All the do's and dont's of pregnancy are a bit much. Women have been having babies for centuries without all these extra "rules". Obviously alcohol and drugs are bad. But caffeine and cold meats and sushi( if that's your thing) are a little much.
I'm ashamed to say this, but I am experiencing a bit of gender disappointment. I always thought those people were so selfish, but here I am. I always envisioned myself as a boy mom, was really only looking at boy nursery things, etc...I feel like I need to start over. And of course, I am thrilled that all our screenings came back negative. Healthy is the most important thing. I just need to get excited about little girls!
@AshleyGemini24 I agree. I never stopped drinking caffeine (although I did cut back by about 50%, which is probably a good thing to do in general). I have to admit that I still feel a little weird about eating deli sandwiches, but I do it occasionally anyway. It's crazy the way that stuff just permeates your brain, and while I'm sure there's SOMETHING to it, the risk is so rare that anything will go wrong, but yeah, it still makes me think twice.
@fifilala516 Try to not feel ashamed, and you'll get zero judgment from me. I know how you feel though, because I went through it when I found out my second was going to be another boy. You'll totally get there at some point, the more you start getting used to the idea of a girl. I'm actually experiencing the same thing, and I chose a girl! I'm so used to boys that it's been weird for me to pick out girl clothes, and to imagine having a little girl in general.
@AshleyGemini24 I won't have any raw sushi, but I still drink coffee (although I either do full decaf or half decaf/half regular) and will eat deli meat if the mood strikes.
I still do caffeine in moderation, but not everyday. (Most in the form of Chai). I'm trying to limit my sugar in-take anyway, so that I'm not creating bad habits for post-partum, and all of the caffeinated drinks I like are full of sugar. (I cut out most forms or processed/refined sugar prior to getting pregnant).
I guess my UO is that black coffee is gross. I don't know how anyone drinks it!
@magalina_h Black coffee is CRAZY to me. I mean, I like the taste of coffee, but whoa... I gotta cut it a little bit with some milk and sugar. My 2 year old says black coffee is good He likes to spoon the milk foam off my lattes, and then sometimes I'll give him a tiny sip of the coffee part, which again, is full of milk and sugar, and he likes it a lot. Once he asked to have a sip of my dad's coffee, and my dad let him. My kid LIKES IT. I mean, he could be kidding with us, but he asks every day we see my parents. It's funny.
My UO is that White Claw (and any other hard seltzer like that) is nasty.
@fifilala516 I wouldn’t feel guilty. With my son I wanted a girl so bad (even though I always knew he was a boy). When we found out I cried. I don’t think I honestly got over it until the moment he was born. I felt like I knew nothing about boys and wouldn’t know how to parent one. Now we are a year in and he’s such a mommas boy and I can’t imagine having a little girl (which i better get used to because this one is a girl).
@fifilala516 I am in the same boat as you and feel the same way! I envisioned myself as a boy mom too. I'm not really girly and thought the stereotypical rough and tumble lifestyle with a boy sounded much more appealing than prissy pink princess stuff 24-7. I'm glad to hear your little girl is healthy as well! I'm working on being excited about having a girl too. Going into Target or Buy Buy Baby and looking at clothes/toys/decor helps. There's a lot of cute stuff that's geared toward girls, but isn't pink ballerinas and Disney princesses! My husband and I vowed to keep up our same lifestyle as we would have with a boy (hiking, camping, dirt bike riding, kayaking, etc...) and that we shouldn't have to change anything just because we're having a girl. Your feeling are valid and it will just take time to re-adjust!
@Lisa3379 yes! i hate seltzers! i like the low calories but the taste isn’t worth it!
i can’t remember what opinions i shared or not already so i’ll just go with the ones that always get a reaction from people. i hate coffee, taylor swift, beyoncé, seltzers, friends, and greys anatomy.
I agree with most of these!! I definitely think we’re a bit too paranoid during pregnancy about what not to eat. And white claw is definitely not my jam. It’s crazy how it’s so popular now. Black coffee is also gross to me!
My unpopular opinion is that Prince Harry and Megan Markle annoy the crap out of me. I’m tired of reading about them. I could go on and on- but I get annoyed just writing about them.
@karenmarie9 I don’t get the fascination with the royal family at all. I used to watch Suits so seeing Meghan Markle as a royal is just funny to me. That was a good show, though. But yeah, no use for the royals at all.
Probably a super unpopular opinion, but I'm not looking forward to the newborn stage once this little one comes out. The lack of sleep and not knowing her well enough yet to know what she wants stresses me out. I'm looking forward more to a few months down the road when they have more of a personality and allow you to get more sleep.
LOL, oh and I think getting drunk is overrated - I'm 40; one night of fun with a 3 days worth of hangover? No thank you! I did a lifetime of drinking in my 20's anyway! 😂
@owly13 i agree 100% i do not like the newborn stage- im a much better parent with a routine! Im hoping that since i have experience in that stage it will be a little easier- i think the major difference will be my lack of expectation to function on any level except for the lowest, lol! Im gonna keep this baby alive and that’s it.
@relizabethp I would agree with you about lockdown. Selfishly, it was nice to have an excuse to stay home and not have plans. Of course, DH and I got very lucky with our jobs and of course, our health. I also think with the way things are going with the Delta variant and the stagnant vaccination rates, we may be headed towards another lockdown.
@fifilala516 i am also suspecting that we will be shut down for fall! I will say that DH and I were lucky to keep working and stay healthy, especially DH because he is an essential worker and we own our own business. Also, my daughter was able to go to school! Thankfully she goes to a small school (190 kids preschool-8th) and they implemented many programs that kept the kids/staff distanced and the school clean. We only had less than 20 cases of COVID total and there was 0 spread in the school during the entire school year- i was impressed with what her school managed , it was a herculan effort, but they did it! I just liked the time together and when we did go out there was no traffic and no people- i miss that .
@owly13 - I am with you on the drinking! My husband and I were huge drinkers back in NYC (you never have to drive ha!) but gave it up almost entirely when we moved to California two years ago. I’d maybe drink 3 times in the last year before becoming pregnant. I don’t miss it and can’t really imagine being drunk ever again. Like you said though- I was drunk more than enough times in my 20’s (well and 30’s lol)
@relizabethp - I kinda miss lockdown too. It was nice not having to stress about plans.
Re: UO 7/22
I guess my UO is that black coffee is gross. I don't know how anyone drinks it!
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22
I'm glad to hear your little girl is healthy as well! I'm working on being excited about having a girl too. Going into Target or Buy Buy Baby and looking at clothes/toys/decor helps. There's a lot of cute stuff that's geared toward girls, but isn't pink ballerinas and Disney princesses! My husband and I vowed to keep up our same lifestyle as we would have with a boy (hiking, camping, dirt bike riding, kayaking, etc...) and that we shouldn't have to change anything just because we're having a girl.
Your feeling are valid and it will just take time to re-adjust!
i can’t remember what opinions i shared or not already so i’ll just go with the ones that always get a reaction from people. i hate coffee, taylor swift, beyoncé, seltzers, friends, and greys anatomy.
My unpopular opinion is that Prince Harry and Megan Markle annoy the crap out of me. I’m tired of reading about them. I could go on and on- but I get annoyed just writing about them.
LOL, oh and I think getting drunk is overrated - I'm 40; one night of fun with a 3 days worth of hangover? No thank you! I did a lifetime of drinking in my 20's anyway! 😂
@relizabethp - I kinda miss lockdown too. It was nice not having to stress about plans.