GTKY: How did you and your SO meet?

cyanope · January 2021

Tell us your story! This has always been my favorite GTKY in my other BMB's, so hopefully it is fun for everyone else too!

cyanope · January 2021

I have known DH my entire life. Literally. Our grandparents had been friends since the 50's when they moved into the same neighborhood. So, my mom grew up with his dad. My FIL and my uncle were even roommates in college. Then, when they all grew up, my in-laws bought a house around the corner from my aunt and uncle. They all had kids close in age, so my cousins were BEST friends with DH's siblings. We all spent every summer at my aunt and uncle's pool, but being really young (and not interested in boys), I kept my distance. BUT, I did notice that he was really cute and really funny. As we got older, we spent less time at the pool, and I didn't see him much. Then, fast forward to our senior year in high school, we figured out that we had a mutual friend, and we started seeing each other more as our friend groups started spending more time together. I IMMEDIATELY noticed that the "cute" little boy had grown into a VERY attractive 18-year-old young man and set my sights on him pretty quickly. I called "dibs" with all of my friends right away. He, however, was not interested in me. He thought I was a "brat" (I'm a little aggressive), and unbeknownst to me, his best friend had called "dibs" on me. So, even though I pursued him hard, he did not reciprocate. Over the next six months, he started to develop feelings for me and realized that I was not truly a brat (and that I just come on a little strong), but stayed loyal to his friend and didn't act on anything. His friend FINALLY told him to "go ahead" (realizing that I wasn't interested back), and the rest is history! We have been together since 18, got married at 24 (sooooo young), have two beautiful babies, and celebrated our ten year wedding anniversary last year. He is absolute gold and I thank that 18-year-old girl EVERY day for recognizing his potential! Side note: the best friend is STILL his best friend today. They were both in each other's weddings, and still talk ALL THE TIME. Our kids are great friends, and he is a really important part of out life. So, don't feel too badly for him!

doodlemom131 · January 2021

@cyanope that is the cutest story! Might be hormones but I did shed a tear while reading that.

MH is an accountant (as are both his parents and brother), and I had just started working as an admin at the same firm as him. Apparently I met him at some point at a beer Friday in the lunch room, but I don't remember that.
I'd worked there for a few months and was out at one of the late hour bars downtown (where everything is messy and most people probably can't see straight). He was with some people I knew from work so I went over and chatted, very attracted to his beard (I have never seen him clean shaven). I insisted on buying him a drink and we made fun of people on the dance floor. When it was time to leave he offered to walk me home and we discovered we actually lived in the same apartment building, one apartment away from each other! Things progressed pretty fast from there and we will be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary in Feb!

mrspants0809 · January 2021

We met on MySpace. We had no one in common and he said he just saw my picture and looked at my profile and thought we had some stuff in common and that I was cute. He messaged me out of nowhere and I told him if he was looking for only s*x to keep looking. He insisted that he wasn’t and we talked for a few days and then met for a date. After that we were together everyday for the first almost year and a half we were dating. We met in May of ‘06, engaged in August of ‘07, married August of ‘08.

claireloSC · January 2021

Your stories are so cute!!

Love it. We met in a bar. I was writing in my journal being 21 and emo and lonely at the bar, DW came in and said "oh are you a writer?" and we got to chatting. We became pretty instant friends. I was dating someone long distance, but it was a new relationship that started right before I moved cross-country and didn't know if it would continue. She was dating someone pretty seriously. So I was instantly attracted but knew she didn't roll like that so said nothing. So we were just friends. After a few months, I moved back to the other side of the country and dated that person I had been in LDR with for another 18 months or so. Eventually, about three years later, I moved back to the West Coast again. Pretty much as soon as I got there my gf at the time dumped me (for my friend!!). DW and her gf also split around the same time. We'd stayed in touch so we were just hanging as friends. Finally after enough time had passed post breakups (like 4 months or so?) I finally made my move. It took her some convincing, she sort of wanted to be single and free but I wasn't having it. Lesbians uhaul quickly and I was afraid I'd be waiting another three years if I let her go! I convinced her she liked me, we started dating and here we are. That was more than 10 years ago and we met almost 14 years ago. We've been married 8 years this summer. The bar we met at has since closed but we got some merch before they closed to remember it by.

