PGAL Check In Week 7/27/2020

mdfarmchick · July 2020

This thread is for anyone who has experienced loss at any point in pregnancy or experienced the loss of a child. ((Please feel free to share your loss story if you haven’t already.))

How far along are you?

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?

Any upcoming appointments?

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had?

mdfarmchick · July 2020

How far along are you?
13 weeks/Due 01 Feb/lemon

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?
I’m doing okay. The nausea is less of an all day thing but it can come up all of a sudden so I’ve thrown up more but sick less? 🤪 I’m doing okay. I had a bit of a mental breakdown last Thursday. Long story short I have a medical exemption for wearing a mask and I am supposed to fly back for my anatomy scan in September. MH has a work trip so we are going to meet him and visit both of our families. Well the airlines just ended all medical exceptions without exception. So my intention was to wear a mask and just slip it down off my nose when I needed some deep breaths. I was only going to have to show the note if someone was upset about me sliding it down a little. Anyway I’ve come up with some options to discuss with my OB on Tuesday but I’m either driving back early, pushing the appointment as late as I can, or I’m going to try ((🤞🏻)) to get it ordered for my SIL’s OB while we are there. Overall it’s been a distraction from worrying that something happened to the baby in the last two weeks since we had our appointment. I’m worried because our milestone for our latest loss happened just before the last appointment and so I keep thinking baby may have stopped growing. I’m ready for baby kicks please.

Any upcoming appointments?

This Thursday is a cervix check and “pre anatomy scan” to make sure everything is going well with both of us before I get the approval to go meet my husband.

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had?

I had this friend and we both kept ending up single at the same time. So one night we decided to see if there was anything there... it was literally like kissing my brother. I think both of us were super uncomfortable and I said I forgot I had an appointment ((at like 9 pm on a Saturday)) and high tailed it out of there. 🤣

mdfarmchick · July 2020

Where’s everyone? Do we not want to do this weekly? @birdiejo @WildMagelet @babymamadimo @hannahbananas11 @moguippy @jumpy57 @adorebel

birdiejo · July 2020

How far along are you? 11 + 2

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? I’m feeling pretty ok. Looking forward to my appointment on Monday and deciding if I want to do the blood draw for the NIPT. Need to figure out how much it’s going to cost though.

Any upcoming appointments? Monday!

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had? Ummmm I don’t know! My husband was my first boyfriend but I had a number of idiotic hookups before him. Probably in college when these two boys were interested at the same time and I had to “decide”. Good thing we were drunk hahaha.

mdfarmchick · July 2020

@birdiejo are you doing the NT scab at Monday’s appointment?

birdiejo · July 2020

@mdfarmchick my doctor was sort of vague about it because I’m not in the high risk group. She just said it was a blood test and I know I don’t get any ultrasounds til week 20 unless I elect to pay for a 16 week scan to find out the sex.

mdfarmchick · July 2020

@birdiejo I get so confused by insurance. We were offered the NT scan with my first before all the high risk factors. I thought it was standard. I know a lot of insurance won’t cover the NIPT unless you are over 35 or high risk and I just thought they covered the NT scan instead. 🤦🏻‍♀️

birdiejo · July 2020

@mdfarmchick with my first two kids I was never offered anything so I just waited for the 20 week scan. I had heard of the NT and then with my second I remember all of the people finding out the sex early with the NIPT. But my doctor only mentioned a blood draw as an option and I asked her how many low risk patients go for it and she said about 10% and primarily to find out the sex which we don’t want to know.

A good friend of mine did her early tests a few weeks back and had not good news come of it so I think this is why I’m obsessing over whether or not to go for it. Rationally I know her experience means nothing for mine but ... you know... it’s tough.

jumpy57 · July 2020

11+3 today

Sometimes mild nausea which causes major brain fog. I was also told at my last appointment that I don't drink enough fluids which is why my BP is low. This is true, I'm never thirsty so trying to drink enough now is torture.

