October 2021 Moms
chindimples04
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Weekly Randoms w/o 5.3
chindimples04
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TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 5.3
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
What is the etiquette on requiring people to be vaccinated to come to an event you're hosting? My mom wants to have a small sprinkle for this baby at the end of July and pretty much everyone on our short list is already vaccinated. I have 1 aunt who most likely is not, but it would be awkward to just not invite her but invite another aunt from the same area and side of the family. It also seems weird to ask if she is planning to get vaccinated before then. I told my mom I'd prefer everyone be vaccinated and she thinks that's too complicated and would rather do nothing for the sprinkle than require vaccines. UGH I hate Covid.
On my DD's BMB, I found it so uncomfortable when a bunch of random people came out of the woodwork and wanted to join when it was time to move to private group/Facebook. There were a couple posters who only ever posted in the HDBD thread, or maaaaybe posted once or twice on the weekly thread with their own updates only. They literally never interacted with another poster on TB, and only ever posted their own information. Never offered support, never answered or asked a question. But then wanted to join in on the private Facebook group. Like.... why? It makes no sense to me.
@grangerhp37 this is from the US CDC right now (not sure where you are located, my memory is terrible if you have shared). These are the guidelines my family is following. My husband is fully vaccinated and still wears masks everywhere.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
I don't particularly care about going out of my way to protect people who are choosing not to vaccinate, which would be the case with my aunt (and my brother and his fiance apparently, although they live far away and likely wouldn't be attending). It does seem insensitive but if they don't have specific medical reasons preventing them from being vaccinated, then I agree they're on their own if they were to end up getting sick.
I'm also hoping we'll be closer to herd immunity by the end of July, and hopefully this becomes a non-issue. I just personally have not been indoors, unmasked, with anyone unvaccinated since getting my vaccine in February. And prior to that, the only people that we would socialize with without masks were our parents, with our visits spread out by at least 2 weeks.
@galentine I know, that's how I feel too. And I don't particularly care to spend time with her anyway lol. I just think my mom, who would be throwing the shower, would rather not say "you can only come if you're vaccinated", even though she's been very cautious about covid this whole time.
@chindimples04 Thanks! I am in VA and our area has a pretty good rate of vaccination. I still wear my mask everywhere in public, especially indoors. We've started to socialize with a few neighbors who have been vaccinated, mostly outdoors but without masks. I guess by this if the shower were outdoors then it would be ok to not worry as much about whether people are vaccinated (although the unvaxxed people should be wearing masks which I guarantee they wouldn't be lol), but not if it's indoors. I really hope things are even better by the summer! I am tempted to tell my mom to just skip family all together and just invite my few local friends who I know are vaccinated.
Anyway, I'm fine with moving to a private group if y'all will have me but I'd rather wait till the end of the October clan is reaching third tri since I know many join in second tri. Hopefully only regular and engaged posters make it through!
@grangerhp37 I'd note in the invite that we are asking all people to complete their vaccination series by XX date in order to attend and maybe offer a virtual option for those who cant/don't want to be vaccinated (set up a zoom for gift opening and call it a day). I wouldn't police this though and just hope that they follow your request.
@grangerhp37 echoing @vampirina on the invite and offer a virtual option. Maybe you or your mom could subtlety let it slip that all/most of the invitees will be vaccinated to her?
This should probably go in the Unpopular Opinion thread, but my risk tolerance is higher than the CDC's. My family and I are fully vaccinated, and as young people, we are at very low risk of bad outcomes regardless. If there are people who had the opportunity to get vaccinated and have not, even if they are high risk, they are accepting the possibility of severe consequences. I think if people know up front what to expect (indoor vs. outdoor, vaccines and/or masks required or not) adult humans should be expected to make their own decisions according to their own risk tolerance and preference.
However, it's fair that you have a lower tolerance for risk than me. My question in light of that is, if neither your mom nor you (nor even your other aunt?) are close enough to ask your aunt whether she is vaccinated, why invite her?
I would def feel comfortable requiring everyone who's able (e.g., not kids basically) to be vaccinated before attending an event with people at high risk. Luckily, all of our parents are vaccinated already, but I'm planning on making sure they all know they need whatever booster might be appropriate + a negative test if they're coming to visit with the baby is born. I just am concerned enough that kids can't get the vaccine yet, and that there will be a mutation that is more harmful to children (toddlers or babies) that it seems like a fair ask. We are planning to through a backyard BBQ for July 4th and will still be asking adults to be vaccinated if they're coming (kids an obvious exception to that rule). I'm not trying to get even mild COVID while pregnant.
I'm super gullible/trusting, so if there is any nefarious business going on with anyone on this board, I will not be the person to sniff it out. I will follow along for all the drama though. There was one a few years ago that was caught because of improper comma placement. That was a fun rabbit hole to go down.
@cait32 I agree with your original comment. I love lurking and reading birth stories. I find labor and birth so fascinating. It really is a bummer that they're rarely posted anymore.
My last BMB (sept 2020) went to private bump group around the 3rd trimester and had a strict protocol that you had to be a fairly regular and recognizable poster and also the private group required posting a bump photo with your username and the date so that it could be confirmed you’re legit! And the admins had the ability to kick anyone who didn’t abide by the rules out. that made me so much more comfortable sharing more details in that setting especially birth announcement pics. I don’t post pics of my family on public forums. After birth most of them migrated to Facebook which I understand, a few still check back in in the private group which is nice to catch up with them from time to time!
the bump app sucks. I wish I could comment and reply but without a computer it takes forever and just sucks lol
@purplegoldpirate it also seems as if there are way more 2nd time moms over 1st time moms so I'm wondering if this space just isn't appealing to new members or if its too hard to find.