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PGAL Check-in 7.8

rachelredheadrachelredhead member
edited July 2021 in March 2022 Moms

This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). TW for entire thread due to discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc. 

Weeks/EDD?

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 

Any appointment updates? 

Rants/Raves/Questions? 
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  • kgg2241kgg2241 member
    edited July 2021
    @gembud Good luck with the wait until next week! I know how long it can feel. I'm getting my first US next Thursday too! 

    Weeks/EDD? 6 weeks today
    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MMC at 11 weeks in June 2018 prior to birth of my daughter in 2019. 
    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I think like all of us, I'm just holding my breath waiting for the 1st tri to pass. I am trying to stay positive and hopeful though. Physically I'm feeling fine. Maybe a little tired, but that's pretty much it. Trying not to let that worry haha. 
    Any appointment updates? Ultrasound next Thursday
    Rants/Raves/Questions? Nope!
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  • gembudgembud member
    @kgg2241 Ahhh yay we can wait it put together!
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  • goldfishcrakergoldfishcraker member
    edited July 2021
    Weeks/EDD?
    Super early haha 3w2d EDD Mar 25

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)?  2 losses. 6.5 weeks, and 10 wks. The second one, I had a class 3 hemorrhage. The ER super dropped the ball.

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 
    Excited. Nervous.
    Hopeful. Scared.
    I got my BFP this am, and 4 hours later, lots of cramping and some more spotting so I got that all too familiar sinking, hopeless feeling. But I'm hoping it was just little baby digging in there nice and deep.
    I'm crampy, and super sensitive to smells

    Any appointment updates? 
    I'll call the OB tomorrow. He will want me in, within the next 10 days

    Rants/Raves/Questions? Not at the moment!
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    Weeks/EDD?
    5w5d, March 10th

    Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 
    One loss in April of this year.

    How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 
    Emotionally, I am still wavering between wanting to restrain my excitement and detach until I know it’s safe, and dive head first into anticipation and planning.
    Physically I have had had light pink spotting twice after DTD which was triggering. Never experienced that with my first, successful pregnancy. It was brief and resolved both times but still put me right back in that head space of “oh f***, im bleeding.”

    Any appointment updates? 
    First appt was moved up to July 28th. Not sure yet if DH can accompany me to the appt. We wouldn’t have anyone to watch our toddler anyway so I will most likely be going alone although neither of us like that idea. I don’t think an ultrasound will be done at the appt though. It’s something the OB will order and I have to have done later that week.

    Rants/Raves/Questions?
    Anyone else’s partner/SO having a harder time talking about this pregnancy? I have to externally process emotions and thoughts, DH is the opposite. Since we aren’t telling anyone until a little later, I have no one else to process with, but he usually dismisses the topic claiming we shouldn’t get attached until we know. I agree, to an extent, but still desire to feel the initial excitement of early pregnancy. I think the hardest aspect of PGAL is the loss of innocence that a pregnancy = a baby. I had no cute way of telling DH this time. There was no shock and surprise and elation, fear tainted the whole experience of finding out. I guess this is also a rant. PGAL is freaking tough. Hats off to everyone navigating this. Those who are pregnant and their partners.
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @gembud happy ultrasound week! FX the days fly by for you. Can’t wait to hear how the appt goes

    @rachelredhead and @kgg2241 also totally anxious to kick the first tri’s butt and ease into the second- where I can also probably still be anxious.

    @Panaceia happy to be here with you too. And ready to celebrate every milestone with you! I think if your gut is telling you to go straight to your specialist then skip the unnecessary GP appt. I know healthcare works a little differently in Canada vs USA, but if that is an option, it sounds like it will save you time and likely having the specialist on board early will be best for you and babe.
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  • gembudgembud member
    @night_nurse 100% with you on the loss of innocence this time around. I just came out of the bathroom and said I’m pregnant today and he just stared at me and repeated ‘pregnant today’ like a zombie, definitely not the cutsie excitement filled moment you want. He’s definitely gotten better which has helped me calm down, but it’s hard for both of us still.

