WTO Wednesday 9/30

bows22 · September 2020

**This is a thread that welcomes all regardless of where they are at in their TTC journeys. Please be mindful of topics that are discussed that could be hurtful to those going through tough times. Mention of children or pregnancies of others should have a TW (trigger warning) and be in a spoiler if possible, and only be mentioned if it is extremely pertinent to the conversation. Thanks for keeping this a safe place for us all to engage!**

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bows22 · September 2020

Month/Cycle: 22/25

CD: 5

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, Tracking CM

R/R: Back to having the house to myself today! I don’t think DH liked working from home very much so hopefully that’s out of his system haha. We watched the debate last night which I was excited about and I don’t want to get political but I thought both of them looked pretty bad and now I’m sad for our country. Now I’m exhausted from being up too late. I did have a productive day in the office but everything just takes so much longer than I think it will so I’m feeling a little behind now. Hopefully I can make more progress today!

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fitzfizz · September 2020

@bows22 I think we were simul-posting (again!) this morning, so I changed mine to a WTF haha. From your question yesterday, I’m doing weight watchers for now. I tried whole 30 a few years ago and it ended up being about whole 6 before I gave up.

Month/Cycle: 9/3 AL

CD: 3

WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPKs, SMEPish

R/R: Rave: The weather was so unbelievably nice here yesterday, I went for a short run and it was lovely. Rant: My short run was my only break between working at work and working late from home. 7 AM to 9 PM is too much. I also still have so many unfinished results to call people about. Sorry to anyone still waiting on results from your doctor! We try!

CS/Q: nothing today

Also, I fell asleep last night while composing responses yesterday, so to avoid bumping, I’m pre-tagging today!

@akoros The one semi-healthy thing I have made on a fall theme that came out well as an oat topped apple crisp with fall spices. That was actually decent!

@krash_ I never thought in life that I would reach a point of being excited that a stranger on the internet was ovulating from her left ovary, but here we are. Yay!!

@Kenneylynn3 I usually ovulate day 16-18, so I have been starting OPKs on day 11, once per day until they get a darker, then go to 3 per day as my spikes have been short. I bought a bunch of cheap wondfos so I’m not super worried about wasting them FWIW.

@bumblebee0210 One good thing about still working in person is I can pawn baked goods off on my coworkers!

@ashaislurking I’m still jealous of your beautiful chart, and now also your relaxing week. I hope you have joy it!

@AKuzReve Girl, same. I have also been working crazy late this week. This needs to stop.

@runningoncookies I am glad you are almost done with Clomid! FX this will be the only time you need it!

gingermama29 · September 2020

@bows22 ugh that debate was exhausting and a complete dumpster fire. I'm terrified for this election.

@fitzfizz glad you got to enjoy the beautiful weather!

Month/Cycle: 16/10

CD: 27

WAYDTGKU: temping, prenatals, OPKs, and HIO of course

R/R: super excited!! Some of you might remember that I applied for a grant back in March to start a ukulele program in my district. I found out last night that it was approved!! My students are going to be so excited!! I can't wait to tell them!

CS/Q: if it's possible, my OPKs are getting more negative. Ughhhh

bumblebee0210 · September 2020

@fitzfizz. That is way too much work time, and it does make me feel better about getting test results. Thanks on behalf of all the patients...

@bows22 It's nice to have the house to yourself. Two people working from home for long periods can be a bit... claustrophobic. And I totally hear you on things taking longer than you think. I have toyed around with tracking my time to get a better sense of these things but it always seems like more trouble than it's worth. I try to just lower my expectations which sometimes helps!

Month/Cycle: 5/1 AL

CD: 3? who knows

WAYDTGKU: opks, temps

R/R: Rant-- the weather is being really weird here-- it's sort of hot and rainy. I want fall back! I just ordered some new sweaters. Rave/Rant/Ambivalent?-- saw my doctor yesterday, long story and *tw* (loss, pg, lc) so it's in the spoiler.

I recently had my second missed miscarriage in three years (with a chemical pregnancy and a healthy term pregnancy in between), and because of the healthy pregnancy, I don't fit any of the criteria or typical patterns for repeat loss. On the one hand, the diagnosis of "bad luck" is reassuring, but it's also unsatisfying, and makes getting pregnant again daunting. My doctor agreed that given that my mom went through menopause young, it makes sense to test me for DOR. She offered to send me to the RE if that's what I wanted, but she agreed that the only likely treatment would be IVF with genetic testing, which might be a road we eventually go down, but I don't want to start right now without trying again naturally for a little while.

I feel reassured that we can actually do some testing, but it's scary to think that DOR/poor egg quality could be the culprit, because it means lots of interventions and maybe not getting the family size we want. But I'm glad that my doctor heard my concerns and agreed to do the testing, because if that's an issue I want to know ASAP. I know a lot of women in this forum have dealt with this road (and come out the other side!), but right now I'm just anxious about all of it.

