. With our loss I was honestly glad such few people knew. We were able to process it ourselves and grieve without having to take on all the grief of our loved ones who would have known too. I need to let go of the idea that there is a “right” way to do this and just choose what is best for us. Thank you for your perspective.
@rachelredhead we also want to be able to tell people in person and going back down into a modified lockdown with this current surge isn’t helping us be able to see anyone. Im glad you’ve been able to share with so many people!
@Panaceia I think my heart is telling me to wait and keep this our little secret for a while longer. Thank you for the input!
Gah! I sooooo need new maternity leggings, but my mind won't let me buy any before my 12 week scan, just in case. I bought a bunch of new maternity tops with my first loss and felt so dumb. I wore one of the tops to my bad ultrasounds with both my first and second loss...and then decided they were jinxed and never wore them again. So I have a bunch of gorgeous maternity tops that I did not wear with DD2 and will not wear with this one. They're not nursing tops anyways and since I'm still breastfeeding DD2 I wouldn't be able to wear them much regardless BUT I do need leggings. And I now realize I need some maternity nursing shirts too....which I'm sure I'm also going to have a hard time buying 😬 Has anyone bought new mat clothes yet this go round? I'm seriously panicking at the thought of buying something, even though I really need it, because I'm convinced it's going to make something bad happen...😅
@Panaceia I struggled to find any maternity clothes last time. Serious lack of options around here. And NO ONE TOLD ME ABOUT THE AMAZINGNESS OF MATERNITY PANTS! Until I was like... 18 weeks haha. Life changing! I was lucky though, and a friend who is my height, passed down her maternity clothes to me. So I only bought a few things, and then nursing sweaters and bras once baby came.
Also, I didn't find out until like, 34 weeks that maternity underwear is a thing and is AMAZING!!
Im hoping to buy a couple cute pieces this time. Most of what I was given was 3rd+ hand and is worn out now.
@Panaceia i just cant bring myself to spend a ton of money on clothing that i’ll only wear a few months- although resale value is typically good for maternity clothes. I just bought a lot of clothing from gap, motherhood, and pea in the pod off a seller on Mercari for $80. I too had some serious hesitation buying them for fear that I would jinx myself but buying it secondhand made me feel less stressed that if I just tossed it all it wouldnt be a huge loss.
@goldfishcraker@night_nurse My mat clothes are all stored in the basement somewhere so I should probably pull them out before I actually decide what I need...but again, I feel like I'm going to jinx myself if I pull them out before my 12 week us:/ I figue my yoga pants and nursing tops can get me through until then...honestly I don't buy many mat clothes either, just the essentials to get me through...but all my mat clothes are like 8 years old now and I'm pretty sure my leggings were on their last legs already with DD2 😅
@night_nurse I’m having major anxiety over telling people this time. I’ve only told two friends so far and that’s only because one gave me an ultrasound when I was having some bleeding and one came to visit me for to do some previously planned wine tasting 😂 I haven’t told anyone else but as 12 weeks slowly approaches I keep getting both a sense of relief and a sense of dread, both wanting to just tell people and wanting to never tell anyone. I told all of my friends very early with my last pregnancy, and while it was so nice to have their support, it was also devastating to have to tell them all when I miscarried. In my mind, I think I’m equating sharing the news with something bad happening, so now I just don’t want to say anything for fear of something going wrong.
@Panaceia I just ordered from H&M last night, two leggings, two tanks and two tshirts. I’m sick of looking like Winnie the Pooh - my chest and lower tummy are super fluffy right now, so my shirts keep rolling up.
Also ordered myself another snoogle lol, I’ve been having such a hard time sleeping!
@Jeenyus I have 2 snoogles (I even got a kid sized one for DD1 last pregnancy). Not only do I think they are magical for pregnancy sleep, they are also magical for kid sleep. I'm just working on rearranging my room so that I can change to a king sized bed...I still bedshare with DD2 and need the extra room for my snoogles! My doctor did indeed put me on medical leave at my appointment today, so at least I don't need to worry about fitting into any work clothes any time soon...
