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AMA Advanced maternal age check in

LexibizzelLexibizzel member
in April 2021 Moms
Anyone up for keeping tabs with other moms 35+? 

How far along are you?

Ftm/stm/stm+?

How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies?
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  • juliebird6juliebird6 member
    I go here, begrudgingly.

    How far along are you? 10w 6d

    Ftm/stm/stm+? third time mom

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies? My feelings about this one are ALL over the board. I feel horrible physically - worse than either of my 2 previous pregnancies. Not sure if that's just the luck of the draw, because I'm old, or because I have a 3.5 and 2 year old to keep up with now. Probably combination of all of those. But mentally, I am stuck in this hard place right now where I cannot fathom what we've done and how I possibly thought we could add another baby to this chaos. I know it will pass and we will be fine ultimately, but I've had some dark days lately. I'm hopeful that once I start feeling a little better and am firmly out of the first trimester, this dread and fear will go away and I'll get into "excited" mode. I know we have a few fourth time moms here...please say that's true!
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  • bbrahmbhattbbrahmbhatt member

    How far along are you? 10w0d

    Ftm/stm/stm+? FTM

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies? I am excited, but nervous *TW due to prior loss end TW*. I am getting more excited as we continue to progress. I don't know what its like to not be pregnant and AMA (I just turned 35 in August), so I'm hoping to learn a lot from all of you ladies!
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  • kvh22kvh22 member
    edited September 2020
    **Lurking but not AMA** @juliebird6 Umm I have a 3yo and 16mo and am also like "oh my gosh what have we done" while I feel so crappy. I do not remember thinking that when I was pregnant with DD2. I think some of this is covid-related and the lack of things to do (plus at least in our situation working at home with DD2 with us all day and DD1 only in PT daycare). I'm very confident that once I feel better I'll be singing a different tune so haven't gotten too down about it. Also, this pregnancy is so much worse with the morning sickness/tiredness and I'm only 31.

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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    How far along are you?
    11+3

    Ftm/stm/stm+?
    This baby will be #3. I have 5 and 3 year olds.

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies?
    This one is a complete surprise. So thought I was done. I was not AMA for my first two. I suppose I am a little less nauseous this time and a little more tired. Not sure how much of the fatigue is pregnancy though. I'm now a single mom of 2 littles and have been a bit depressed. Like @juliebird6 and @kvh22 I feel like how am I going to handle 3 when 2 are kicking my ass? But it's not all bad. I have never felt more confident when it comes to newborn care specifically. 
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    @bbrahmbhatt totally anecdotal, but I had DS at 34, and the whole experience was a "breeze". Pregnancy, delivery, newborn stage. I felt like mid 30s is a good age for dealing with it all. 
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  • jenn622-2jenn622-2 member
    How far along are you? 10+5

    Ftm/stm/stm+? STM

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? My first (DS 3) was unplanned and really kind of threw my life into chaos but I had a super easy pregnancy with him. I was 35 then. I did have a very terrible, complicated delivery but my complications all came at the end but I never had any spotting, MC scares or even nausea. I was traveling, exercising and working the whole way through. With this one im 38 and have had nausea, fatigue and bleeding that had me sooo anxious. I’m hoping I’m “paying my dues” early this time and will at least have a healthy uncomplicated third trimester and delivery this time around. Definitely feeling the “what have I done” vibes @juliebird6 @kvh22! I wasn’t expecting that this time around since it was planned but man am I tired!
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  • pelorunningmamapelorunningmama member
    How far along are you? 10+4

    Ftm/stm/stm+? 4tm

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies?

    Hugs to all you mamas feeling the “what have I done” feelings. I’m still in that camp as well and have not gotten to the excited point. I’m praying once I feel a bit better and after I get genetic testing back, I will start to feel excited. It’s such a weird place to be. I know baby’s are a blessing. I know their is a bigger picture than what I imagined for my family. But that doesn’t make any of the impending craziness easier. It’s already nuts here. I am more exhausted and have had worse nausea this time. It’s been rough, not going to lie. And I just turned 36 so barely ama!!! Ha! 
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    Yay for 38 year olds! I'm one too. Found out I was expecting 2 days after my birthday. 