CS/Q: not yet--- still sort of benched until hcg is down to zero.

Kenneylynn3 · September 2020

@bows22 good luck today with being more productive!
@fitzfizz thanks and good luck today! Sorry you ended up working such a long day yesterday.
@gingermama29 yeah for the ukulele program! I hate when my opks did that last time. I believe I have a rapid onset, so I missed my surge. Hopefully this cycle I'll catch it my testing more often.

Month:/Cycle 3/1 AL

CD: 7

WAYDTGKU: opk, cm/cp, PNV, AI, baby aspirin

R/R: sorry for posting and ghosting yesterday. Lately the days just seem to get away from me. I feel like my list is never ending.

CS/Q: nothing really to see. Just some wacky dots from poor sleep.

kpearse99 · September 2020

@bows22 Glad you got the house back to yourself again! That debate last night... oof. I felt like I was watching this...

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akoros · September 2020

@fitzfizz That's true, fruit things aren't necessarily that bad, it's mostly the sugar you need to watch for on those. I have an apple cranberry crisp I like to make which isn't overly terrible health-wise. I also have a semi-healthy banana bread recipe that I make from time to time

@bows22 @gingermama29 Ugh...that's all I can say about that. I'm normally fairly engaged in these sorts of things (after all, I live in DC and work in policy), but it's so hard this time around. I'm tired of seeing quotes or headlines and being truly unable to tell whether they're true or parody.

And a ukulele program?? That sounds so cool!

Month/Cycle: 27/2 AL

CD: 9

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, vitamins

R/R: Rave -- it's cooler! Rant -- debate last night...and all the drinks I had to get through it last night

CS/Q: none

acleverusername · September 2020

@bows22 glad to hear you have the house back but does that mean YH has to use porta potty? I hope you can wrap up those pesky audits in no time!

@fitzfizz those work hours are insane and it’s also good to have the doctor’s perspective on why results take so long. But good for you for getting out for a run!

@gingermama29 wow! Congrats on getting that grant! I hope your students are excited as you are. And I really really hope that an OPK turns positive for you soon. FX.

@bumblebee0210 it sounds like you have a great doctor! I wish every doctor visit went like that. is IF testing covered for you? Only thing is to be aware of is... there’s no test (that I know of) to know the quality of your eggs; just the quantity.

@Kenneylynn3 “days getting away from you”... I know the feeling well.

@kpearse99
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Month/Cycle: 8/9

CD: 7

WAYDTGKU: Clomid + OPKs + TI, a bunch of vitamins/supplements for both MH and I. Also this cycle: urology consult for MH; additional blood testing (for other autoimmune diseases) for me.

R/R: For the past 2 days work has been non-stop meetings; I’ve had no more than a couple of 30 min breaks in between which is not enough to get anything done! Grrrr. Today I’ve blocked off my calendar so with the exception of 3 meetings, I’m hoping to get some items on my todo list crossed off.

MH has his urology consult today. It’s virtual so I don’t actually know what we’ll find out but hopefully something! We’ve paused IUIs until we figure out if something can be done to boost his total motal count (TMC) which differed significantly and not in the good way between his SA and our IUI last cycle.

CS/Q: I’ve actually making an effort to post today. Go me!

acleverusername · September 2020

@akoros missed you in my update while writing my novella. Hopefully you at least enjoyed the drinks? I was going to watch the debate, then totally forgot because I was still working, and tuned in for post analysis and within minutes knew it had been a sh*tshow. 😩

akoros · September 2020

@acleverusername I did! Just a bit too many...but at least I'm teleworking so it's not like I have to put on real clothes or see people. Honestly, from a "staying informed" standpoint you didn't miss anything, right now I'm mostly living for the Gritty memes in response to "bad things happen in Philadelphia".

kpearse99 · September 2020

@acleverusername

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ashaislurking · September 2020

@bows22 Yay for having the house back to yourself! Hope you can keep making progress with your work. As far as the debate is concerned- I didn't watch any of it but the memes are FABULOUS.
@fitzfizz I'm glad the weather was nice there and you got to enjoy a run! Hopefully you can get caught up on work without too many more crazy days like yesterday.
@gingermama29 I'm so happy you got the grant!!! I love playing my ukulele and I'm sure your students will too! It'll definitely beat playing hot cross buns on recorders.
@bumblebee0210 I'm glad you have a doctor who is listening to your concerns and trying to work with you as best as they can to help with family planning, even if it's not exactly where you wanted to be right now.
@acleverusername Hopefully you can get a lot more done than you could with yesterday's back to back meetings! Fingers crossed for a good urology consult for YH!

@kpearse99 I see you!