@btate01 I am having the exact same dichomoty of emotions re: telling people about the pregnancy. Some days I feel excited like I want everyone to know and in the next breath im thinking “im not telling anyone until 20 weeks+”.
So we're in the mountain for the week (it's gonna rain all week ugh) but I feel better than I have in weeks and even drank some coffee this morning. I think it's because I've been mostly sitting around (lots of activity makes my nausea worse) but it does have me freaking out a little. I know it's ridiculous but that nausea is so comforting so sometimes.
@morgantu I totally get it. I hate being so sick but any time I feel even a bit better my anxiety kicks in:/ I've read studies about how the fresh air actually helps reduce nausea in pregnancy so I'm sure it's also partly that! Enjoy a few moments of not feeling like dirt for me!
@morgantu i am the same way. Was spiraling earlier this week because i felt great and wasnt able to locate babe with the doppler. Now feeling utterly terrible again and finding the heartbeat easily 😂 im glad your good days lined up with your trip and that you’re getting rest!
@morgantu I feel you my friend. I've had 3 rather big bleeds (big for pregnancy, not big as in dangerous to my life) in the last 8ish days. The most recent was this am. And this afternoon, I realized I am way less nauseated than I've been, and now I'm freaking out. As miserable as the nausea is, it's at least a comforting sign...
@morgantu@goldfishcraker I feel you both! I’ve been dealing with a SCH and I’ve convinced myself so many times that the worst is happening because my symptoms are dwindling…especially when that lines up with any kind of bleeding. Even when I’m nauseous I convince myself that I’m not nauseous enough, which is so dumb 🤦🏼♀️ I can’t help it though!
@morgantu That has been my life the past few weeks - symptoms come and go, and go from really strong to nonexistent. When I cramp I worry somethings wrong, but then when I don’t cramp I worry the same thing.
@goldfishcraker The same here over the past two weeks. Bleeding, cramping. Last week I was having bright red blood. But ultrasounds showed all is well. It’s so worrisome.
@goldfishcraker and @Jeenyus I am sincerely thinking of you both. Bleeding during pregnancy is so terrifying and I know you don't really have a choice in the matter, but I admire your strength.
Thanks ladies!❤️ My OB laughed at me today (in a good way, we have a great relationship) when I told him I'd been freaking out about the decrease in symptoms. He told me "be thankful for the reprive, because we know you, and how rough things are for you. So enjoy the little break while you can. Today you saw baby. Today you get to relax".
And of course, all evening it's heartburn and nausea again 😅
Re: PGAL Check In 8/12
First US was today. Nugget was measuring 1 day ahead of what I thought, so 8+2 instead of 8+1 with a nice strong heartbeat...and actually looked like a nugget.... Doctor's appointment on Monday, and then NIPT on the 30th.
Any big milestones?
We have a heartbeat 💓 Both times we've had a heartbeat we've brought a baby home...now we just need to get through the NIPT.
Weeks/EDD? 8+5 3/20
Any big milestones? like @panaceia, a heartbeat is a huge milestone for us so i'm feeling great about that.
Any big milestones? Like previous posters, Heartbeat is a huge hurdle for us. When we have had a healthy heartbeat in the past, we had a take home baby. So I’m feeling happy and hopeful.
9 weeks 3 days
1 MC, 1 CP
I’m feeling ok but it seems to swing drastically day to day. On days I’m feeling better I stress HARD that my symptoms are gone and that this is coming to an end. So it sucks because the days I’m physically feeling better, emotionally I’m a mess, and vice versa.
Any big milestones?
Just the US! It was such a relief to see a strong heartbeat and know that we’re measuring right where we should be.
@btate01 I can commiserate with the emotional vs physical feelings. I was so stressed before the US yesterday because I was feeling so good physically! Everything was great and I threw up all night, but not feeling those symptoms can be so triggering (which is sort of ridiculous for me since I never lost my symptoms with my MMCs...and yet here I am...).
