again willing to go where the group goes, but my feelings definitely resonate with @texas_t here about feeling more personal on FB which is what i have always looked for with you group of gals
I feel the same as @brynn_mamaof4 about social media. Although I do have an Instagram account that I occasionally use. But Facebook is a big no in our home. Which is why I hope that we could stay on here until the babies are born, so we could stick together through pregnancy at least.
@texas_t I agree about facebook. I do feel it does become more personal and I've made true friends from my last BMB...I would hope to do the same with this one. I honestly don't even know what Reddit is 😳...I'm willing to try it but I do like the personal connection of FB and if reddit is still pretty annonymous, I agree.with @mimser, why wouldn't we just stay here?
I would be fine moving after. I think we started moving before last time but we all posted birth stories on the bump and stayed active until all the babies were out.
@mimser the only thing Reddit brings is privacy. On here, anyone can come and read comments and look at pictures. Though I don’t really care because they can’t see my name on here.
But I do understand the want for Facebook, even if I don’t personally use it.
And yes, all of my other bump groups didn’t make the move until after the babies were born. I do still keep in touch with a handful of ladies from my December 16 group, mostly through Instagram. About 1/3 of them deleted their Facebook accounts altogether a few months after the babies were born, for a multitude of reasons.
Gonna be honest, Facebook would well integrate with my habits and reddit would probably not work for me. It's hard enough for me to remember to come here. But I know I've not been the best participant, partly because my O16 group on Facebook is so active. I don't want to miss out on getting to know this group of awesome ladies just because my other group happened to be awesome first, but I'll totally understand if what works for the majority here isn't what works for me.
Those comments make a lot of sense. Yesterday when someone mentioned that their reddit name was the same as here, I was wondering, what is the difference if we move. Other than some glitches that were happening with the bump app.
Does the bump still have private groups? I have no personal experience with them but remember them being mentioned once on a different board. If so, what if we switched to that pre-birth to stick together and then if there is a migration to a different app planned we could do after birth so everyone is still connected until then? This would solve privacy issue in meantime I think?
But how do we actually create a private group? I poked around and couldn’t find a way. And when I stalked a few other BMBs convos about their transition, it sounds like the bump might be sunsetting this? So if someone figures it out, LMK!
Here's a screenshot of the convo on my previous BMB as they also were planning to do a private group, but they ended up going straight to FB because of the below in spoiler
Thanks for handling @texas_t !! I didn’t mean to drop that info and go MIA lol
hopefully we can figure out a way to get that up and running. I’d be open to transitioning there sooner rather than later and then we can always discuss future plans for beyond birth as we get closer
The following is jumping ahead completely but I wanted to throw my opinion in for if/when it does happen.
I think when we do it since we are so small, would we have to keep the Bump’s posting rules?
In my May 2012 group, people just post and I feel like I’ve gotten to know the ladies more. In my April 2017 group, they have kept to the posting rules and I struggle keeping up with the conversations because they get hidden in the randoms post. No one posts individually in that group and Facebook’s search option is not friendly with posts that have 800 comments. This is just my two cents and I understand if I am in the minority. This will be baby #3 at home for me and I am afraid I’ll quickly lose track of everything that is happening. 🤷🏻♀️
This is my first BMB so I just assumed if we leave the bump we do what we want. Obviously we would have guidelines like any group, but that would just be a formality because, like it's been said before, this is a really respectful group. And the point is to get to know people and support them. If a bump rule wasn't conducive to that then I would assume we would ignore it. My two cents.
I’m okay either way but my other bump group has kept monthly random/vent/questions threads and I like it because everything is in one spot. I’m in another (non mom) group where it’s just free posting and I miss stuff alllllll the time because individual posts get buried. I would think with a smaller group like ours though either option would probably be easier to keep up with than if there were a bunch of members.
In my other bump group we have randoms where most stuff happens, special threads that happen weekly like meal plans, special threads for special things like "first birthday party planning" etc. People sometimes make a special post for a gtky type thing (which of these restaurants could you never go to again) or special announcements. I really like having a randoms post; there are so many thoughts that I would never want to bother sharing in its own special post that I don't mind shoving into randoms... and likewise, I'd get annoyed if someone made their own separate post to mention mundane little things, but in randoms it's not out of place or annoying.
@texas_t did the bump ever get back to you about creating a private group?
I was just playing around with it on the app and I THINK I just created one? I made it private but searchable so if anyone sees it pop up let me know. Maybe we get this ball rolling??
I think I just requested to join. In the app, I went to community, then scrolled down to ‘groups’, and once I clicked it - it had ‘new groups’ listed. The May 2021 Moms was the first group on there! I clicked, then ‘join group’ and wrote a short message. So we will see if it works!
hi there i accepted those that applied in accordance with our prelim list above. because i created it i think i am owner, but i am researching now to see if we can edit. i think the only privilege i have is approving members and that we should all be able to post. looking into it now!!!
update: it looks like i can assign "leaders" which i assume is the same as admins. so we can open up that discussion to assign. FWIW, i didnt want to assume the role, it just automatically made me one because i created the group lol
so i guess the things we need to address and decide on are:
-Admins (how many and who? ---any volunteers?) -When to officially switch (starting with Monday checkins? sooner? later?) -Ideas for "re-introductions" (new spreadsheet? new intro thread? etc?) -Any rules we want to self implement? -Anything else?
@asf0613 I think we will need to tag some of the members that are less active. Maybe we can give quick instructions at the top of each main post so that everyone can see what is going on.
I can’t wait to actually share more pictures though!
good idea @yellingbanana was thinking of maybe also starting a new thread here alerting everyone (in the event they werent following the "thoughts about our future" thread
I just requested to join--still not sure how you were able to figure out how to create a group 😆 For anyone having issues trying to join, you might have to try a different device. I tried on my ipad at first and couldn't join, but I *think* I was able to join when I used the app on my phone
I can't ever find the community link on the app, I had to use the mobile browser on my phone, which transferred me to the app. So confusing, but worked.
@littlelibelula its a pain to find. from home, hit the menu button on top left, hit the "+" sign next to pregnancy (dont hit the word, just the + sign) and scrollall the way down to community.
it should list the May BMB right on top for you. for groups, scroll down to bottom
Re: Thoughts about our future? (Moving platforms)
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Edit: we can obviously still try!!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
hopefully we can figure out a way to get that up and running. I’d be open to transitioning there sooner rather than later and then we can always discuss future plans for beyond birth as we get closer
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I was just playing around with it on the app and I THINK I just created one? I made it private but searchable so if anyone sees it pop up let me know. Maybe we get this ball rolling??
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
I sent a request as well.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
i accepted those that applied in accordance with our prelim list above. because i created it i think i am owner, but i am researching now to see if we can edit. i think the only privilege i have is approving members and that we should all be able to post. looking into it now!!!
so we can open up that discussion to assign.
FWIW, i didnt want to assume the role, it just automatically made me one because i created the group lol
-Admins (how many and who? ---any volunteers?)
-When to officially switch (starting with Monday checkins? sooner? later?)
-Ideas for "re-introductions" (new spreadsheet? new intro thread? etc?)
-Any rules we want to self implement?
-Anything else?
Maybe we can give quick instructions at the top of each main post so that everyone can see what is going on.
was thinking of maybe also starting a new thread here alerting everyone (in the event they werent following the "thoughts about our future" thread
For anyone having issues trying to join, you might have to try a different device. I tried on my ipad at first and couldn't join, but I *think* I was able to join when I used the app on my phone
but i guess it was!
it should list the May BMB right on top for you. for groups, scroll down to bottom