School starts tomorrow for me! We are virtual right now teaching from empty classrooms! Good luck to my fellow teachers and to the new parent teachers at home!
@jbal918 Good luck!! We're two weeks in and it's a beast so far. It's so hard to work around all the new complications. I hope things start to feel easier soon!
I made a lemon blueberry cheesecake cake this weekend and have been eating it for breakfast. Cake for breakfast is one dining quirk that DH turned me on to when we got married. When it's all gone I might make another cake for breakfast purposes....
We took a mini-vacation over the weekend to the YMCA Camp I used to work at. They hosted "Family Camp" where you rent your own room/cabin and they provide food and host activities for a couple of days. It was weird being back and with all the extra precautions for Covid, but it was amazing to take hubs and the boys and show them a place that was such a huge part of my childhood and young adult life.
We left a little early because I could not get any sleep in the camp bunks, but it was exactly what we needed. A change of scenery, a huge dose of the outdoors, and some out of the ordinary fun stuff to do. I am super achey but emotionally recharged.
We finally did a little socializing yesterday! We had a couple over and sat outside on our deck for some snacks and drinks. Unfortunately, as we were outside, the wind picked up and blew in a ton of smoke from the fires burning out East. The AQI got so bad that I actually ended up getting sick and throwing up! Now I’m hiding inside for the next day 😕
Baby is so active that I can actually see him kicking! It’s a bit odd, I have to admit 😳 Sort of reminds me of the chestbursters from the Alien franchise 🤣
@laurenspdx We've been in this smoke for 2+ weeks in Northern CA It's horrible. I'm sorry you got sick from it.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
DH threw out his back yesterday and the two of us together look hysterical. He is like babe I need you to lift this pot out of the lower cabinets since I can't bend over. I am like well I also am struggling to bend over, so help me with this weird squat. Normally I would ask him for more help lifting heavy things, but now I am like maybe I can do it. (Within reason and extreme caution of course).
@dobiemom11 I feel like my H is doing everything he can to try and hurt himself...he tripped, fell and twisted his knee getting out of the car on Saturday (while holding DD), and then crushed his toe moving furniture yesterday...I told him he's not allowed to incapacitate himself because I'm getting more and more immobile!
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
My husband has been having sympathy pregnancy symptoms and it’s driving me craaazy. He’s been “a little nauseous” for a week. I have HG, so I’m hugging the toilet like suck it up buttercup 🤣🧐
@bearmomma1 Thanks! It’s definitely better here today but a lot of the fires grew with this crazy wind storm. Hoping things get better in the whole region soon, it’s just so sad 😕
@dreamscapes_ Thanks! I’ve been having those crazy kicks too, this baby is STRONG I swear it’s going to kick it’s way right out soon. It’s fun, though, because my SO and the other kids can see it now and they get so weirded out 😂
So yesterday was the first day of school and it went a bit better than I thought. @gingkomama It’s definitely weird! We are virtually teaching from empty classrooms!
@jbal918 So weird. I also thought the first few days went better than expected. Now we're in the more complicated phase of trying to figure out how to change several things that don't come up at school (tons of distractions in their background, or always arriving late for meetings, how to privately redirect behavior, etc.) and it's hard!
I just realized I am going to create a mental list of inappropriate responses to inappropriate comments. The last two times I was pregnant /gave birth I was blown away at some of the stupid, awful things people felt entitled to say and this time I want to fire back. So, please see the examples below and let me know if you have more sassy suggestions.
When my dad's wife said "so when are you having another?" while I was still in the hospital, less than 12 hours after giving birth I wish I had said "I'll decide when my vaginal tear heals."
When my FIL said "you're going to name him after a...." (trails off instead of using the offensive term I know he thought) I wish I had said "well, I couldn't risk naming him [insert FIL name] and having him be a complete a-hole."
When *multiple people* assumed that because 2nd baby was another son and not a daughter I must be disappointed I wish I had anything at all to point out what an a-hole comment that is.
So this is the year that my MIL and SIL bring signs over to my house and hang them with tape that rips the paint off of what they hang it to. On Mother’s Day it was just the tops of a few door frames which I was able to sand and repaint without much effort. I had to do this. DH does not do any handy work. On Monday they did it again for my bday but taped signs to our original 1926 builtin book cases that separate the living room and dining room. The tape ripped off the stain from 4 different spots. I’m trying to not be mad, but I’m SO angry. We don’t have the stain that was last used so the whole thing has to be sanded and redone to be fixed. Im Just so so so angry. I know it comes from a good place but for the love of God stop using tape on the original wood in my old house! I really think I’m also so attached because I have meticulously been renovating and decorating each room of our house, trying to preserve as much of the original design as possible, but keeping things looking transitional. I’m just very attached - I know In the end it’s not what is important, I just wish they had more common sense.
@shelmcclel I would be livid. My husband does house repairs but all painting, decorating, and detail work falls to me because he is too haphazard about it. Even if they mean well, I know it's frustrating to have kind intentions result in a painstaking eyesore that isn't a quick fix.
I don't have any advice or anything to help, but I completely understand where you are and how much it sucks.
@shelmcclel how do people not know not to put tape on walls!?
My dad is a perfectionist carpenter so I think I learned young, but I’m always So amazed when people don’t know things that seem like basic home care to me.
@shelmcclel why do they hang signs up in your house at all? Are they doing this when you aren't home? If you've asked them not to and they still do it, ask for your key back. If they're doing this in front of your DH, I'd say it's time for him to start doing some handy work.
@karmba yes they literally come here with their spare key when we are not here and do it
@babymakes9 I’ve gotta have DH day something otherwise I’m not going to be nice about it. Guaranteed he will be annoyed with me for being mad at his mom but I do not give any f’s anymore.
