After Dark Thread! 11.13

keikilove · November 2020

Is there anything that is off-limits in your bedroom? Anything that isn’t off-limits?

chindimples04 · November 2020

No anal. Not about that life. 🤣 We aren’t to adventurous, so I’m not sure what my other hard passes are.

keikilove · November 2020

@chindimples04 Same girl, same. I suspect that will be the most popular answer.

FFFC: I’m also over blowjobs. Sorry, but maybe when TTC is over some of that fun stuff will come back into play, but right now BJ’s fall under “meatloaf”. 🤷‍♀️

fitzfizz · November 2020

Hard pass on anal personally, but BJs are definitely not off limits. How else do you make them go back to sleep when you don’t feel like having sex? Just me? Haha

Semi-off topic after dark thought/FFFC: my main ovulation symptom is being attracted to random dudes. To be clear, I would never act on this, but I definitely have my “I know I’m ovulating because I just had an urge to jump that rando in the Walmart parking lot” moments. Made for a very interesting visit with my hot dentist earlier this week!

inthewoods23 · November 2020

@chindimples04 a couple I knew I college told me you have to try anal once. Sure, I have some things I'd like to try once, but no amount of convincing will lead me to do it. Hard pass lol. If DH gets even accidentally near that area with his member I freak the hell out.

For a while I've wanted to try out some BDSM kind of stuff but DH has no kinks whatsoever so he's interested in none of that. I have gotten him to be more comfortable with the idea of "choking" me which is just some light pressure so I'm not truly choking.

Also not off limits is getting started while the cat is in our room 😂 she leaves on her own eventually so we don't ever worry about her watching us for a time.

And846 · November 2020

No anal. Been there once (a drunk night) and it’s not my cup of tea.

As for BJs...that how i fire him up when i need to HIO during FW and he’s just in the mood for bed.

krash_ · November 2020

Maybe I’m a real freak in the sheets because there’s not much that’s off limits for me. I don’t really enjoy anal but we have done it, although it has been a very long time. I think if blowjobs as foreplay because I’m not going to just let him finish from that and then I get nothing.

@inthewoods23 if you want to get get into some kink-lite I would suggest straps to tie you up. MH got a set that goes under the mattress. Tied up and blindfolded maybe a little hot wax and have fun.

emmylou78 · November 2020

Pretty vanilla over here. I like it a bit rough but MH is more the slow sensual type, so I just tell him if he needs to ramp it up.

The real off-limits is no oral for me as foreplay. It makes DTD 100000% better.

chindimples04 · November 2020

I should be clear that I have done anal, but it’s no enjoyable. There is ZERO pleasure. Negative.
@fitzfizz DH gets a nice handjob if he wants sexy time and I’m not interested. 🤣 He also gets a handjob if he lets me pop his pimples (FFFC?). 🤣
@keikilove oral is off limits during FW in this house, both directions. I was told saliva is bad for sperm. 🤷🏻‍♀️ That can come back when we aren’t tying.
@inthewoods23 yes! Light choking is fun! DH has not problem doing that every so often.

We have started getting some toys to use as Valentine’s Day gifts to each other. DH bought me a vibrating dildo this year. It’s definitely made for some interesting foreplay. We’ve tried blindfolds and tying up, too, but it never worked well. Didn’t have the headboard for it. I have a fantasy of a threesome with another girl but would never act on it, mostly out of fear. But also because I don’t want to do anything to her, just her to me, and that seems unfair. 🙈

inthewoods23 · November 2020

@krash_ you know what DH would say? "But what if I have a heart attack and become incapacitated and you can't untie yourself?" 🙄😆 He worries about such silly things

krash_ · November 2020

@chindimples04 I also fantasize about a threesome with another girl but I feel like MH would never go for it and how do you even find the right girl? He is so picky when we watch porn I just know it would take us for ever to finally agree on a girl we like.

fitzfizz · November 2020

@inthewoods23 I can picture my husband saying the exact same thing haha

paytonpedro · November 2020

Well I’m late and it’s morning now (actually afternoon)..... I’ve been meaning to join in but too busy to.

So I’m in the minority here. Nothing is off limits. We enjoy anal, but haven’t always- it took like 10 try’s over a 12 year period lol. I don’t love being fingered but it’s not a hard no. Bjs are boring for me but he still asks for them. We haven’t tried anything too too crazy but I would try anything once.

paytonpedro · November 2020

On the topic of a threesome, that’s mh’s fantasy but it’s never happened. Irk how comfortable I would be with it because I’m pretty possessive. I’d be open to another dude but dh would never be into it. So for us it’s likely always a no.

acleverusername · November 2020

My first bf was into a lot of kink so I got a lot of that out of my system pretty early on. We tried A LOT of stuff and had quite the reputation in the dorms (we were both in college at the time). He had a golden shower fantasy though, and that was a HARD NO for me. Fun fact: I met up with this guy last year when visiting Vancouver as I knew he lived there and it was literally the only person I knew there so I reached out. We met at the bar and somehow the convo weirdly got into the kinky stuff we used to do (with him asking if I'm still into it) and I said "nope" and he proceeded to tell me that he still very much into it, and goes to sex parties, and still has some of the toys we'd bought together!!! LOL. I hadn't seen him for 8 years and we certainly didn't part on the best of terms, so hearing this from him was kinda odd. Oh well, that's what I get for reaching out and wanting to hang out.

MH is pretty vanilla and I'm perfectly happy with that. I am slowly trying to get him into some light bondage alas it hasn't happened yet.

paytonpedro · November 2020

@acleverusername yeah. Hard no to a golden shower. My husband wouldn’t even ask or be into it.... I don’t think. Lol. Did you meet up with this ex with your husband? I couldn’t imagine having these convos in front of mh.

sarahsimm · February 2021

chindimples04 said:

I should be clear that I have done anal, but it’s no enjoyable. There is ZERO pleasure. Negative.
@fitzfizz DH gets a nice handjob if he wants sexy time and I’m not interested. 🤣 He also gets a handjob if he lets me pop his pimples (FFFC?). 🤣
@keikilove oral is off limits during FW in this house, both directions. I was told saliva is bad for sperm. 🤷🏻‍♀️ That can come back when we aren’t tying.
@inthewoods23 yes! Light choking is fun! DH has not problem doing that every so often.

We have started getting some toys to use as Valentine’s Day gifts to each other. DH bought me a vibrating dildo this year. It’s definitely made for some interesting foreplay. We’ve tried blindfolds and tying up, too, but it never worked well. Didn’t have the headboard for it. I have a fantasy of a threesome with another girl but would never act on it, mostly out of fear. But also because I don’t want to do anything to her, just her to me, and that seems unfair. 🙈

well anal is indeed not for everyone, but speaking of dildo foreplay, I'd recommend you to use it after he is finished

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