emmylou78 · January 2021

We met at work. I was actually his mini-supervisor. We are both nurses, though I have several years on him. We work in a moderately sized ER. He got married shortly after he started working there and we hire so many new people that he wasn't on my radar at all. I do have one direct recollection of him telling a story about his then-wife and thinking about how great it would be to have someone talk about me like that (insert mini-swoon). They weren't married long before they separated, but I was out of the loop on the hot gossip and it took longer to get to me. However, I noticed him following me around the unit a lot. I distinctly said something to my BFF, who also works with us that every time I'd turn around, he would be right on my tail! He disputes this. I invited him (and some others) to a boating trip. He declined because he was in mandatory work training. I was drinking and texting that day and asked where he was. He later told my BFF that I was drunk-texting. I was so embarrassed because texting while drinking and drunk-texting have very different implications! We went to lunch shortly after that. We hung out but I wouldn't make a move because I was worried about my job. Well, I'm 99% sure someone tattled to the manager. She took me in the office and said that there was no actual HR statute saying we couldn't date, only that they reserved the right to re-home one of us if needed. She was at our wedding and I joke that I had to get her approval for us to date! We started dating in 2017, engaged in 2019, bought a house and got married in 2020. We still work together, though I'm in a different role and not over his department.

bmo88 · January 2021

DH and I met in middle school. We lived across the street from each other. As in, his house was literally the house exactly across the street from mine. Our younger siblings played together a lot.

My dad joked that I should date a boy like the one across the street, since he was respectful and responsible. So at 15 (he was 17), I started dating him. Lol...I don't think my dad was actually that happy at the time.

We went to different high schools, different colleges (same city) and got married at 25 and 27 on our 10 year anniversary (well, 3 days after it so it could be on a Saturday). We now work together at the same organization too. We have a 3 year old and 2 dogs. It's been a fun and wild ride growing up together while still becoming different individuals building a life together at the same time. Our 2nd child is due a few days after what will be our 18th year together, which seems a little crazy.

emily1052 · January 2021

@doodlemom131 I’ve never seen MH clean shaven either!!

@claireloSC I love that you have merch from the bar! 😍

DH and I also met in a bar. He was playing in the band and I just thought he was the hunkest hunk ever! We made eyes at each other the whole show. Afterwards my very drunk little sister walked up and said I wanted to “party” with him. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I mean, I did but so embarrassing! After he was done packing up he came and talked to me until they kicked us out at closing. We exchanged numbers and he got on the bus and left.

Much to my surprise he called me the very next day!! We lived in different states so we talked on and off for about a year and saw each other when he came to town for shows. We started talking more and more and finally I realized he really liked me! Like a lot! 😂 he invited me to go to Italy (touring) and then I promptly moved to Texas to be closer to him. We’ve been together for 10 years. ❤️

pickle-chips · January 2021

We met at rugby tournament in university. It’s this ridiculous sevens tournament that’s played in an exhibition barn; it’s in March so it’s freezing cold. The “field” is just dirt and is not at all any kind of regulation size. The bar opens at 10am. We both played for our university, so we sort of knew of each from the fall season but had never really talked or spent time together. We were sitting next to each other during one of the games and this dad walked by with a kid on his shoulders and the kid had these adorable blonde ringlets. All the gals were cooing over this very cute kid and MH was like “I had hair like that when I was a kid” and I turned to him and said “can I have your first born” (spoiler alert: I did). We then spent the whole weekend talking and really enjoyed each other’s company but we were also both in dating other people, so nothing happened! Our rugby teams were very social, so we spent a lot of time together over the next couple of months. We both broke up with our SOs in that time and unlike @claireloSC we did not wait 😅 We started dating 3 days after I broke up with my bf (although, tbh that relationship had been over for a long time.

We’ve been together for 12 years, married for 8! And while our first kiddo didn’t have blonde ringlets, BB2 did 😆

jaxalia · January 2021

I love all these stories! Also it's crazy how many of us knew our spouses for a while - I feel like I'm always the only one in my group!

DH and I have known each other for a long time - we don’t totally remember when we first met but our dads were in the same board of directors for a campground and we saw each other at camp every major holiday in the summer.

I hit puberty early and have the reputation of being the well endowed pastors daughter 🤦🏻‍♀️ amongst DH and his friends, and I actually talked to a few of the guys he’d bring camping with him before we starting dating (I’ve always been a big flirt but to be fair he was in a “relationship” - if you can be at 15 - at the time).

DH was also crazy attractive and muscular from a young age (his mom loves to tell a story of some 18 year old girls staring at him at 13 and her marching over to tell them his age lol). I remember sitting on my parents boat when he walked by and thinking “damn. If I could have a guy like him I’d be set for life”

well he broke up with his girlfriend and I swooped in and scooped that up very quick lol. We did “intermediate distance” - 1.5 hours feels like a different country when you’re in high school and don’t have a car - lol all the way through college until we got married when I was in grad school.

We’ve been married for 4 years now and this is our first babe. I’ve gotten curvier (rounder) and he’s rocking a dad-bod these days but we’re more in love than ever. I’m a bit nervous for the new dynamic with a babe though - I know it will change things.

surrenderdorothy · January 2021

I love all these stories!!

