Time to sit down with your husband and lay it out - say you want a bigger family and that are wanting to keep this one. And hear his side. I’d like to think your husband is not cold-hearted and wouldn’t love the third child as much as the first two. Also if he REALLY doesn’t want kids, perhaps you two need to discuss other methods of birth control (pills, IUD, vasectomy etc) so you don’t have to have these difficult discussions. Best of luck.
Didn't realize we'd need a QFP here, but apparently we should've.
Anyway, to surmise: OP is "Surprise" PG AGAIN for the second time in a freaking calendar year. Despite having 2.5 year old twins, DH doesn't want any more kids EVER, but she does. So last time they had an abortion and now she's not sure what to do because she doesn't want another abortion, but she wants more kids, but DH is like 100% against having more than the 2 kids they currently have. Having an actual sit-down discussion is apparently difficult for adults to do in their household, as is finding reliable/permanent birth control...
Was this really a surprise pregnancy or were you hoping your DH would want to keep this one?
It’s your body. Your choice. I know it’s easier said than done in some cases, but I’d like to think I wouldn’t let my DH bully me into an abortion. How’s your relationship with him otherwise? Are you okay?
(((hugs))) @capnjackharkness Doesn't sound like a bitter interpretation to me at all. Sounds pretty sad. I cannot fathom staying with a SPOUSE who was pressuring me into an abortion... Again!??? There is this video of an awesome super old Youtube grandma whose abusive late husband forced her into multiple abortions, one of which nearly killed her, and then she finally said, No! And kicked him the F out of the house like a bada$$ B. Maybe OP should be taking notes...
https://youtu.be/YBCMcE3bPxU
Also, we don't ask questions, we don't stop to think, just QFP. Lol
@BusinessWife Right!?!? This OP's story hit me on many facets. Because on one side I'm sitting here thinking about all the wonderful people I've met through my journey who have desperately wanted even ONE living child. That they've either had multiple miscarriages for years, or had IF and never saw a BFP for years... and then OP is possibly going to have a SECOND chosen abortion within a single calendar year... And then like you said, I almost feel she had an 'oops' that maybe wasn't an 'oops' baby because she really wants a second one. And I don't know if the communication between her and DH is just terrible or if she never really stated how she feels or if he's just controlling and forcing her into them, but now she may be losing more babies she may actually want. But I also feel like maybe she's trying to 'trick' him into accepting another baby? Meanwhile I'm like, you could've gotten an IUD or some form of long-term BC until you guys figured your crap out so you weren't in this situation! It's just... awkward and hard all around. And soooo many feelings...
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Anyway, to surmise: OP is "Surprise" PG AGAIN for the second time in a freaking calendar year. Despite having 2.5 year old twins, DH doesn't want any more kids EVER, but she does. So last time they had an abortion and now she's not sure what to do because she doesn't want another abortion, but she wants more kids, but DH is like 100% against having more than the 2 kids they currently have. Having an actual sit-down discussion is apparently difficult for adults to do in their household, as is finding reliable/permanent birth control...
#BitterHagInterpretation
It’s your body. Your choice. I know it’s easier said than done in some cases, but I’d like to think I wouldn’t let my DH bully me into an abortion. How’s your relationship with him otherwise? Are you okay?
https://youtu.be/YBCMcE3bPxU
Also, we don't ask questions, we don't stop to think, just QFP. Lol