@morgantu sounds like your OB practice is a little more proactive. Probably not a bad thing until they tell you it’s only because you’re AMA 😥
Any big milestones? Not this week.
This time I haven’t told anyone, aside from having to tell my boss this past week after being told to take a week off by my OB. Really don’t want to tell my coworkers yet, so will have to come up with some reason for why I’m on modified this time.
We agreed that we won’t do a social media announcement this time until baby is in our arms. Those who need to know will know.
We won’t tell our daughter until 4 months, and then will have her help us tell the grandparents. I’m looking like I’m 4-5 months along already due to bloat, so have been wearing lots of oversized empire shirts and draped cardigans.
I’m such a private person as is, and one of our first losses my MIL told everyone (extended family, her church, all of their friends), we then had to deal with people calling, sending cards, etc. I just wanted to crawl into bed and hide out, so having to rehash it constantly was difficult.
Subsequent losses we hadn’t told anyone, and I felt like I could process and move forward without having to endure others not knowing what to say etc.
However, our 12 week loss we hadn’t told anyone, and I felt so alone and broken. It was awkward to bring it up a loss when nobody even knew about the pregnancy, and grieving that one was really tough on our own
Personally, I have preferred to tell people early because after going through our first loss alone, it was a world of difference having the love and support with the second one.
However, we are not exactly getting positive reactions when we tell people about this pregnancy.
There is no excitement or happiness or "congratulations!". Everyone is just like, "really? Oh.."
And I don't understand and it's starting to hurt. it's kinda making me want to stop telling people, and just show up with a baby one day..
@kgg2241 I'm a little shocked that your SIL would say that to you and I'm so sorry she made you feel that way. You had every right to share your happiness when you felt comfortable doing so!
@kgg2241, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you are getting more support and love this time around for this babe. I feel like when we do share the news it’ll just open a huge can of worms and I’m such a private person, I prefer to just keeps things close.
@Jeenyus our personalities sound very similar. With our loss I was honestly glad such few people knew. We were able to process it ourselves and grieve without having to take on all the grief of our loved ones who would have known too. I need to let go of the idea that there is a “right” way to do this and just choose what is best for us. Thank you for your perspective.
@rachelredhead we also want to be able to tell people in person and going back down into a modified lockdown with this current surge isn’t helping us be able to see anyone. Im glad you’ve been able to share with so many people!
@Panaceia I think my heart is telling me to wait and keep this our little secret for a while longer. Thank you for the input!
And NO ONE TOLD ME ABOUT THE AMAZINGNESS OF MATERNITY PANTS! Until I was like... 18 weeks haha.
Life changing!
I was lucky though, and a friend who is my height, passed down her maternity clothes to me. So I only bought a few things, and then nursing sweaters and bras once baby came.
Also, I didn't find out until like, 34 weeks that maternity underwear is a thing and is AMAZING!!
Im hoping to buy a couple cute pieces this time.
Most of what I was given was 3rd+ hand and is worn out now.
Also ordered myself another snoogle lol, I’ve been having such a hard time sleeping!
@Panaceia I just whipped out the maternity clothes this week, I look like I’m 20w it’s insane
@kgg2241 I’m so sorry your SIL did that to you, that’s horrible
Any big milestones?
I've had 3 rather big bleeds (big for pregnancy, not big as in dangerous to my life) in the last 8ish days. The most recent was this am. And this afternoon, I realized I am way less nauseated than I've been, and now I'm freaking out.
As miserable as the nausea is, it's at least a comforting sign...
@goldfishcraker The same here over the past two weeks. Bleeding, cramping. Last week I was having bright red blood. But ultrasounds showed all is well. It’s so worrisome.
My OB laughed at me today (in a good way, we have a great relationship) when I told him I'd been freaking out about the decrease in symptoms. He told me "be thankful for the reprive, because we know you, and how rough things are for you. So enjoy the little break while you can. Today you saw baby. Today you get to relax".
And of course, all evening it's heartburn and nausea again 😅