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Trouble TTC
jlynn9558
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New girl, hesitantly excited
jlynn9558
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in Trouble TTC
So DH and I have been TTC since 2011. He was navy until 2017 and we finally saved "enough" for treatment. Tricare did us the favor of testing up to this point but the military believes if you have a BMI > 35 you're not allowed to have fertility treatment. So private out of pocket we go.
Today was the first day at the clinic for the baseline scans and bloodwork. I met virtually with the doctor back in April and he had me lose 20 lbs to start the process of ovulation indication and IUI. Today I came in a pound under our agreed weight and was so totally psyched! I met with the doctors partner today and now they want me to redo the uterine scope and biopsy and an in office test like the HSG because it's been a few years since my last test. And... of course a new sperm sample. We know its PCOS and hormones out of sync so injectables is our next course of action.
Back to the office once a week for the rest of the month for tests and ultrasounds. Best part... we have to travel an hour and a half to two hours away to the clinic because the local clinic also won't work with us until I lose another 20 pounds. I have lost a lot of weight in the last year. I'm not eligible for bariatric surgery so this has been all sheer will and sweat and blood to make this happen. I'm at 259 lbs now, I need to he at 240 lbs for IVF.
Anyway, this process has taken over all of my brain processing power and my husband is being really passive about this because he said he won't believe I'm pregnant until I reach the end of my first trimester, he's scared of the heartbreak of miscarriage. I just need some support and someone else going through the process. All of my other friends have kids and they don't understand what lengths we have gone through. On top of that we're being called selfish because we want to bring a child into this world during a pandemic... so *sigh* I hope someone else understands.
Today was the first day at the clinic for the baseline scans and bloodwork. I met virtually with the doctor back in April and he had me lose 20 lbs to start the process of ovulation indication and IUI. Today I came in a pound under our agreed weight and was so totally psyched! I met with the doctors partner today and now they want me to redo the uterine scope and biopsy and an in office test like the HSG because it's been a few years since my last test. And... of course a new sperm sample. We know its PCOS and hormones out of sync so injectables is our next course of action.
Back to the office once a week for the rest of the month for tests and ultrasounds. Best part... we have to travel an hour and a half to two hours away to the clinic because the local clinic also won't work with us until I lose another 20 pounds. I have lost a lot of weight in the last year. I'm not eligible for bariatric surgery so this has been all sheer will and sweat and blood to make this happen. I'm at 259 lbs now, I need to he at 240 lbs for IVF.
Anyway, this process has taken over all of my brain processing power and my husband is being really passive about this because he said he won't believe I'm pregnant until I reach the end of my first trimester, he's scared of the heartbreak of miscarriage. I just need some support and someone else going through the process. All of my other friends have kids and they don't understand what lengths we have gone through. On top of that we're being called selfish because we want to bring a child into this world during a pandemic... so *sigh* I hope someone else understands.
Re: New girl, hesitantly excited
Also, congratulations on loosing all that weight! Sounds like you've had tough couple of years, with weight loss, ttc, and unwanted unsolisited advice. You're being selfish for wanting a child? a family? Oh gosh people sould mind their own!
Anywho, I understand you're feeling alone and I understand your DH's point of view too. I think he is actually affraid to get attached, to be happy etc. I think here you will feel a lot more supported from people you don't really know than how you feel from people you know and love INR. At least that has been my experience so far. I feel like I can talk more freely, that you guys will understand a bit better.
I wish you good luck, and if you want someone to talk/chat/vent to I'm here!
If you ladies would like to start up an ongoing conversation I'm happy to login more frequently. This board has been so quiet of late and since I'm not in full blown treatment I haven't been frequenting any of the other boards. I am currently awaiting surgery for endometriosis and just thought to check in today since I had a follow-up with the surgeon... still delayed since I'm in Ontario, Canada and all non-emergency surgeries have been cancelled since January until about mid June. There is a major backlog. They said they are trying to prioritize patients who are seeking fertility treatments but could still be a substantial wait. We have already burned through our supported round of IVF in 2019, and just got a referral and first consult with a new fertility clinic to talk about options. Basically our only option is a 2nd round of IVF. So now we have to figure out timing.... do we wait for surgery, do we want to try a retrieval before surgery and risk if my name comes up on the surgery list being bumped to the back of the line...
First of all, I want to say to all of you that I am sorry for all that you've been and are, going through.
OP do not listen to the judgements, like @dutchessmom and @hithertorue have said so nicely. People are always going to find something to judge, comment and be negative about, if that's what they want! You're selfish for wanting to bring a baby into this world, and apparently I'm just stupid for not having a child so far (39yo) so now it's all over for me... At least that's what "people" said to me.
@hithertorue I would really like it if there were a conversation. Things are too quiet here.
I'm single and ttc with sperm donor, I have PCOS, so now I'm contacting clinics to start the process.