I wasn’t sure the best place for this, but since I’m still in 1st trimester...
I am really excited to be expecting our first, but I’m finding that excitement becoming really overshadowed due to my job search.
Literally the day after I got that BFP I was suddenly and unexpectedly laid off from my job due to Covid (with no courtesy given my professional role, I might add). Whether valid or not, I felt betrayed and angry for a multitude of reasons. Over the past year a couple colleagues had their first child and we celebrated them and supported them... they enjoyed their nice paid maternity/paternity leave. I felt robbed of that.
Flash forward to getting a new job offer. After accepting an offer, I wanted to be transparent and went ahead and shared that I was expecting and my anticipated due date in the interest of getting the best head start. After some slow back and forth about my exact start date as they worked through an onboarding plan, my offer was rescinded “due to Covid.”
I loved my job. I like working. I’ve always known I didn’t want to be a stay at home mom. We are a 2 income household that very much needs 2 incomes. Now, I can’t help but feel suspicious and terrified that no one will hire me in a comparable role. Knowing how long the hiring process can take for professional roles, I’m terrified that should I be hired, people working with me for the first time won’t adequately get to know me and my work, that I’ll appear weak as I manage through symptoms, I won’t have made measurable impacts prior to leave, and/or that I won’t be eligible for paid leave/related benefits.
We all know pregnancy isn’t something you can discriminate against, and yet it happens all the time. Especially in the hiring and early employment phase of a job, much can be hidden under the fact that decisions can be made without cause.
Pregnancy is now feeling like a huge setback. I’m having so much anxiety over it.
Not sure what I’m looking for here, but if anyone has any related encouraging stories to share or is going through something similar, I’d love to hear from you.
Re: Job searching while pregnant in a Covid world
It totally sounds like that company discriminated against you due to your pregnancy btw. I don't know what to say other than I hope you have better luck moving forward in your job search! Hopefully you will land something great with a company that treats it's women better than that.