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August 2021 Moms
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PGAL 1/24
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This is a check in for those of us who are experiencing pregnancy after a loss (miscarriage, chemical pregnancy, stillbirth, child loss, to name a few). Hopefully we can all lend support to each other through the hormone filled ride that is pregnancy!
Just a reminder: there is a general loss trigger warning on this entire thread.
How far along are you? Any milestones?
How are you feeling (physically)?
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)?
When is your next appointment?
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Re: PGAL 1/24
How far along are you? Any milestones? 10+3 i've passed my date from last time, as long as we hear baby's heartbeat next week at OB appointment, then I'll have passed all milestones. fingers crossed.
How are you feeling (physically)? symptoms come and go. nausea is now just directly related to hunger, if i don't eat i feel horrible. as long as i snack i am usually ok but i can't overdo it or eat anything tomato or else the heartburn and acid reflux are on another level. otherwise feeling headaches and fatigue. and BLOATED
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? that's up and down as well. i am a lot more sensitive this pregnancy, last time i was really really angry all the time. idk if i knew something was wrong but i was so mad and constantly popping off on my partner lol. now i'm just really sentimental and i cry at everything. i'm also starting to feel hope which is really scary.
When is your next appointment? this wednesday i have a video chat with genetic counselor to order NIPT, and next monday 2/1 is my regular OB appointment
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) my mom is stressing me out about everything so i am avoiding her which makes me feel guilty because she's going through a lot personally. she's just constantly on edge about my health and how i'm feeling and how the baby is doing, i can't have that around me, i'm trying to operate from a place of calm. we're usually very close but i am screening calls rn to save my sanity.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 10+1 I’ve passed my milestone from my mmc
How are you feeling (physically)? Nauseous and tired all the time. I’m looking forward to feeling normal again
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? I can seem to shake the nervousness. I thought that after I passed my loss milestone I would start to feel less anxious and calmer. I am still just as anxious and nervous as before.
When is your next appointment? I have a video call with the genetic counselor on Thursday and then my next OB appointment isn’t until 2/11
Rants/raves/whatever: I just want to tell people. It’s so hard not being able to tell (my H wants to wait a little longer) and I’m always nervous I’m going to let it slip in conversation with people.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 9w3d, I passed my milestone.
How are you feeling (physically)? Still nauseous most of the time, but some bursts of energy in the morning.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? Eh, not great. I was doing alright, but then one night in the middle of the week I was in bed trying to get to sleep and this tiny voice in my head was just like “well maybe it’s a missed miscarriage this time”. And then I lay awake for hours dwelling in that negative headspace. @mrspants0809 I definitely thought I’d relax a little after passing my milestone, it seems to come and go in waves.
When is your next appointment? Friday for my first prenatal. I’m assuming that since I never heard from the hospital, the ultrasound requisition was not approved. So the best I can hope for is hearing the heartbeat via Doppler on Friday.
9 days away from when my MMC stopped growing last time.
Nine really, just super anxious and wish I could enjoy this pregnancy.
@pickle-chips I'm sorry you're struggling. It's really hard to get out of the negative headspace sometimes ❤️
@mrspants0809 a ton of people know here. I think they only ones that don't are my out-laws because I'm mad at them.
Honestly, I don't see the point of keeping it a secret because when I had my loss I needed all the support I can get. I hope all goes well and you can tell people soon!
How far along are you? Any milestones? 9+1 passed 3 out of 4 if I hear the heartbeat next appt.
How are you feeling (physically)? Blah. Tired and yucky which m kes me feel super unmotivated.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? Like a horrible mother/wife do to my lack of motivation. I know symptoms and being super bloated should help me feel better but they don't. I won't feel okay until I feel the baby move and even then I will become a crazy kick counter like I was with DS. So not really okay. I wanted to enjoy this pregnancy as it will probably be my last, but I'm struggling to do that.
When is your next appointment? Not until Feb 25th. I might go crazy between now and then.
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) see above (sorry I didn't know it was going to be so long..)
@cocoliso13 that's my whole family right now. They always ask how me and the baby is...I'm sick, but managing and I don't know. How should I know how the baby is?! It's frustrating to say the least.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 12w1d
How are you feeling (physically)? I'm finally starting to feel better (nausea wise) It was really bad this time but it seems to be subsiding now. I'm still very tired but cannot sleep. I'm also really itchy. It's like my body knows this is the last one, so it's trying to fit in all the symptoms I didn't get with my other pregnancies.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? I woke up today feeling anxious today for my appt tomorrow.