Next appointment sometime next month

Oh do I have an awkward encounter!
College: I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. Shortly after a friend (not even a close friend) asked if he could be my rebound. I said "no thanks, I'm good" but he was persistent "is it because I'm shorter than you? Don't worry about that, height doesn't matter in the horizontal position" 😳 I did not continue that friendship, much too awkward

jumpy57 · July 2020

mdfarmchick said:

Where’s everyone? Do we not want to do this weekly? @birdiejo @WildMagelet @babymamadimo @hannahbananas11 @moguippy @jumpy57 @adorebel

I feel like our board is really small and these people are the most active 😂 can we switch the formal part of this check-in to monthly but also use it to drop in anytime needed? Thoughts?

moguippy · July 2020

@mdfarmchick I absolutely answered this in my head but not in real life

How far along are you? 12+4

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? I thought the nausea was fading but I was wrong. Still tired. Anxiety is better but not gone.

Any upcoming appointments? Had my NT u/s on Monday. Next OB appt is on 8/12

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had? Umm well I would have to say the summer between my freshman and sophomore years of college I worked at a place near a bagel shop. We often stopped in for breakfast and my coworkers (all male) used to joke that the guy who worked there had a thing for me. (We called him bagel boy, my first impression of him is that he was gay). I was SUPER shy and the other guys would bring back muffins or bagels and say that bagel boy sent them for me and I always thought they were joking and just trying to get me to blush. This went on almost all summer. Well, one day bagel boy asked me out and I was super surprised because I thought it was all a joke and awkwardly turned him down, rushed out and then I could never go to that bagel place again. I still don’t know if the snacks were jokes or real but I’m guessing it was a combination of both.

As for the nuchal, I thought it was covered by insurance, it was for my DS. But they gave me a form this time that said it might not be and I would be responsible if it wasn’t. I have different insurance now but I thought the nuchal was pretty standard so I’m hoping it’s covered. I didn’t realize it might not be and I would have called my insurance first but since I was there for it I just did it.

jumpy57 · July 2020

At my doctor only a dating scan and anatomy scan are standard. My doctor didn't even discuss nuchal, but I'm also low risk.

mdfarmchick · July 2020

@jumpy57 if that’s what the majority wants. I will admit the idea of that makes me sad. At this point I have three losses and this part of the previous BMB with DS2 was my safest place during the pregnancy. I connected so much with the other moms who understood my anxiety. After two losses in a row, and being high risk this time, I have very much looked forward to the support in this little corner of the BMB.

@moguippy I have totally typed out an entire response to a thread on here, gotten distracted and thought I’d posted before. Good to know I’m not the only one who thought the NT scan was covered, but it kind of makes me angry that insurance is not covering it fully anymore, and they are also not covering the NIPT.

birdiejo · July 2020

I also totally replied to this in my head and forgot to actually respond! I swore we had all responded 🤣. I’m down for weekly. It’s not an inconvenience and it’s a good space for all our worries and anxieties and whatnot.

moguippy · July 2020

@mdfarmchick @jumpy57 I’d like to keep it weekly until at least viability (around 24 weeks). Then I’d be more open to every other week or monthly.

@birdiejo it happens more than I’d like to admit. And then sometimes it’s like way later and I just delete it bc the conversation has moved on lol

KLS123 · July 2020

How far along are you? 11+2

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? fatigued and nauseous, same old same old...

Any upcoming appointments? I just had an appointment yesterday and it was ROUGH (details below), next one isn't until August 24th I wrote this on the other weekly check in already but here it goes again:
**TW** the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler, she said maybe it was a faulty doppler and went to get another one, she still couldn't find the heartbeat. I was panicking, all alone (because no support person since COVID), she went to get the ultrasound machine and it wouldn't turn on. I had to wait for almost two hours, thinking I had miscarried, waiting for another ultrasound machine and tech. Once I got the ultrasound it turns out the baby is okay and everything was fine but that was traumatic. Particularly after I had a MC with my last pregnancy. It's been a rough 24 hours.