Im with the ‘met my spouse in a bar’ crew. 😂 He was out for drinks ‘in the big city’ with a coworker he hated. The coworker hit on me and I wanted none of it. Later in the evening DH was next to me at the bar while we were both ordering drinks and we started talking. He asked me out within 20 mins. I had just moved for professional school and knew no one else except for a handful of classmates. DH came off as funny but nervous, had a great career (not in my future profession, a huge plus since most of my classmates seemed like pompous asshats) and seemed nice so I agreed. I wouldn’t say it was love at first sight- we are REALLY different people and, at the time, had basically no shared interests. We often joke that we never would have liked each other’s online profiles if we encountered each other via online dating. However on our first date he talked about his family, how close he is with his siblings, and his friends that he made a point to call every week. I knew right then he was a genuine person and our values were the same.

We’ve been together 10 years and married for 5. Now we have a ton of shared interests that we love to do together- cooking, wine, travel, home improvement projects. I still hate heavy metal and he won’t listen to Justin Bieber but we make it work anyway. 🙂

Kenneylynn3 · January 2021

DW and I used to work together at Starbucks. I was her shift supervisor at the time. We barely even talked to one another actually. Then one day my car didn't start and I had to get a ride to work. This led to being asked a bunch of questions about it and her coming over on her day off to fix it. One thing led to another and we became friends then started dating about 6 months after meeting. A year later we were engaged and married the following year. Now been married 4.5 years next month and known each other for 7 years come April. We have 2 dogs and a 2 year old in Feb.

hannelorre · January 2021

So many cute stories! Mine is little more boring ... we met in medical school. We were in bioethics class together and you learn a lot about a person talking about all the ethical dilemmas and death and dying... 😉

We did long distance for 2 years, got engaged during that time and got married when I graduated med school. We'll celebrate our 10 yr anniversary this spring.

obsessedwithoranges · January 2021

All these stories are so adorable.

DH and I met our 3rd year of law school. It was a big class, so i had actually had a few classes w him but never noticed him (he says he noticed me though!)

I met him through a friend who was interning at the same firm as him. I was quite drunk and flirty and my sweet DH who is a quiet guy was caught off guard In a very good way! He got my number and promptly called to ask me out on a date. Love at first sight for him, took me a little longer but not too much. We have been together for 8.5 years and married for 6.5.

ladyk127 · January 2021

I love all of these.

My FIL and my dad have worked together in the same industry since before I was born. The summer after my first year in college I was an intern for my FIL's company. I threw a going away party for one of the guys that worked with us that was moving to Australia. My FIL's sons were both invited to the party (since the older one, my now BIL worked in our Chicago office) I met my husband at the party because his brother was (very) drunk and hitting on me and trying to get me to go back to his hotel room with him. My husband came over to "save" me because his brother can be super obnoxious. that was in 2007. I was 20 and he was 24. We ended up dating after that for four years, got engaged when I was 24, and got married at 26. We had our son when I was 27, about two weeks after our first wedding anniversary.
My FIL made a speech at our rehearsal dinner the night before our wedding and joked that my father had brokered a deal with him that included promising his first-born daughter to one of his sons to get the deal done. We'll be together 13 years this year.

cyanope · January 2021

Seriously LOVING all of these stories!! They're giving me all the feels!

BourbonBiscuits · January 2021

These are so sweet!!

TW - abuse mentioned in the early parts of this story:

Our story is kind of winding. At the time, I was engaged to someone else who was abusive. We were months away from being married when I met my current husband. I was his boss and we became friendly. He recognized right away the abuse that was happening (I was pretty good at hiding it, but he saw straight through it because of his life experiences) and helped me understand what was happening. When I finally got the courage up to leave scary ex, my now-husband let me stay with him, let me use his car for transportation, lent me money (because scary ex had complete control of my finances), and he and his good friend literally made sure I left the building alive when I escaped. We got good and drunk the night after I left (it was right around Cinco de Mayo and Derby), and had sex. Since I was still staying with him, we became much closer and he helped me process the shit I was going through leaving my ex. He went out of town for a few months, my period was late, and all of a sudden we were pregnant with DS from that one wild night of margaritas. He is absolutely my best friend and the greatest person I know, and I still don't know how to thank him for literally saving my life. And then finding out we were pregnant turned out to be the big sign I needed that I was doing the right thing. It's been sunshine and roses ever since then! We waited until DS was 1 to get married. I'm still just so insanely grateful that he's in my life.

claireloSC · January 2021

So glad you're safe @BourbonBiscuits!

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