So annoying, my DD1 is Lucy and the amount of times people say "Oh cute that's my dogs name" is annoying.... Name your dog buddy and leave people names for babies.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk... I'm obviously fuming about this right now...
@ecat504 oh man... I have a dog named Winston and a dog named Leroy As well as a cat named Max and one named Caden. My other animals have animal-ish names though... Pickle, Mookie, Ruby, Olive.
ETA: However, I don't think when meeting a Max (or Leroy, Winston, Caden) that I have ever said "oh that is my cats/dogs name!". Lol, I don't think I would find that necessary to point out.
@bserena (I totally had a dog named Jack ) but still of all the Jack's I've met, I've never been like "golly that's my dogs name" *eyeroll* It's just rude I feel like.
But like people who name their dogs abbey, maggie, lucy, etc I'm like just shut up about what your animals name is.... Like one of my BFFs has a daughter named Aislinn, and I had a dog for years with that name (when we met - my xh got her in the divorce ) but it was like a year and a half into our friendship before she knew my dog and her kid had the same name - because I'm not the asshole that's like "oh your kids got a dog name..."
LOL I'm way overly sensitive about this right now woooosah pregnancy hormones.
I was considering the name Josephine and calling her Josie but then remembered that's my sisters dogs name so that's out!🙄 that's the only time I've really thought about pets having people names to be honest.
@babywiik I will probably get judged for this but oh well... baby boy is going to be named Michael after my grandfather. We are still deciding on a middle name but one of our top contenders is Caden, which also happens to be one of our cats names
My pets have always had pretty human names! My cat is Nola. Though some pet names cross the line for me. My SIL’s dog is Isabella 🙄. We considered naming DS Remy. Our friend named Remy warned us that a lot of dogs are named Remy. Guess what our neighbors named their new puppy right after our son was born 😂.
I don’t know if this is an UO, but I’m having trouble considering names that are in the top 20 most popular, even though one of my favorite names is up there. My husband has like the top boy’s name from the year he was born and he never minded, but I have an irrational fear of my kid being one of three with the same name in his class.
@surlyjaneausten I understand not wanting to use a name that is super popular. If baby had been a girl I would've tried to do the same! I've known since I was a teenager though that if I ever had a boy he would be Michael so that made it easy for me.
@babywiik my Lucy was ALWAYS going to be Lucy, even before she was conceived - because that was my grandmothers nickname for me. My first cousin that we are close with named her dog Lucy like 3 years before I had my Lucy. My family side eyed the heck out of me for directly "naming my kid after her dog" *EYEROLL* so it just extra irks my nerves. lol
@surlyjaneausten I don't like top 20 names either, but I still like them to be normal and fairly common names (See: Lucy & Sophia). SO likes really out there names... Madeline makes the cut of normal but not very common in our area (though I totally know like 3 that I went to high school with - I just left that tidbit out to SO lol).
@bserena some names are classics and will never not be popular! I totally get being attached to a name regardless of how popular it is.
@Ecat504 yes I feel the same. I want people to recognize them as names they’ve heard before, just not ones that everyone hears all the time. Also the thought of your family thinking you named your kid after your cousin’s dog made me laugh 😆.
@Ecat504 I support you 10000%! My DD is named Daisy. I have heard “Aw that’s my dog’s name!” Or “I know a cow named Daisy!” Or “My aunts cat is named Daisy!” I’m always like gee, thats great. It is a fantastic name! But inside I am side eyeing hard. My DH’s uncle also made a jab at her name before she was born saying people wouldn’t take her seriously because it’s a cutesie name. Tell that to Daisy Ridley. 🙄
I know @LoveLee3 asked about this in the Great Questions Thread, but the idea of ingesting your own placenta - whether in pill form or not - totally skeezes me out (I have the same opinion in regards to "lotus" babies too). I'm all for do what you want with your own body, but I'm def gonna cringe a little bit. Also not judging, just dry heaving a bit at the thought.
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Agreed! @lurvleybunchococonuts I just cannot wrap my mind around it. Same with the "lotus" baby thing. Not judging, just can't imagine doing that myself.