    @BuckeyeNut05 Yes! So my first newborn experience with DD was a nightmare. I was floored that DS was so easy. I thought all those stories about happy babies were exaggerations. I think this diverse set of behaviors is good preparation for #3. Plus, I'm hopeful that DD, who will be almost 6 when this one arrives, may be a help. She is a total rough and tumble tomboy, but maybe I can get caregiving to grow on her. I'm actually more optimistic about DS, who will be 4 and is more sweet/considerate in general.

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  • riff323riff323 member
    How far along are you? 9+5

    Ftm/stm/stm+? STM

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies?
    I feel way worse this time. I never threw up with my first pregnancy, and had bad headaches but not the migraines I'm getting now. I feel completely depressed because I've had a migraine for almost a week now. It's making me feel like the worst mom and wife because all I'm doing is laying on the couch. I'm also starting to remember the newborn phase and dreading it... but every baby is different, and there's nothing you can do, right?
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  • aisukurimsarangaisukurimsarang member
    How far along are you? 11w4d

    Ftm/stm/stm+? 4th time mom, hopefully. @juliebird6, I keep looking at my fussy, drooling, teething 8mo and asking myself if I was insane. But, then I see how happy my man is, and remind myself it's only 3 years until DS2 is in PreK! 

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? I'm more concerned with the NIPT. I'm 43 this time. I wonder if we pushed our luck. I'm ferrirified of the US on Monday, and dreading the long wait to get the NIPT backAnything different from past, non ama pregnancies? Not really. I'm exhausted, but I attribute that to chasing and dealing with an infant. 
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    @aisukurimsarang I'm happy to hear your US went well and you feel a bit relieved! Seeing those growing babies never gets old. My last was at 8 weeks, it's amazing how much they change in that time.

    I have my NT scan tomorrow, finally. Fingers crossed!
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  • MandersXMandersX member
    How far along are you? 12+3

    Ftm/stm/stm+? 2nd time, DS will be 4 in November

    How do you feel about pregnancy at this time? Anything different from past, non ama pregnancies? I have been so so exhausted. Migraines weekly as well. I am a little stressed about changing our family dynamic. This was very unexpected, but I am started to get excited. 
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    NT scan this morning - low risk!
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    @MandersX I hear ya. I was so not planning or excited to be pregnant at first. Although I am now really happy about adding another.
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  • bbrahmbhattbbrahmbhatt member
    @Lexibizzel congratulations! That is such a cute photo too, excellent view of babe! I have my NT scan on Monday, I'm sort of nervous; I'm 35. 
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    @bbrahmbhatt good luck with your scan on Monday!


    Oh, and I learned I will get an additional scan at 18 weeks and meet with a high risk doc. Perk of being AMA ;)
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  • aisukurimsarangaisukurimsarang member
    @Lexibizzel, you might even get them weekly starting at 28w. IDK when the start age is for it. 
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  • jenn622-2jenn622-2 member
    I got scans every month in my 1st pregnancy when I was 34-35 and in this pregnancy I’ve been getting them 2x a month. Just did the genetic testing yesterday - 10 days till results!!!
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  • LexibizzelLexibizzel member
    Thanks for the information @aisukurimsarang and @jenn622-2. This is my first AMA pregnancy and I have been really curious about what will be different in my care. All they've said is that I meet with the high risk doc and get that scan. Maybe it will depend on how the scan goes.

    @jenn622-2 fingers crossed on your test! They told me 7-10 days for results (my test is Friday). Are you learning sex of your baby?
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  • aisukurimsarangaisukurimsarang member
    @Lexibizzel, it's my 3rd AMA pregnancy, but my 1st I was 34 (35 at delivery). I only had to have an amnio done (2011, literally right before NIPT was available.) I was 42 in my last pregnancy, and they started at 28w and went on until my induction at 39w. The perinatal clinic made a big deal out of me "graduating". It was really sweet. 
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  • goldpolkadotgoldpolkadot member
    @Lexibizzel what a great picture!!!!
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