    And you always have us to process all those thoughts with ❤️
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @night_nurse Totally agree with everything you said. I wish there was a way to be able to relax but I find with PGAL there is literally no break from the stress. Thirty minutes after a perfect ultrasound I start to panic. I try to go in to every pregnancy optimistic. We can't control what will happen, but we can control how we choose to spend our time while pregnant...if that makes sense? So I try to enjoy it as much as I can...the nausea and vomiting included :) Also I think guys process loss differently. I'm sure he'll start to get more excited once you're a bit further along:)
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  • kgg2241kgg2241 member
    Oh yeah, add me to the sadness over the loss of innocence. I joined a March BMB Facebook group for a hot second and ended up leaving. So many of them were announcing on social media at like 4 and 5 weeks. It was just too much for me and I felt really bitter that they could feel so confident that things will work out.

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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @morgantu I had an appointment booked with a fertility clinic when I got pregnant with my second (I had cancelled when pregnant before and then it ended in loss and I regretted canceling). I kept the appointment and was 7 weeks along when I went. I told them I was "maybe pregnant" and once they saw my loss history they gave me a surprise ultrasound right then and there and then let me come back once a week until 12 weeks for ultrasounds. It was so reassuring and honestly it's the only thing that kept me sane during 1st tri. I would definitely say to keep the appointment! I lived having them support me the first 12 weeks.

    @rachelredhead I get this so much. You are completely right that no one understands loss until they have gone through it. 

    @kgg2241 I don't announce at all...I can't imagine announcing so early! For me dark lines, perfect betas and a growing belly mean nothing since I've learned the hard way that none of these things mean you get to bring home a baby. I would have left that group too!
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  • goldfishcrakergoldfishcraker member
    Anyone else check the TP after every. Single. Wipe?
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @goldfishcracker Yes...and if it looks like there's even a little bit if colour I go...exploring...to see if it is something or not...😅
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  • luckyduck42luckyduck42 member
    @goldfishcraker yup! Not sure if it makes me feel better or worse, though.
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  • quiltandknitquiltandknit member
    @goldfishcraker yep. Definitely makes me feel better!  I also still POAS twice a week or more, even though my beta yesterday was 4000+. Counting down the days until that first ultrasound.
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  • gembudgembud member
    @goldfishcraker oh yea sometimes I’ll just go in to wipe and check when I don’t even have to go

    @quiltandknit wohoo for awesome betas 🎉
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  • morgantumorgantu member
    @goldfishcraker every time and probably won't stop until baby is born.... All this extra discharge doesn't help. 
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  • goldfishcrakergoldfishcraker member
    @morgantu I did it my entire last pregnancy.🙈 Then again, I had a lot of spotting (and even one really bad bleed at 32 weeks) throughout. I ended up on progesterone nearly the entire pregnancy. Except for like.. 10 days at 15 weeks when they tried weaning me off (started spotting again) and then after 36 weeks.


    Thanks ladies! I'm glad it's not just me! DH came in to shower yesterday, and he was like, "uh, why are you inspecting the TP like you're gonna find winning lotto numbers or something?!"😅
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @goldfishcraker guys comments Crack me up sometimes! I told SO last night that I was probably going to be wasting a lot of tests this next week because of yesterday's scare. He said ok but then warned me to be careful I don't get addicted to them 🤣 I looked at him weird and he was like "what? Wrong thing to say?" 🤦‍♀️
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  • jlbaker08jlbaker08 member
    @goldfishcraker every. single. time.  I told MH that I am paranoid and check every time, but he just doesn't get it

    @Panaceia if you do find the winning lotto numbers, let me know, I'll start checking harder for them.
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  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    @Jeenyus Sending so many good thoughts your way and hoping this little one is just like your daughter!
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  • night_nursenight_nurse member
    @Jeenyus sending every positive vibe and sticky baby thought your way <3
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