I also feel that way about breastmilk jewelery.... again, whatever floats your boat, lol! But I just don't know that I get the point of saving my own powdered breastmilk to wear around
All of these are great today! So to add to the naming an animal a person name, I didn't realize how terrible of an idea it was until after I had kids! Our animals are named Dexter and Bennet (dogs), Charlie and Miles (cats). I've lost count how many times I've called a kid a dog name or vice versa. 🤦♀️ I also agree with everyone about top 20 names although right now our potential name is James so I'm just going to get over it. Naming 3 boys is difficult! I don't know what a lotus baby is and I feel like it isn't something I want to google so could someone enlighten me, please?
@acdc1109 Lol! Lotus baby is where they leave the whole placenta attached to baby. People get these special bags that hold the placenta and take their babies home with it still attached. Not sure how long they stay on though... after reading just that much I had heard enough haha.
@bserena WHAT?!? 😳 (there is no proper emoji to describe how far my jaw just dropped!) That is a whole different level of crazy! The purpose of birth is because the baby doesn't need the placenta anymore or so I thought.
@acdc1109 a lotus baby is when you keep baby attached to the placenta until it naturally falls off vs cutting the cord.
I should add to my initial statement and say I DO judge/side eye the lotus baby thing a bit. I don't see how carrying around your newborn still attached to their rapidly decaying placenta (from days to weeks) can be safe 😬 I'm all for delayed cord cutting, and I think 🤢 but if you want to consume the placenta, do your thing. But keeping baby attached to a decaying hunk of flesh until it falls off sounds like breeding ground for a nasty increased risk of infection and a super hard no from me.
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@acdc1109 hahaha that was pretty much my reaction too! I am all for like delayed cord clamping, etc. but it is a whole other level to do that. With delayed cord clamping, they wait until the cord is white anyways, which at that point I believe the baby has stopped getting anything from the placenta anyways. There is also high risk of infection and I think many hospitals don't actually allow it anyways. Craziness!
@bserena haha you posted as I was typing and didn't refresh.
Yes! Delayed cord clamping totally makes sense and I requested with DD. But I dunno... Even dogs and other mammals know to eat/bury/disconnect their young from the placenta so I don't see how anyone could consider it a good natural thing. I didn't even think it was real until someone made reference to it in a babywearing group I'm in on FB and I just 😐😬
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I’m intrigued by the placenta encapsulation idea. I won’t do it but I was interested in seeing my placenta when I delivered and I didn’t get to. I don’t think they parade your organs around to you in general in the OR. From what I’ve read there’s no documented benefit, but I’ve heard anecdotes that it’s helped people with PPD 🤷🏼♀️. I would think that the reason it would get eaten by wild animals is due to desperate hunger and/or getting rid of any evidence that predators might find that would lead them to a vulnerable mother and babies. My friend who is expecting wants to do it and she said it costs about $300.
I love names that people know but aren't very common which is why DD is "Camille" I don't know any pets named that thank goodness! But before we came up with DS name I liked "Luke" and my friend got a puppy and used that name, she didn't know but it was off my list immediately.
My UO I always get the side eye from friends and so on when the conversation about who pays what comes up. DH pays all the bills in our home, and I take care of the kids, cleaning (I pay a lady to come), medical insurance, and groceries. Yes I still work FT in Corporate America and have my own money but this just works in our home. Honestly if I tried to do 50/50 DH would have an issue with it. We are just old school, I guess.
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I'm not against placenta encapsulation or eating your own placenta or anything... I won't be doing it, but each to their own. However I've never really understood the argument that animals do it so it should be fine for humans. I've watched my cat eat her own vomit and I've never heard anyone claim that's healthy for humans!! Also we have two dogs and I would NEVER recommend eating some of the things they eat!!
I had never heard of lotus babies until this moment and am so grossed out 🤢
I'm not into the placenta eating/encapsulation thing. I read a bit about it with my first as some moms I knew were going to do it. It's a nope for me but if someone else wants to do it then they can go for it. I read it's not recommended primarily because of the risk for contamination when the pills are being made.