@jumpy57 I agree this board is super small compared to the last one I was active on (December 18)

I @mdfarmchick @birdiejo I wasn't offered an NT scan and I can't remember if they did it with my first, I'm guessing not until the anatomy scan. I did opt into the NIPT blood test and the carrier gene test for myself this time around but it's my understanding I have to pay out of pocket for that. The midwife said they work with a company that will only charge between $99 to $299 total for both tests so if the bill shows up higher than that I have to call to get them to reduce it? so weird. I don't understand medical bill

jumpy57 · July 2020

@mdfarmchick I guess my intention was to continue the frequent conversation within a monthly thread (I always check for new posts) just less formal. I'm absolutely cool with keeping the threads weekly if it helps refresh conversation ❤️

babymamadimo · July 2020

Sorry I have been MIA..every time I try to post it says I don’t have permission...it logged me out and I didn’t know it grrr

How far along are you? 13 weeks

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Exhausted, nausea seems to be worse this week ugh. Mentally I’m feeling better because my mmc was at 11 weeks so I’m happy to be passed that, but my next appt isn’t until 14 weeks and it will just be my second appointment. I really thought they would have seen me more often after a mc.

Any upcoming appointments? Next Tuesday!

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had?

mdfarmchick · July 2020

@KLS123 I saw that yesterday and it sounded absolutely awful. I’m so glad things were fine but geez. Way to freak you out. ♥️

WildMagelet · July 2020

Fashionably late ~

How far along are you? 12+5

How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? No new/recurring issues to speak of this week. My sugars are all still great. I've started snacking in between breakfast & lunch and lunch & dinner (and sometimes after dinner) because I'm just hunnnngggrrry. But I'm being conscientious about what I'm eating so I don't elevate my sugars too high when I'm not testing. Feeling a bit down today, SS17 had a huge blow up with his mom last week and it's really affected DH. DH is super stressed and wants him to come live with us (which he has for years) but then SS will bring it up, DH will say "we're going to talk about it all like adults" and then SS just drops it. Apparently he only wants to live with us if it causes huge strife between us and his mom and DH just goes and demands it so that SS doesn't have to have a mature discussion about it? He wants to just be a huge jerk to his mom and then whisk away to our house so he doesn't have to face the consequences everyday? We'd love to have him and we (all 3 parents) have discussed the possibility before, but do you really want to live with us? or do you just want to say you want to live with us to hurt your moms feelings? I don't get it. Teenagers are weird. In the next breath DH talked about going "on the road" with his job for a while. It makes me sad that he's feeling pressured to go on call just for the $. We're not wanting and he doesn't have to, but I guess I'd rather have him do it now for a few months than when the baby gets here.

Any upcoming appointments? General OB appt on Monday 8/3. I finally get to meet my OB! I'll likely ask if she'll use the fetal doppler. I don't like this huge gap between sonos after our MMC last time. Hopefully by Tuesday I'll have my NIPT results (and my brother & SIL should have their pregnancy test that day!) and Wednesday I have my dietician appointment at my new MFM clinic.

GTKY: What was the most awkward romantic encounter you’ve ever had? I don't know if I'd count it as romantic, but the most awkward encounter of that nature I can think of I was a freshman in HS and went with my friend's CHURCH YOUTH GROUP to a theme park for a day and one of the guys kept hitting on me and making sexually provocative comments about what he wanted to do on the way back. Needless to say, we were in separate vehicles for the ride home.

jumpy57 · July 2020

@WildMagelet sorry about the stress with your SS, I hope it blows over soon and it sounds like your H is being a really good dad and co-parent even if it's stressing him out. My doc uses the Doppler every appointment (after 12 weeks) so hopefully yours will too!

cmoon3 · July 2020

@WildMagelet I also get the Doppler at every OB appointment after 12 weeks. It's so nice!

WildMagelet · August 2020

@jumpy57 @cmoon3 - I'm definitely going to ask for the Doppler. My NIPT came back as unreadable again (I believe due to LFF, but the nurse wasn't super specific) so of course my first thought immediately jumped to our MMC 3 yrs ago. I've got a good support system though, with the handful of people we have told, and have kept it calm and sane so far. My appt with lab's genetic counselor is immediately before my OB appt Monday, so I'll have to work on my questions for them over the weekend. Google says it happens in anywhere from 2-10% of pregnancies depending on the type of test, but the average is closer to 2-3% across the board. It's commonly linked to BMI and sometimes correlates to GD, so it might just be my blood this go around and not necessarily a problem with the fetus.

