Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Product Spotlight: Diapering
We use the dekor diaper pail which works well. It uses special bags which are a little tricky to get the hand of, but I did eventually.
I change their diaper anywhere I happen to catch them. Often on my lap (which a friend recently told me is a sure sign of a veteran mom). For changing on the go, I use disposable underpads, they're great because they hold up well so you can get a few changes out of them, but if there is leakage you don't feel bad tossing them.
For diaper rashes I use Desitin at home, and diaper rash spray for on the go.
We just bag up stinky diapers in dog poop bags in throw them in a bin in our backyard and then toss them weekly with our trash pick up. Diapers pails, imo, make the room smell like poop.
Diaper rashes, it depends. I like making my own with desitin, A&D ointment, and triple antibiotic ointment.
I am a minimalist when it comes to diaper bags, etc. Diapers, wipes, diaper cream. I'm not a germaphobe, so unless a surface looks gag-worthy, I'll change my kid there.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
He only had one diaper rash ever, I think we just used Burt's Bees cream for it.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Also we have a Dekor diaper pail and I honestly had no issues with smell until we got to the toddler stage 😂
Wipes we have always used seventh generation.
Diaper pail we use the Diaper Geenie. However, we always over stuff it and are on #3 already in just over two years 🤦🏼♀️.
I also didn't know we needed overnight diapers when he started sleeping through the night around 3 months. He was constantly peeing through diapers until we bought some. I also recommend sizing up in night time diapers to avoid leaks.
as baby is out of newborn age, we go to Huggies. I don’t like diapers that are scented.
Wipes: I have used a wipe warmer for a baby I nannied, and found that as soon as you take the wipe out, it is back to room temperature. I think the warmer is a waste of space and money.
I really hate Amazon brand wipes, with a passion. They are along the lines of Pampers and Kirkland brand, all three are see through they are so thin, and they don’t wipe well, it’s like they just stick to baby butts.
Those of you who went the disposable path, do you have any favorite brands? Those of you who went the cloth diapering path, do you have any favorite brands, methods, techniques? Tips on diaper washing if using cloth?
Alva is probably my favorite cheap brand. They are from china and if you order early you can usually get them cheaper on their website. However thefluffypenguin.com has good prices and in US based. Their brand is also very similar to Alva. I also really loved wool. It's expensive, but never leaked and was the only thing that worked overnight once she was a year old. We only used fitted diapers under wool, because it contained poop best and absorbed the most. I have a pretty significant stash on one size diapers, so I won't be buying anymore of those, unless it's a boy. Then maybe I'll buy more. But my main focus is on getting a newborn stash. I talked to my sister and she said she can help me learn to sew some diapers. I tried when my daughter was in diapers and the results were less than stellar. So hopefully my sister who is more skilled that I am can help me figure out what I was doing wrong or do the hard part for me and I can do the rest. I want to sew 40 newborn diapers. That way we will have enough for 3 days between washing. I'm planning on all in ones for newborn because I think stuffing those tint diapers would be too hard. My one size diapers are mostly pockets and I like the ability to customize.
for washing we used fluff love's recommendations and never had problems with washing. We also used a diaper sprayer from amazon to spray off poop diapers once she started solids.
What are people's favorite wipes? How do you store wipes, and do you use a wipe-warmer? What do you stock in case of diaper rash? Huggies are my favorite wipes. I'm considering cloth wipes this time, but haven't made a decision yet. We used talc free baby powder with every diaper change. My go to was anti monkey butt for everyday, and gold bond medicated baby powder for rashes.
How do you dispose of dirty diapers: do you have a favorite diaper pail? A service that comes to pick up cloth diapers? We used a Dekor diaper pail with a cloth liner for a while and a diaper genie for wipes. We ended up switching to a swing top kitchen trash can with a large wet bag with an elastic top. and kept a small bathroom trash can with a lid for sprayed off diapers.
And how about your diapering set-up at home: do you have cute diaper caddies you want to recommend or are you comfortable throwing a towel on any surface? Diapering set-up on the road: what do you stash in your diaper bag specifically for diapering purposes? We used a changing table for every change. when out and about we would just use the changing pad anywhere.
Or does all of this give you a headache and you prefer to go back to our roots and let your children run naked in the woods and practice free elimination? lol
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
For the newborn stage we loved Pampers Swaddlers and plan on using them this time around. Once they get a little bigger we switch to Up + Up (Target brand). We also use the Up + Up wipes.
In the nursery, we started with a Dekor diaper pail and that thing did not contain the smell at all. We ended up switching to an Ubbi diaper pail which we like a lot better (but will still smell if you let it sit too long). For diapers we change downstairs they just go straight to our outdoor trashcan if they're dirty or in our regular kitchen trash if they're just wet.
We started with Huggies pure and ever size I switched back and forth. Pampers size 1, Huggies size 1, Pampers size 2, Huggies size 2. Usually whatever was available in a big box at Costco for the brand I was currently using.
Cloth diapering: At 8 months I got a couple of cloth diapers and haven't gone back. All second hand, which helps economically. (We really should have a thread just for cloth diapers.) Alva baby, mama koala, little monsters, JJs, rumperaooz and BooHippo, all pocket diapers. Just picked up some nursery notions for newborn diapers, but they turned out to be small not newborn. They are fitted with covers. I also have a stash of promotional towels and microfibre towels that I fold as cheap inserts. I'm currently contemplating knitting and chopping up a wool sweater to make newborn or toddler wool diaper covers.
I have 20 pocket diapers and wash every other day in a waahing machine with cold water (because I don't have hot and only the first cycle should have warm anyways) and hang it all to dry in the sun. I use a bathroom sprayer to spray off the poop into the toilet as soon as I take off his diaper.
Wipes:
Currently don't use any, occasionally use cloth wipes and sometimes disposable. I used disposable at the beginning especially out and about, but as covid came and we spent more time at home I just used the sink or toilet paper
Dirty diapers: I use a small kitchen pail with a swinging lid. I was going to put a pillow protector in as a pail bag, but I have bought one yet and don't see a need.
Diapering set-up at home: Since I use a combination of EC and the bathroom I usually take off the diaper in the bathroom see if he needs to go, wipe him off in the sink and diaper him on any flat surface. I used to use desitin, but can't with cloth, so I use cornstarch wrapoed in a clothwet wipe as a "butt poof".
Diapering set-up on the road:
I have a change pad and just bring one diaper for every 2 hours when he was young. I also have a pencil case/ makeup pouch with 1-2 diapers, sample diaper cream, travel wipes or a couple cloth wipes and a travel soap. Easy to throw in a purse and just take the pouch out for changes
Elimination communication: Don't knock it til you try it. 🙃
A baby can poop at birth, so you can also take it to the toilet at birth. Just like watching for their hungry signals, you can watch for their elimination signals. But at the beginning it can be as often at every 15 minutes.
It's the ain reason I started with cloth diapers. Disposable diapers, especially the Huggies I was using did not hold up to putting on and taking off the same diaper multiple times.
I'm a convenience ECer, so he still uses diapers. I do it based on timing. When I take off the diaper, when he gets up from any sleep, after meals. When he farts or has a poopy face. But the satisfaction of the poop going in a toilet is very satisfying and there are many YouTube channels and communities to help if you are interested.
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
I received a wipes package that came with a plastic dispenser that acts like a Tupperware and it's very sturdy and convenient for storing the wipes. It's great to have them for everything. Quick messes, wiping hands, baths.
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021