@wychets we combined our accounts once we got married and just consider it our money. It helped with the transition once I stopped working after our second. But I honestly think that couples need to do what works for them. I've heard of so many different ways of splitting things or partial combo with rest split. But money can be something that leads to divorce so I think whatever arrangement a couple comes to that works for them is awesome.
So I have to admit I literally just yesterday looked up placenta encapsulation in my area. I wanted to know more about it, but honestly I still don't get it. Like do I carry it with me and bring it home for someone to come to my house and make the pills? Do they come to the hospital? I then also read you can do a placenta smoothie and that is where the whole entire idea went right out the window for me. Ummm WTF?!?! As an alternative, I have been heavily researching essential oil and supplement benefits for after birth and that is wayyyy more my lane in assisting postpartum women with their hormones. Mine definitely went crazy after DD1, so I will out my $300 towards oils/supps lol.
Also I had never heard of a lotus baby until just this moment and I. Am. Speechless. WTAF.
Add me to the list of those who had to Google lotus birth. Hard pass.
As for placenta encapsulation, to each their own, and no judgement, but it's a pass for me too. I'm pretty crunchy, but with no good science to back it up I don't see any reason to go through the trouble and expense. Also, I agree with @wychets and @mia80 about the fact that just because *some* other mammals eat their placenta, it doesn't follow that we should.
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@Ecat504 I hear you on the dog name. Someone said oh our dog is Zoey as well. I just dismissed it. I mean how is that even relevant. Also why even say it.
@surlyjaneausten (I think?)...we try to avoid top 20 names. We do have an incredibly common last name. Our oldest DS (top 100 name) had the EXACT same first and last name as someone else in the 0-6 month childcare classes. I told them I better get the right kid back. (All worked out fine)
i had no idea about the lotus 😳
As for the placenta encapsulation. I know there’s a person here who will pick it up and “process” it and put it in capsules. I need all the help post baby in the PPD/PPA world. However I feel I’d have it done and then kind of freaked out by it and never take it. So...? Maybe not.
Hahaha!! I'm laughing here reading all the reactions 😄 I had to look up lotus baby and yeah, I just imagined the smell🤢 as far as placenta encapsulation, i was seriously considering it because 1. PPD has been common among the women in my family so I want to try and be proactive And 2. Here in northern Norway, it'll be the dark time of the year. After the 1 week of December the sun wont come above the horizon and will be down for about a month. I can see that as a potential trigger for depression in itself. I was doing some research and found a website explained how it happened and how the ones preparing it keep the placenta sanitary and seperate. It seemed like one would really wantnt to trust the person they'd have do it. But then, the more research I did the more grossed out i was getting and besides no one does it here so not an option for me. @jaclyn0405 I like your idea of using oils and supplements for a more natural way to deal with PPD so I'll look more into that!
@babywiik I found having a routine really helped. For me, daily success was showering, changing clothes, taking my vitamins, and putting on make up. Getting outside and getting exercise (a walk) helped. I found a good fish oil whether science says it’s helpful or not...for me helped. The idea of the encapsulation and helping...I’ll really do anything to help. I’m just skiddish if it.
DH and I also celebrated when either of us put the baby safely and slowly into the crib. Sometimes it gets to be a lot. Putting baby down can be life saving. So we celebrate that. Dark. But that’s where things go for me.
You didn’t ask for that. But pushing forward and getting help are the best. I’m honestly doing the same locally. We live in the land of eternal 80’F and sun. I’m hoping that helps me. I’ve found there are a number of support groups I can join as well. Someone recommended the book “This Isn’t What I Expected”...I’m afraid I’ve downloaded a sample but haven’t started it yet. The biggest thing is don’t suffer in silence.