When is your next appointment? Tomorrow, Jan 26th. I have to get blood work done in the morning and then my ultrasound is at 1:00. I've already had one at 7w and saw the heartbeat so I'm hoping tomorrow is okay.
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) I cannot sleep at all. It's awful.. and last night I woke up and started panicking over what it would be like to be blind and deaf and how scary that would be and then I couldn't sleep, and also have a new worst fear. I don't understand why my brain can't just shut off like my husband's. So now I'm exhausted today, moreso than the other days.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 11+1 - passed all milestones from our last loss. We also have heard a heartbeat twice, which never happened with the previous loss
How are you feeling (physically)? Pretty terrible, which is good emotionally. Definitely some reassurance.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? Exhausted and anxious. Will I ever feel just blissfully pregnant like I did with my first two? Will there be a time when I'm not dreading every appt?
When is your next appointment? I go back at 14 weeks, so still a long time
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) my daughters second birthday is Friday and I'm so overwhelmed at work that I haven't done anything for her. Gonna be a long couple of nights getting everything pulled together to make a covid birthday fun
How far along are you? Any milestones? 8+6, passed loss, PTL at 23-24 weeks with #1 (healthy now!)
How are you feeling (physically)? yucky still with headache, nausea, fatigue, and no motivation, but hoping it starts to improve in the next week.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? blah. guilty about everything. stressed about screening.
When is your next appointment? screening at 10 weeks. no ob follow up for a month or so, but i am guilty of doppler at home (just started today...)
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) i hear everyone else that has a hard time enjoying pregnancy without anxiety/ fear. it really does stink
How far along are you? Any milestones?
12+5, I haven't passed my diagnosis milestones, but seeing a good NT scan made me feel a lot more comfortable.
How are you feeling (physically)?
Mostly okay. My stomach just feels weird all the time. Not quite nauseous but not normal.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)?
Yesterday was awful, I was in bed most of the day and barely ate a thing. I've generally been fine but I've been anxiously anticipating today, as it was the due date from my first pregnancy. I'm just heartbroken and I can't fathom how terrible I would feel if I weren't pregnant again. But of course I feel guilty about that line of thinking as well. There's no way to win.
When is your next appointment?
Blood draw for NIPT today and meet and greet with OB on Thursday.
Rants/raves/whatever (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Nothing much else to add.
@doodlemom131 (hugs) I'm dreading mine in April.
They told me that due to my high blood pressure issues in my last pregnancies that I need to start taking baby aspirin every day to prevent or delay the onset of high BP. Has anyone else had to do this in their other pregnancies? I trust my doctors and I am going to do it, but it does make me a little nervous (probably because of my past losses) to take something you're not supposed to take in higher doses. I'm sure it's fine but who would I be if I didnt find something else to worry about..
I am tempted to get my doppler from my friend but that will probably make my anxiety worse.
Anyone have tips on how they are handling their anxiety? I'm on meds and last time around I went to yoga but that isn't an option right now.
I also don't have the space to practice at home.
Have you tried directed meditations for pregnancy or positive thinking? Could be done lying in bed or out for a walk.
Have you tried guided meditation? I know it’s not for everyone and takes a bit of practice, but it could be a good alternative to yoga.
@grogu Writing help me ease my anxiety. I don't try to make it into anything that makes sense. I just let it be a constant stream of thoughts. My therapist always told me to focus on the facts. It helps to not let yourself run away with the "what if" or the unknown. Write down the facts, and the reasons you don't need to feel anxious and go back and reread it when you feel yourself spiraling. Numbers help me too. Statistics and probabilities. Even though we've all been on the other end of the assuring numbers, chances are, everything is okay. I know those numbers don't help everyone though.
I definitely tend to just sit in my anxiety and live with it. I've always been an anxious person.
My usual goto for self care is sewing but I don't have the energy for that, maybe in the next few weeks??
I'll try some guided meditation but I usually can't stand it 😂
I found the heartbeat within a minute! I was so surprised because I'm only 10 weeks today! 🤯
It's so reassuring but I'm going to try to only use it when I'm extra anxious.