@autumn87654321 I know - I’m not sure how this isn’t common knowledge. I think I made this mistake 1x as a child and was lit into by my Mom and it’s just always been instilled in me that it’s not something you do!
I'm pretty sure baby has moved! I'm not sure if he/she is headdown now or not, but until now she's been consistently lying with her head low on my left, feet low on my right, and butt high on my right. Now it feels different and movement is a bit different. I know it's early, but I wouldn't mind if baby is starting to favor head down!
My anxiety levels have been crazy high today so I stepped away from my office (my dining room table) and went into the nursery to start going through things...it helps to do something productive in life other than work and worry about the world, but then it's nerve wracking thinking how soon baby will be here and how time is flying by.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@bearmomma1 I’ve been a nervous anxious wreck these days too. I think it probably mostly had to do with the terrifying sky outside and the fact that I’m trapped in my house with the AQI being so off the charts. Just feels like nonstop crap in the world these days and it’s so tangible with this smoke. Hope it’s not too bad down there for you 😕
@bearmomma1@laurenspdx i definately undetsand that anxiety. With school starting , generally political nightmares, Covid, and the west coast on fire. I’m from Portland my mom lives on the coast. There have been fires near her but not too close. She’s in manzanita. My aunt lives in the hills in Eugene , My brother is in the Bay Area so those were close w few weeks ago, and I went to college in Ashland at SOU and know a few people who have lost their homes near Ashland and even more who have evacuated
I really hope some nice calm steady heavy rain (without lightning ) blows in and helps all the firefighters out a bit.
@laurenspdx@autumn87654321 The weatherman said maaaybe some rain coming end of next week, but who knows....that would be amazing if it came!
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I’m trying to get DH to get into storage so I can take my time going through stuff so I’m thing trying to convince him to do it tomorrow.
Also, my cousin passed away so my family flew to FL but I stayed in NJ because next week is my third trimester and COVID so I told them we are going to push back DS birthday. (It’s the 18th.) so we are going to do it the 27th because that will be two weeks since they are back and some of my family is annoyed. Well, sorry, not sorry!
I have been in a funk for a couple days, so we decided to go to a local downtown area with outdoor restaurants. Just a change of pace and something different. Well halfway through the dog melts down and then my husband melts down. Now we are all just basically in time out at home! I am like we should have just stayed home. I am not sure why my husband wants to always bring the dog with us. I know it is good for him to get out and have fun, but when it goes badly, it gets kinda ugly. Interested in seeing what happens when we add a little one to the mix.
@jbal918. Sorry to hear about your cousin passing. Thoughts for you and your family. Also good idea on postponing the bday party despite the drama! Hopefully it will be a fun day when it occurs.
Re: 9.6 to 9.12 Weekly Randoms
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
We left a little early because I could not get any sleep in the camp bunks, but it was exactly what we needed. A change of scenery, a huge dose of the outdoors, and some out of the ordinary fun stuff to do. I am super achey but emotionally recharged.
the Alien franchise 🤣
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@dreamscapes_ Thanks! I’ve been having those crazy kicks too, this baby is STRONG I swear it’s going to kick it’s way right out soon. It’s fun, though, because my SO and the other kids can see it now and they get so weirded out 😂
When my dad's wife said "so when are you having another?" while I was still in the hospital, less than 12 hours after giving birth I wish I had said "I'll decide when my vaginal tear heals."
When my FIL said "you're going to name him after a...." (trails off instead of using the offensive term I know he thought) I wish I had said "well, I couldn't risk naming him [insert FIL name] and having him be a complete a-hole."
When *multiple people* assumed that because 2nd baby was another son and not a daughter I must be disappointed I wish I had anything at all to point out what an a-hole comment that is.
Just so so so angry. I know it comes from
a good place but for the love of God stop using tape on the original wood in my old house! I really think I’m also so attached because I have meticulously been renovating and decorating each room
of our house, trying to preserve as much of the original design as possible, but keeping things looking transitional. I’m just very attached - I know In the end it’s not what is important, I just wish they had more common sense.
I don't have any advice or anything to help, but I completely understand where you are and how much it sucks.
how do people not know not to put tape on walls!?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
@babymakes9 I’ve gotta have DH day something otherwise I’m not going to be nice about it. Guaranteed he will be annoyed with me for being mad at his mom but I do not give any f’s anymore.
@autumn87654321 I know - I’m
not sure how this isn’t common knowledge. I think I made this mistake 1x as a child and was lit into by my Mom
and it’s just always been instilled in me that it’s not something you do!
@shelmcclel I get her intention of wanting to be nice and decorate for your birthday (I hope, at least!) but I’d totally be pissed off too!
*edited for spelling
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I’ve been a nervous anxious wreck these days too. I think it probably mostly had to do with the terrifying sky outside and the fact that I’m trapped in my house with the AQI being so off the charts. Just feels like nonstop crap in the world these days and it’s so tangible with this smoke. Hope it’s not too bad down there for you 😕
i definately undetsand that anxiety. With school starting , generally political nightmares, Covid, and the west coast on fire. I’m from Portland my mom lives on the coast. There have been fires near her but not too close. She’s in manzanita. My aunt lives in the hills in Eugene , My brother is in the Bay Area so those were close w few weeks ago, and I went to college in Ashland at SOU and know a few people who have lost their homes near Ashland and even more who have evacuated
I really hope some nice calm steady heavy rain (without lightning ) blows in and helps all the firefighters out a bit.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@jbal918. Sorry to hear about your cousin passing. Thoughts for you and your family. Also good idea on postponing the bday party despite the drama! Hopefully it will be a fun day when it occurs.