@name1109. Thank you so much for sharing! It really helps to hear others experiences and to know that I won't be alone. Im going to write down your recommendations so i wont forget! Fish oil is big around here, especially in the winter so it must help. It probably has something to do with the huge fishing industry as well...😜 I'm really thankful that I have a supportive husband and we've talked about PPD being a possibility. I haven't been depressed before but when I was super morning sick we went and stayed with my in laws for a month (our basement apartment smelled too much for my pregnant nose) but looking back i think i was heading down the path towards depression but it was turned around when I didn't have to be in our stinky, dark apartment all alone feeling awful while my husband was working. Either my MIL or SIL was almost always home during the day. Different topic a bit: I got a book for the hospital the other day (we got a tour! Yay! They have TWO delivery rooms😅) that was 10 tips for new parents and some I had heard about like recognizing when crying is getting to be to much and putting the baby somewhere safe and leaving the room until more in control but one that i thought was good was for the parent(s) of the baby to talk with each other or someone they trust about their own childhood because experiences in childhood has a lot to do with how each person will be parents. The book recommends making a list of things you want to pass onto your child and things you don't want to pass on.
Not gonna lie, I am slightly pleased to have been able to help enlighten so many of you to what a lotus baby is and reading the reactions
@babywiik PPD/PPA is very real and very common. As @name1109 said, please do not suffer in silence! Recognizing when to put baby down and let them cry for a few minutes while you recollect yourself is so important. No one wants baby to cry, but you can't pour from an empty glass And please keep in mind there are pregnancy/breast feeding safe anxiety/depression medications available. If you can manage with natural remedies/vitamins/supplements that's wonderful, but do not feel ashamed or guilty if you have to ask for further help or need to take a prescription medication.
I have anxiety and history of depression and have been on fluoxetine since before I was pregnant with DD. Right before getting pregnant with her my OB and I decided to *attempt* weaning me off my med to see how I did (since I was already at a fairly low dosage). It was a disaster, but going back to the lowest dose worked well. Not long after DD was born I remember crying on the phone with my OB asking if it was safe to increase my dosage to what it had been previously. It was beyond "baby blues" and for a little while it helped. Fast forward about a month or two later I was, again crying, exhausted beyond belief sitting in my PCPs office with a crying infant (the nurse, with permission, quickly took her from me and kept her happy during the appointment thankfully ) while I sobbed about how of course I didn't want to hurt myself or anyone else and no I never had those types of thoughts, but I had an extreme desire to just want to run away with DD and hide in a dark cave and never come out. Everything felt too overwhelming and I felt like everything rested on my shoulders and I could never get out from under it all. I was officially diagnosed with PPD, we doubled my medication, and discussed some good strategies on making "me time" a priority. Just starting at 30 minutes twice a week, which seems insignificant, but it helps. Since then I've been at the increased dosage (of course okay'd by my OB when we found out we were having the twins) and have been doing well since. I have a slight worry about what it'll be like after the twins are born, but I feel better in general now (and I have a few less added stress inducing events occurring) than I did at this point with DD.
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I joined the bandwagon and searched "lotus birth" and I just...CANNOT! I almost threw up my breakfast lol, I just couldn't imagine carrying around my baby and the placenta too!
Also. A placenta smoothie? Hard pass.
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@lurvleybunchococonuts I am 100000000% with you. I would/could NEVER. I have a very good friend who ate her 1st placenta and had her 2nd encapsulated. I think it's totally vom and quite frankly there is no legitimate science to back it up, which does bother me a lot. She also had a "delayed vaccination schedule" for her kids (fortunately NY forces you to vaccinate) and I think these things kind of go hand-in-hand. I'm not crunchy or holistic - everybody talks about a natural birth or a water birth or low-intervention and I'm over here like, "Get this baby out of me as quickly, painlessly, and safely as possible I want all the drugs!"
wychets here in southern Louisiana, Camille is a super popular name. I love it so much though!
I'm team YOU CANNOT PAY ME TO EAT / ENCAPSULATE / KEEP MY BABY ATTACHED TO my placenta..... Hard no, and I'm side eyeing you a lil' if you cook that shit up for your family to share a meal over...
@babywiik echoing @name1109 and @lurvleybunchococonuts PPD/PPA is so so so so real, and can be so dangerous. Don't suffer in silence. Let us be here for you! I've gone through the extremes of both. I still haven't posted the birth story of DD2 because the pregnancy / birth / postpartum was hands down the most awful year of my life. It can be so real and so painful (physically and mentally). If you do want to reach out, I'm much more open to discussing privately - and probably more so once we move to FB.
