So, assuming all goes well this pregnancy, I'm so excited this is my last. I never ever ever want to be pregnant again.
As I mentioned in the symptoms thread, pregnancy amnesia is real once you have the baby (thank God), but it ain't real right now and I am so tired of gagging.
@mrosek91 i'd probably keep going til i have a girl too so i dont blame you
my confession is i was supposed to meet up with a friend for lunch today for the first time in a while. we are very close but wasnt planning on telling her the news yet. she just had to cancel and i am so relieved because if i dont see her in person, it doesnt feel like im keeping anything from her!
I provide care in my home as a nanny for one family- an almost 4yr and 1yr boys. I haven’t told the parents yet that we are expecting, even though we started telling everyone else. I’m almost 12 weeks. I’m planning on telling them via text this weekend.... I just don’t have the brain or energy to hold an in person conversation about it. And I’ll need to take at least 10 weeks off of the spring 😬 Plus we are going to Hawaii for 2 weeks in December. And don’t forget my week off between Christmas and New Year! Luckily they have a lot of family in the area that can help them, and they have the only grandkids on both sides.
Also, I’ve been on a Bump board with all of my pregnancies, and every time there are a couple of people that say they don’t want a girl. There is a big difference between saying ‘I want a boy’ and ‘I don’t want a girl’. You can have a preference without putting down an entire gender. I’ve never heard anyone say they don’t want a boy. Something deep down inside of me gets so sad about it. We are all girls on here, and I love being a girl. My parents had three girls and I’m the youngest, yah, they of course wanted a boy. But I was always a little annoyed at my family when they told me I was supposed to be a boy. What’s wrong with girls?
@yellingbanana If I only have one child, I would want it to be a girl. My whole life until now, I wanted a boy first then a girl (and when I was younger, I wanted a much bigger family). But I am secretly praying this one is a girl so I can maybe stop here. I would love to experience parenting both genders but I'm super girlie and can't imagine not having a little lady in my life (even if she winds up not being girlie herself at all).
I'm just casually having my second lunch, at 4:30 pm. SO goes "you still haven't eaten?"
I'm going back to work next week after my June loss and I feel bad for my employer as I don't think they'll be getting back a very motivated me. I'm not planning to go out my way in the next 6 months I have to work before my maternity leave. Oh and I'm sure they'll be happy to find out that I go back for 3 weeks then have to take 2 weeks off for recovery after my cerclage... oh and that means I should tell them pretty much right that I'm pregnant, which really isn't my preference.
@yellingbanana I have two boys and I wasn't trying for a girl this time. A lot of people asked if I was. I was hoping for another boy. I've always felt like I would be a better mom to boys for some reason. I do admit that I will miss having a relationship with a daughter when I get older.
@yellingbanana I desperately wanted a girl. I actually got yelled at on my last bmb for saying that I would genuinely be disappointed if the baby were a boy, as if I would have treated him badly or something. Certainly I would have certainly loved him and decided once I had him that I wouldn't trade any girl in the world for him, but I would have cried and mourned the daughter I wanted first. Luckily, #1 was the girl I had wanted. If #1 had been a boy, I would have been a lot more certain and a lot quicker to try for #2 hoping desperately for a girl again. For a second baby, since I have my girl, I genuinely don't care. I see the benefits and drawbacks to both. Why did I want a girl so badly? I think I thought I'd be closer to a girl. I never had a sister, so maybe I wanted to have a female I was that close to. Or maybe I identified her with myself and I, the oldest child and girl, felt that my own family ought to have a girl in the oldest-child position.
@yellingbanana people have many different reasons for preferring one sex over the other, and often times it’s more due to themselves rather than judging one sex or the other. Raising a child of the same sex can bring up a lot of past trauma and issues from your own childhood. This is one reason I’m finding out the sex this time when we didn’t last time. It’s our last and either way, I want us both to have time to grieve and process the information.
@queenfrostine21 I have similar feelings since my first was a girl. My daughter gave me the mother-daughter relationship that I’ve never had since my mom passed when I was young. Now I’d love to see my husband with a son, but I’d also love to have another girl. So I’m ok with either
@Texas_t to be honest I'm starting to feel like a mother of boys. When I was pregnant with my son, I said I didn't have a preference, but secretly hoping he was a boy. The truth is, gender doesn't matter to me, because any child is a blessing.
But now that I have one boy, I dream of being a mother of boys. But I have lots of people saying the next will be a girl. So I'm not sure if I should hope for a girl or a boy. Both are special in their own way.
@yellingbanana I'm really hoping this baby is a girl. We have a boy and love him so much, he's perfect for us and I love being a boy mom, but I would also love to experience what it's like to have a little girl. We will love this baby so much either way, and I know my son would probably love a brother growing up, but I think a girl would be a fun addition to our family!
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Re: FFFC 10/16
As I mentioned in the symptoms thread, pregnancy amnesia is real once you have the baby (thank God), but it ain't real right now and I am so tired of gagging.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
my confession is i was supposed to meet up with a friend for lunch today for the first time in a while. we are very close but wasnt planning on telling her the news yet. she just had to cancel and i am so relieved because if i dont see her in person, it doesnt feel like im keeping anything from her!
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Plus we are going to Hawaii for 2 weeks in December. And don’t forget my week off between Christmas and New Year! Luckily they have a lot of family in the area that can help them, and they have the only grandkids on both sides.
I'm going back to work next week after my June loss and I feel bad for my employer as I don't think they'll be getting back a very motivated me. I'm not planning to go out my way in the next 6 months I have to work before my maternity leave. Oh and I'm sure they'll be happy to find out that I go back for 3 weeks then have to take 2 weeks off for recovery after my cerclage... oh and that means I should tell them pretty much right that I'm pregnant, which really isn't my preference.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I desperately wanted a girl. I actually got yelled at on my last bmb for saying that I would genuinely be disappointed if the baby were a boy, as if I would have treated him badly or something. Certainly I would have certainly loved him and decided once I had him that I wouldn't trade any girl in the world for him, but I would have cried and mourned the daughter I wanted first. Luckily, #1 was the girl I had wanted. If #1 had been a boy, I would have been a lot more certain and a lot quicker to try for #2 hoping desperately for a girl again. For a second baby, since I have my girl, I genuinely don't care. I see the benefits and drawbacks to both. Why did I want a girl so badly? I think I thought I'd be closer to a girl. I never had a sister, so maybe I wanted to have a female I was that close to. Or maybe I identified her with myself and I, the oldest child and girl, felt that my own family ought to have a girl in the oldest-child position.
But now that I have one boy, I dream of being a mother of boys. But I have lots of people saying the next will be a girl. So I'm not sure if I should hope for a girl or a boy. Both are special in their own way.