In other news, my brother called and if their blood test comes back positive Tuesday he wants to give our parents the news together, which I thought was super sweet. SIL and I have talked about how great it would be to be pregnant together for years, so it seems only fitting. Online window shopping for maternity clothes and cute matching "cousin" gear has been a good distraction in the mean time. Only a few more days to go.

birdiejo · August 2020

@WildMagelet that’s so frustrating omg!! I wonder what they’ll suggest for you instead?

WildMagelet · August 2020

@birdiejo Because we had a previous loss due to a chromosome defect, I imagine they'll want to do follow up more invasive test like CVS or amniocentesis.

DH and I will have to talk about it and if we want to chance the risks and if ultimately it really matters or not, other than longer to mentally prepare.

birdiejo · August 2020

@WildMagelet you’ll have the opportunity to do amnio if you get any markers on the 20 week ultrasound correct?

My mom had a semi late MMC before me and ended up having to do an amnio for me because that was the only option at the time. Pregnancy is just so much more stressful after you’ve had an experience like this.

WildMagelet · August 2020

@birdiejo - Yup! I had talked about that possibility with my OB yesterday and she said that they don't do amnio until at least 15 weeks but there's no "end" date for it, like there are with some of the other screenings/diagnostic tests. I told her I wanted to wait until after the 20-wk ultrasound (which I'm having at the Maternal Fetal Medicine clinic, which will be on their higher quality equipment) and if there's anything abnormal DH&I can discuss with her the possibly of the amnio then.

birdiejo · August 2020

@WildMagelet that sounds like a good plan. I think I’d do the same. As stressful as your last experience was I definitely wouldn’t just assume this one would follow suit. I’ll be thinking of you and hoping everything looks perfect on the anatomy scan!

WildMagelet · August 2020

@birdiejo - Thank you! I found out today that after the anatomy scan at MFM they'll continue doing U/S once a month to track the baby's growth, which definitely adds to my peace of mind about the whole thing.

adorebel · August 2020

@WildMagelet I'm in the same boat. We lost a baby around 16w due to a chromosomal abnormality and severe birth defects. Then I had a miscarriage earlier this year. The NIPT bloodwork looks normal, but my anxiety is definitely still through the roof and MH and I are talking over amnio as an option after the anatomy scan. Hugs.

birdiejo · August 2020

So my doctor sent my blood for the NIPT to a company that doesn't take my insurance...

I spoke with them beforehand about cost as I am not high risk and was told it wouldn't be more than 200 something with or without insurance and that they would notify me of the cost first and I would approve of paying. Well they contacted me that my cost estimate was available but when I checked all it says is out of network and no cost estimate is available for you. There is a page about financial help and it says you can apply to cut down your costs to $295 dollars. That's... a lot.

cmoon3 · August 2020

@birdiejo That's crap. If the costs aren't cut down, then you're stuck with the full bill, which is undefined? No way!
I'm in a similar boat. Apparently none of my family's doctor visits have been processed through insurance since June. (June!) That explains why I got nearly $1K in bills for bloodwork. It was a snafu on the insurance company's part, and somewhat understandable. When I changed jobs I went from BCBS to BCBS, so their system had my old insurance as primary. Supposedly everything will be automatically reprocessed when the system updates with the correct info. I hope it goes smoothly, but that's really not my luck.

moguippy · August 2020

Having a rough time this week. My nausea has all but stopped this week which I feel like I should be thankful for but it’s freaking me out. We are doing a little family gender reveal on Sunday and I’m super anxious. I have an OB appt next Wednesday so I’ll get to hear the HB on the Doppler but that seems so far away!

jumpy57 · August 2020

@moguippy yes I'm also in that weird limbo of feeling better but not far enough along for baby kicks. It sucks. I'm very fortunate that my friend loaned me her doppler so I can check the heart beat when I'm feeling especially anxious. I hope time flies to your next appointment so you can hear the HB and feel better ❤️

cmoon3 · August 2020

This is the hardest part for me too, especially since my spotting has turned to bleeding. I don't go to the doc again for three weeks!

jumpy57 · August 2020

@cmoon3 will they see you sooner because of the bleeding?

cmoon3 · August 2020

Not sure. We're doing wait and see this weekend, and then I'm supposed to call the office Monday and talk to a nurse. It was pretty bad last night but better today.

adorebel · August 2020

@cmoon3 thinking of you and hoping the bleeding stopped.

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