Month/Cycle: 8/7
CD: 12
WAYDTGKU: OPKs, BBT, HIO, Cm/Cp tracking, Prenatals+B6
R/R: I'm starting craftober tomorrow which is exciting but I'm also kind of dreading it because it's forced self-care. I'm going to be painting most of the days if not every day. This also means I'll probably be doing weekly drop posts in our crafting thread (can we make a collective effort to revive that thread? I miss it). This relaxation week has been -really- good for my mental health. Kind of dreading going back to crazy next week BUT I'm soaking up this week as much as I possibly can. I did a big group video chat and joked around with a bunch of friends last night and will probably do the same tonight. I'm really lucky to have this rare week of down time.
CS/Q: Still insanely well behaved and I'm honestly impressed.

kpearse99 · September 2020

@ashaislurking I laughed really hard at that GIF!!

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bumblebee0210 · September 2020

@acleverusername Yeah-- my doctor is awesome. The tests are just the standard day-3 things to check for DOR. I think the idea is that quantity and quality are correlated. But given that quantity doesn't seem to be the issue for me, I would be surprised if they came back abnormal. Fx on your productivity and husband's visit!

bows22 · September 2020

@fitzfizz oh yes weight watchers. There was someone else who did whole 30 after @krash_ did and I was thinking it was you. But you were a different diet! Clearly diets stick out at me because I wish I could do them but can’t haha. But I think it’s great you call your patients with results even if it’s a little late! No one I see ever calls, you just get them in your portal and then have to wait for a follow up to discuss.

@gingermama29 thats amazing news about the grant! That’s going to be so fun!

@Bumblebee0210 I am trying to do the same with the expectations but I have a deadline looming so lowering expectations is more about maybe not double checking things that I normally would, and I hate thinking about quality possibly suffering. Also regarding your spoiler, the fact of not getting to choose what your family looks like is a very hard thing for me to accept. Your feelings are totally valid. You’ve been down a tough road so far but I hope it really was just terrible luck and next time is flawless.

@kenn@Kenneylynn3 I’m with you on the never ending list! I hope you are having a good day!

@kpea@kpearse99 that is the perfect picture 😂

@akoros the weather here right now is perfect! Sunny and cool!

@aceleverusername fortunately the water is back on so no port a potty! Good luck with the consult and with getting things done today!

@asha@ashaislurking I’m glad you are enjoying your week of down time! Zoom calls seem so lame but I am always so happy after I do one with friends, I should set up one soon!

acleverusername · September 2020

@akoros hooray for teleworking for those of us who can.

@ashaislurking your week of R&R sounds heavenly! Hopefully you can revive the Craft thread with your Craftober. It sounds like there are a few crafty people on this board right now (myself definitely not included!)

@bows22 I did the Whole30 in July/Aug and then @priyadoc had started doing hers in September.

fitzfizz · September 2020

@gingermama29 Ukulele sounds so much more fun that the music classes I had in school. I’m sure the kids will love it!

@bumblebee0210 **TW**

Did they at least do karyotyping on you and YH? I realize that one successful pregnancy makes some of the RPL things less likely, but it is still possible that there is something genetic that they could find. I get that they may not recommend that unless you are pursuing IVF, but it’s odd to me they wouldn’t do any of the testing. With the multiple losses, are you seeing an MFM in addition to the OB?

@Kenneylynn3 Did you end up getting some more OPKs to test more frequently?

@kpearse99 So excited to see you here!! I know you have been busy, but always nice to see you

@akoros I have found that I can substitute Splenda for sugar in recipes with fruit, so it was OK if you eat artificial sweeteners. I never like any substitute for fat in a recipe, but the artificial sweeteners are OK for me.

@acleverusername I’m scratching my head how a Urologist visit can be virtual. Has he previously had a normal exam by a Urologist before or something?

@ashaislurking Tell me more about craftober! I tried googling this but I’m finding just random different things. Is this a specific challenge that you are doing? (I love crafts!) I realized last week that we have no crafting thread for September, and I didn’t want to start one now, but I’m definitely planning this for October.

@bows22 I have tried many diets over time, but weight watchers was the only thing I could ever stick with, and even then only when properly motivated. And don’t let me fool you into thinking I call about every result! I usually get 40-60 results back per day and most of the normal ones I just send a quick message to the portal with an explanation. I call if is is something new or abnormal, or if I know the person was worried about the result.

bows22 · September 2020

@fitzfizz you probably would have called about a result that said that someone’s uterine lining had a cobblestone appearance that indicates endometrial hyperplasia (I know that isn’t your field but you know what I’m saying, and yes I’m bitter haha)

ashaislurking · October 2020

@fitzfizz I'll also post this in the October craft thread but as a more inclusive version of inktober, my friends and I came up with prompts for each day in October that we will create with. We have some people drawing, I'm painting, a couple people are sculpting, one of my friends is using these prompts as poetry prompts. Lots of ways to create. Here's the prompts!

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