How did you tell SO about the BFP

mrs_massie · July 2020

How did everyone share the news with their SO?

manillabar · July 2020

He saw the test first lol. He’s the one who convinced me to test (I was going to wait for the beta), so I dipped the cheapie and went back to our bedroom and then he went over to the bathroom and goes “wait, how many lines are supposed to be there?” 🤣

mrs_massie · July 2020

We kind of thought there was a good chance that I got pregnant this month, but we were trying to wait for August. So, I was bummed that I wasn't going to get a chance to do the big pregnancy reveal to my husband (our first was a surprise to us both and we were freaking out and our second we tried for so there wasn't much surprise to it). And although my husband adores his kids and hes very hands on with them, he has never shown excitement when I told him I was pregnant, more of a nervous laugh. A few months back I told him to promise me if I ever get pregnant again to try and act excited. So even though we kind of knew I still wanted to do a cute reveal. Took a test and it was negative, but if i held it to the light thought maybe i saw a blue line. Ordered a digital test in the mail and 4 days later when it came and it was my turn to sleep in, took a test without him knowing and it came back positive. I laid in bed for an hour contemplating how to tell him and couldn't think of anything. When I came downstairs he said he was going for coffee, so all I could think to do was put it in an old package that was addressed to him and put it on the front step. When he got home he asked me if I ordered anything from home depot (which was where the old package came from) and I said no. He opened it up and seemed really confused for a few seconds and then came over and hugged and kissed me. I'm not creative enough and couldnt wait to tell him until i figured it out.

MariaBend25 · July 2020

We have been trying for 8 years, just had 2 failed IUI, waiting for my period to begin our first round of IVF and it never came. Thought it was just my irregular cycle, but after 4-5 days of sore boobs and still no period, I was worried something was wrong with me and that we would not be starting our IVF cycle on time. My husband wanted me to test anyway, and when we got back form a weekend trip I used an EPT test that was at home...but it expired back in 2016. It was positive, but I didn't trust it due to the expiration so I lied and said we didn't have any tests and I would go in the morning to buy some. The next morning I was out of bed early to get to the store. Bought a pack of 2 and used the store bathroom...both positive. So I went and got a card, baby socks, and a giftbag. Put all the tests in the bottom, stuffed it with paper, put in the socks, and put the card on the side, which I signed "I'm Pregnant!!" When I got home, I pretended like I needed to get the mail, and he told me he just got it. I "got the mail" anyway and came back with the gift bag. Said it had his name on it. Went he came over to open it, I started filming and that's when he knew. Opened the card and read my message and he started crying. Later, he was laughing about being so clueless about me acting weird, jumping out of bed, getting the mail, and there being a giftbag in the mail LOL. After so long, we still don't believe it is real. Two blood tests confirm and show increasing hCG, but we aren't getting our hopes up until the 8w US. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am terrified to get my period and my husband is hovering asking if there is blood. Fingers crossed. Send me some positive vibes, ladies!

mrs_massie · July 2020

@MariaBend25 praying for a VERY sticky baby! We know a couple who had been trying for many years and very similar to you, were unable to get pregnant. They didnt have the money for IVF, so went the route of fostering to adopt. Wound up adopting two girls and fostering a little boy that they are in the process of adopting. In the midst of it all she got pregnant for the first time and they just had a healthy baby girl. Stay positive!

travandas · July 2020

@mrs_massie I'm not creative either...

I woke up early Father's Day morning and took a test. Laid back in bed holding the test trying to figure out how to tell my husband as he was still sleeping. He woke up and I handed him the test and said, "Happy Father's Day, you're going to be a daddy again". lol Later that day we ended up doing a treasure hunt to tell the kids...They both had tears in their eyes with excitement.

hmstrangedays · July 2020

When he came home from work, my son was wearing a "big brother" t-shirt

Liz1485 · July 2020

Last week my husband asked me if I had started my period yet, which I hadn't. I said I'd wait until the weekend to take a test. During that week, my face bloated, I started drinking twice as much water as usual, I started getting weird feelings in my uterus (stretching) and not a speck of blood to be found. On Saturday I took the test and it was a + immediately. He's freaking out, I'm excited.

jenotontx · July 2020

I had planned to buy a T-shirt for my DD to wear that says "Big Sister in Training" but I never expected to get KU so quickly! I figured I still had time to order it but that was obviously not the case. So this morning after I tested positive I just gave her the test and told her to go give it to daddy. lol Not very exciting but I knew I wouldn't be able to hold onto the secret for long.

juliebeannn · July 2020

DH was coming home from work the morning of my BFP so I put my son in a "big brother" shirt and waited a bit longer to drop him off at daycare. Of course, of all days, DH decides to run an errand before heading home, so I changed my son out of the shirt and dropped him off at school. When DH got home a half hour later, I stood at the door holding the shirt. He melted, I cried. It wasn't perfect but it was sweet.

