WTF Wednesday 8/12

Re: WTF Wednesday 8/12

• mom_of_the_vogels member

  August 2020 edited August 2020

  This one is kind of silly but....
  
  After all of the insanity of California sister's wedding several of us (Indiana family) received thank you notes today. It would be an amazing and welcome gesture... if they had not clearly been written by someone other than the bride or groom. 
  
  I mean, seriously. WTF.
  
  ETA: I'm not so much offended as vicariously mortified given that either
  A) my sister didn't know this was happening 
  B ) she didn't realize the dramatic faux pas of allowing it to happen
  
  My family doesn't live strictly by Emily Post's Etiquette by any means, but something like this seems so tacky. (Especially given that B is the more likely scenario.)

      

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• laurenspdx member

  August 2020

  @mom_of_the_vogels Stoooop! Who wrote them??

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• mom_of_the_vogels member

  August 2020 edited August 2020

  @laurenspdx I'm pretty sure it was the groom's Mom. Not in a "thank you on behalf of the couple" way but actually in the first person as if my sister wrote it.
  
  Pretty sure my sister would not address a personalized note to our Mom by Mom's given name...

      

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• laurenspdx member

  August 2020

  @mom_of_the_vogels 🤦🏼‍♀️

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• dobiemom11 member

  August 2020

  @mom_of_the_vogels. Like what?  That makes no sense at all.  It would be a nice gesture if the MIL had written a note from herself for how nice the wedding was.  But pretending to be the couple is a no.  You have a while to write them I think (like a year).

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• karmba member

  August 2020

  @mom_of_the_vogels that’s so odd!  What would possess her MIL to do that?  

  
  

  
  

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• mom_of_the_vogels member

  August 2020

  @karmba I'm guessing the MIL offered to be helpful and sister accepted because she's so busy with dental school (and kind of lacks common etiquette understanding). That's purely speculation but it's the only version of events I can wrap my mind around.

      

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• babymakes9 member

  August 2020

  Omg! Is anyone going to tell her?

  
  older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7 

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• mom_of_the_vogels member

  August 2020

  @babymakes9 probably not for now. It's the kind of thing that will likely come up as an embarrassing story a few years down the road. She's still in "new bride" mode so any criticism would probably put a cloud over the happy memories she's still firming up.

      

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• shelmcclel member

  August 2020

  @mom_of_the_vogels WAIT the MIL wrote thank you notes to your family. Stop. I cannot even fathom this. Someone HAS to say something. Like she needs to know it’s so rude. 

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• mom_of_the_vogels member

  August 2020 edited August 2020

  @shelmcclel as best we can guess my sister's new MIL wrote thank you notes, as if she were the bride, to at least my Mom and I. We absolutely know it wasn't the bride/my sister based on the handwriting and verbiage.
  
  We don't know for sure if MIL did it of her own accord or with the knowledge or approval of the bride. My suspicion is it was with the knowledge of the bride.
  
  Honestly, when we do question her it will be in a light-hearted, probably almost joking way to give her a chance to deflect with some grace. This particular sister is so far removed from standard social etiquette that she probably doesn't realize how insane this is. I mean she has table manners and can interact socially like a normal human, but she is far from Martha Stewart.
  

      

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