second time moms +

knottie3c07475eb2517083 · January 2021

is anyone pregnant with #4 or have 4+ kids?!

which transition was the hardest?
for me personally I feel like 2-3 was the hardest considering my older two were 6 and 4 when #3 was born.... I JUST got #3 out of diapers and here we go again 🤪

kitandcat · January 2021

I have 2

my son is 4 1/2 and my daughter is almost 3. This is definitely our last. I think DH would go for 4 or 5, but same as @cait32, the only way we’re getting there is with twins 😂

I’m so excited to see both of my kids with a new sibling. My 3 year old is so sweet, and she loves babies so much, and she’s such a caretaker. She is just going to be the best big sister. And it’ll be so nice to have a 3 1/2 year old with a new baby... my son was only 22 months when his sister was born and that was SO HARD. He still needed everything, all the attention, still in diapers, not able to follow directions to help, needed snuggled to go to nap, etc. I can’t wait to see him be a big 5 year old brother!! AHHH it makes me so excited to think about it!

bcliffee1 · February 2021

STM here, this baby will be baby #2 for us. Anyone have a 3.5yr age gap? I am wondering how the transition from 1-2 will be. It’s still new so DS does not know yet but I’d like to get him a doll or something this spring/summer for him to get accustomed to.

cenzosmomma · February 2021

@cait32 my first 2 are 18 months apart. When this baby is born, my older one will be 2 months shy of 4 and my little one will be almost 2.5... It would be a lie to say I'm not a little nervous about 3 kids 3 and under!!

Twindling · February 2021

This will be baby #4 for us. We went from 0-2 though so for me, that was the hardest transition lol honestly though, I think the child’s temperament determines the level adjustment (or “hardness”) your family has to accommodate to.

afmama7 · February 2021

Going from 2-3 was the toughest for us because we were outnumbered. This will be baby #6 for us, so I’m hoping it’s a smooth transition this time as well.

heatherdubrow · February 2021

@bcliffee1 My 2nd and 3rd are 3.5 years apart and it was actually way better than I thought. My middle is really helpful with my littlest and they're also close enough in age to play like friends.

This will be #4 for us, which feels overwhelming and I'm still getting my head around it. But thinking about telling my girls makes me more excited. They're obsessed with babies and are going to flip out when we tell them!

Kabazaba · February 2021

This will be #2 for me. I have a DD who just turned 2 so we'll have a 2 yr 9 month age gap -- which is the exact same age gap as my brother and I. I think it'll be a good age gap, because my 2 yr old is more and more independent every day. It obviously won't be all roses, but hopefully having her a little older will mean we can make her feel really special as a helpful big sister versus just feeling like she's giving up her spot to a younger sibling. I'm really not looking forward to not being able to take cat naps during the day though when this baby is here.

I feel like I haven't been well rested since I got pregnant with DD...

courtneyann0603 · February 2021

This will be #2 for me. I have a DD who is 10 months old so I will have 2 under 2! I’m super nervous about this transition, any advice? Thank you ladies

kitandcat · February 2021

@courtneyann0603 my son was 22 months when my daughter was born. Total honesty, it’s crazy! With two that little it is just messes and chaos all the time. But all of a sudden, “hard” just becomes your “normal” and it doesn’t feel as hard anymore because you just get used to it

My DH stepped up big time with being there for my son. I was exhausted, always nursing, and sleeping, and those first two weeks when my H was home he was fully on toddler duty and gave the little guy all the attention and love and that was essential to helping me not feel so guilty that I went from 100% focused on him to feeling like I couldn’t focus on him at all. And even though my son couldn’t really help with anything and still needed a lot (IE diaper changes, nap routine, etc) he was at an age where he was just super adaptable and went with it, because babies just go with the flow, you know? 🤣🤣

They are 4 1/2 and almost 3 now. They’re so close, have lots of similar interests, adore each other, and it’s super fun to watch them together! And my oldest doesn’t even remember his existence before his sister - in his eyes, she’s always been there. Which is cool

vampirina · February 2021

#3 for us! Poor baby # 3 is gonna have a hard time being #2's little. She is FIERCE and a total FORCE and a total attention hog. I have a feeling this will be a hard transition for her.

#1 is such an amazing big sibling. My two get along so well (usually) that I'm a little nervous to change the dynamic with a 3rd. But it'll be good.

Also this is likely our last. Looking into a tubal to make sure of it.

momofmiracles31889 · February 2021

So our first son turned 2 August 2020 and then our second son was born the beginning of September. So they are almost exactly 2 years apart. I will be honest the first 2 months were SO hard. Like sooo many tantrums and meltdowns and he had such a hard time sharing mommy. I am a SAHM and he was used to having so much of my attention. Also my baby had tongue and lip ties which went misdiagnosed until 2 months so I exclusively pumped for one month plus trying to nurse and bottlefeeding, continued pumping a lot for the second month and by 3 months quit altogether for the sake of everyone’s sanity. Fed is best. So that added to it bc I was pretty much tied to the pump or caring for my newborn 24/7 and didn’t have much time for my 2 year old. Once we got past this though it has gotten SO much better! Yes there are hard moments and there are tears but my boys are already becoming best buddies and it is THE SWEETEST. My now 2 1/2 year old still has jealous moments but I make sure to give him one on one time (which I highly advise) and overall he is an awesome big brother! Loves to get on the floor with baby during his play time and loves to snuggle him!

Now this baby will Lord willing be arriving 1-2 months after my oldest turns 3 and my youngest turns 1. So it will be an adventure 🤣 my husband told me if all goes as we hope he will be getting a vasectomy soon after baby’s arrival because we obviously are not good at natural family planning lol

OneRainDrop · February 2021

🙋🏻‍♀️ Pregnant with #4! We have thee girls (7, 5, 2)... am I crazy?! Maybe. Hahah both my husband and I had three siblings. We both knew we always wanted 4!

demimondaine · February 2021

@bcliffee1 I will have a 4.25 year age gap, and it definitely worries me! Plus there's the starting over factor

heatherdubrow · February 2021

@OneRainDrop I have 3 girls similar in age to yours! I definitely think I’m crazy...

lovemygirls- · February 2021

This is #5 for me, #2 for my fiance and I, and #6 total between us. Personally for me, going from 2 to 3 was the hardest..so far lol. They were all 2.5 years apart so when I had my 3rd, only my first could try to help and my ex husband at the time worked full time so I was always by myself with all 3. This time im going to have 2 under 2, but my fiance now is a lot more helpful than my ex was and my older kids can help out more,, so we will see how it goes😳🥰

OneRainDrop · February 2021

@heatherdubrow, we’re in this together! 🤪

@cait32- that’s so awesome to hear! I do love the book/movie Little Women, so don’t mind the idea of having my “little women” ❤️ There will be an 8 year gap between our oldest and youngest

heatherdubrow · February 2021

@cait32 I love that! Thank you so much, that’s really encouraging to hear!

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