xvividash · July 2020

So unfortunately my baby’s father and I recently broke up. We’re still on really good terms, but man what lovely timing... lol. I’m telling him tonight. He would always make me hearts out of paper and money, so I made one for him and wrote inside, “You’re going to be a dad.” Along with that I put the positive tests in a gift bag along with my positive blood test paper. I’m soooooooo nervous ladies!! I spoke to him on the phone last night and he was like, “Hey, I had a dream about you... I dreamt you were pregnant.” I almost dropped the phone right there!!! Are you kidding me? 😂 I want to tell him in person, so I played it off and I just told him, “Wow, you have some crazy dreams...”🤣

manillabar · July 2020

@xvividash wow I’m very curious to hear how it goes tonight! Good luck 🤞🏾

juliebeannn · July 2020

@xvividash I can't believe he had a dream you were pregnant! I hope the conversation goes well!!

xvividash · July 2020

I still can’t believe he dreamed it either ladies. So crazy. I got to tell him! : ) We ended up going to the park and found the only shade under a big palm tree in the 107 degree weather. We sat down and I gave him the heart first and then the gift bag. He opened the heart and oh my gosh his face... I’ll never forget that look. : ) He was so genuinely happy. He’s very very excited haha. I’m so thankful it went well. He was like, “I knew it!!!”. He said that he had been having dreams I was pregnant for days, but only told me about the one. I was like, “Alright, I need to have a talk to whoever told you in your dream, because he’s spilling my guts for me and I don’t appreciate it.”🤣 This little one will be his first child, and mine as well. He really wants to get back together. We’re just going to take it day by day and soak in the happiness. : )

manillabar · July 2020

@xvividash I'm so glad it went well! I guess he if ever has dreams about winning the lottery... you know what to do

jenn622-2 · July 2020

@xvividash ok, I’m tearing up over this (hello pregnancy hormones!) I’m so happy you are both happy!! I can’t wait to hear more about this love story! Even if it’s not a long term partner match it sounds like you will make great co-parents ❤️

bcashaw · July 2020

Big brother t shirt for our son here, told my dad the same way

becca07024411 · July 2020

We tested the evening of 4dp5dt and saw nothing, not unexpected because I had a really strong feeling that this cycle wasn't going to work. The next morning I couldn't wait for him to wake up and I really needed to go the bathroom, so I went ahead and tested. When I though I saw a line starting to show up I ran in and flipped on the light and asked him to look and see if he thought he could see anything! Scared him half to death, but sure enough, there it was!

homeschooljewel · July 2020

Mine was not sweet. Since it was a total surprise it went something like "Holy shit, get in here, I swear I didn't cheat on you." (DH had a vasectomy 10 years ago). And then I cried like a maniac for an hour. Not magical.

juliebeannn · July 2020

@homeschooljewel Wow! Pregnancy 10 years after a vasectomy! That must've been quite the surprise!!

ohheyitsb · July 2020

I literally ran out of the bathroom and showed him the test. I wish I could have held out to do the big bro t-shirt with my son but I have zero chill. He was surprised and asked if I could take a digital one lol When that said "yes +" we high-fived ... same thing we did for our first!

nolemama24 · July 2020

We have been trying for such a long time. I woke up on CD30 and decided to take a test because I had an appointment with my acupuncturist later that day to change the herbs I had been drinking (never got to actually try acupuncture due to COVID, but I did start the herbs). I peed on the stick, went to make my bed, and upon stepping in the bathroom 5 minutes later, I audibly gasped to see a dark AF positive test. My husband was at work and I called him immediately. I blurted it out. He was shocked. I was shocked. Happy tears!

clevans1 · July 2020

This is our fifth pregnancy and the first time I did something fun as an announcement! Our second is the same age as our first was when we became pregnant with him so I put our second in the same outfit and gave him a similar sign as we used for the public announcement of our pregnancy with him, and then called my husband in to see him. It was priceless. It took him a second to figure out what was going on.

kloe818 · July 2020

We've been doing fertility treatments and IVF so there wasn't any cute way to tell him. I just messaged him when I got the call about our first Beta results and gave him the number. He told me he already knew I was pregnant because I was acting the same as I had the previous time. I didn't feel the same lol.

becca07024411 · July 2020

@kloe818 I didn't feel the same this past transfer either. First transfer failed, but 2nd transfer was a success and I knew it was because it totally felt like it. 3rd tranafer felt just like the 1st, so I was sure that would be a fail too and I was shocked when we got BFP!

kloe818 · July 2020

becca07024411 said:

@kloe818 I didn't feel the same this past transfer either. First transfer failed, but 2nd transfer was a success and I knew it was because it totally felt like it. 3rd tranafer felt just like the 1st, so I was sure that would be a fail too and I was shocked when we got BFP!

This is our second transfer. First took earlier this year but there was a genetic issue and heartbeat stopped around 8 wks. The first was a fresh transfer so I'm guessing half of what I was going through was ovarian bloat and med bloat.

momtomesthree · July 2020

I woke up three days before I thought I was supposed to get my period (got my IUD taken out the month before, so wasn’t sure how long my cycle would be) and I had had a dream that I had gotten a positive pregnancy test. I told my husband and he said he had just woken up from a dream where we had a baby girl. I took a cheap dollar store test, totally thinking it would be negative- it took me a week past my missed period to get a positive with our son. Anyway, took the test and set a timer, walked away and brushed my teeth. The timer went off and I went and looked at the test, ready to confirm the negative and move on with my day. But then I saw the faintest line!! Did a double take and yelled “oh my god.” My husband ran into the bathroom, looked at the test and had a huge smile on his face!!

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