WTF Wednesday 5/12

jackie_dunny · May 2021

What’s got you saying WTF?

jackie_dunny · May 2021

I know it’s Friday but I need to vent because I’m fuming and so heartbroken. So as I’ve mentioned before, I really can’t stand my SIL. We hadn’t told her about the pregnancy yet. I didn’t want to tell her at all but I knew that wasn’t going to happen and I figured DH and I would just discuss it once our friends knew (who were telling next weekend). My sisters still don’t know yet either, my brothers do because we’re closer but not my sisters yet.

Okay so backstory out of the way. DH told me today that he’s told his sister. He said it’s “something he’s been feeling anxious about for weeks” which I had no idea because he didn’t tell me this. I’m so mad that he didn’t include me in the when or how we tell her. He just went behind my back and did it without me. If he had discussed it with me, I would have said we can tell her but I want to be there and I’d at least like to tell our friends first since we’ve always planned on telling my sisters after we tell our friends. But nope, he just went behind my back and told her. Didn’t include me at all. And apparently that’s my fault because he “knows how I feel about her” even though I’ve ALWAYS put his feelings first when it comes to her. I’ve always put how I feel aside when it comes to his relationship with her. In fact, I put myself on the line last year with her and she ended up calling me a piece of shit but apparently that’s just forgotten about. And to top it all off he’s acting like he’s being such a good husband because “at least I told you about it.” Like, no hun. You were still super shady and secretive about it.

Part of what really upsets me when it comes to her is that she ALWAYS comes first. It used to be with all of them (MIL, FIL, and DH) but DH started to realize how freaking weird that was and how he should really be putting his girlfriend (at the time) first and he got a lot better. But it’s times like these where I just feel like she’s always going to come before me and I’m not important enough.

I get that he now has a rocky relationship with her ever since how she treated me last year and it’s hard to not have his sister in his life the way he used to and the way he’d like but to not include me in this is so wrong.

jenniferjoy37 · May 2021

@jackie_dunny oh girl, so sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with DH and let him know how telling her without you felt. Not the accusations (you hurt me by doing this) but more of the (I felt hurt when we couldn’t tell your sister together). Relationships are so hard, and feeling like you’re feelings are validated by your spouse is even harder.

doodleoodle · May 2021

@jackie_dunny the “at least I told you about it” part is such bullshit. I hope you called him on that. I also hope that with a little time and distance he’ll realize what a poor choice he made. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way ❤️

mayoduck · May 2021

@jackie_dunny Oof, that's such a hard spot to be in, I'm so sorry. You certainly have every right to feel upset (I know I'd be pissed!). I hope you're able to talk it through and come to a better understanding.

jackie_dunny · May 2021

Thanks ladies. We talked it out but I’m still pretty mad and upset about it

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