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So annoying, my DD1 is Lucy and the amount of times people say "Oh cute that's my dogs name" is annoying.... Name your dog buddy and leave people names for babies.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk... I'm obviously fuming about this right now...
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ETA: However, I don't think when meeting a Max (or Leroy, Winston, Caden) that I have ever said "oh that is my cats/dogs name!". Lol, I don't think I would find that necessary to point out.
But like people who name their dogs abbey, maggie, lucy, etc I'm like just shut up about what your animals name is.... Like one of my BFFs has a daughter named Aislinn, and I had a dog for years with that name (when we met - my xh got her in the divorce ) but it was like a year and a half into our friendship before she knew my dog and her kid had the same name - because I'm not the asshole that's like "oh your kids got a dog name..."
LOL I'm way overly sensitive about this right now woooosah pregnancy hormones.
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I also feel that way about breastmilk jewelery.... again, whatever floats your boat, lol! But I just don't know that I get the point of saving my own powdered breastmilk to wear around
I also agree with everyone about top 20 names although right now our potential name is James so I'm just going to get over it. Naming 3 boys is difficult!
I don't know what a lotus baby is and I feel like it isn't something I want to google so could someone enlighten me, please?
I should add to my initial statement and say I DO judge/side eye the lotus baby thing a bit. I don't see how carrying around your newborn still attached to their rapidly decaying placenta (from days to weeks) can be safe 😬 I'm all for delayed cord cutting, and I think 🤢 but if you want to consume the placenta, do your thing. But keeping baby attached to a decaying hunk of flesh until it falls off sounds like breeding ground for a nasty increased risk of infection and a super hard no from me.
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Yes! Delayed cord clamping totally makes sense and I requested with DD. But I dunno... Even dogs and other mammals know to eat/bury/disconnect their young from the placenta so I don't see how anyone could consider it a good natural thing. I didn't even think it was real until someone made reference to it in a babywearing group I'm in on FB and I just 😐😬
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BFP 3/10/2018!
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My UO I always get the side eye from friends and so on when the conversation about who pays what comes up. DH pays all the bills in our home, and I take care of the kids, cleaning (I pay a lady to come), medical insurance, and groceries. Yes I still work FT in Corporate America and have my own money but this just works in our home. Honestly if I tried to do 50/50 DH would have an issue with it. We are just old school, I guess.
I'm not into the placenta eating/encapsulation thing. I read a bit about it with my first as some moms I knew were going to do it. It's a nope for me but if someone else wants to do it then they can go for it. I read it's not recommended primarily because of the risk for contamination when the pills are being made.
@wychets we combined our accounts once we got married and just consider it our money. It helped with the transition once I stopped working after our second. But I honestly think that couples need to do what works for them. I've heard of so many different ways of splitting things or partial combo with rest split. But money can be something that leads to divorce so I think whatever arrangement a couple comes to that works for them is awesome.
Also I had never heard of a lotus baby until just this moment and I. Am. Speechless. WTAF.
As for placenta encapsulation, to each their own, and no judgement, but it's a pass for me too. I'm pretty crunchy, but with no good science to back it up I don't see any reason to go through the trouble and expense. Also, I agree with @wychets and @mia80 about the fact that just because *some* other mammals eat their placenta, it doesn't follow that we should.
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i had no idea about the lotus 😳
As for the placenta encapsulation. I know there’s a person here who will pick it up and “process” it and put it in capsules. I need all the help post baby in the PPD/PPA world. However I feel I’d have it done and then kind of freaked out by it and never take it. So...? Maybe not.
@jaclyn0405 I like your idea of using oils and supplements for a more natural way to deal with PPD so I'll look more into that!
@babywiik I found having a routine really helped. For me, daily success was showering, changing clothes, taking my vitamins, and putting on make up. Getting outside and getting exercise (a walk) helped. I found a good fish oil whether science says it’s helpful or not...for me helped. The idea of the encapsulation and helping...I’ll really do anything to help. I’m just skiddish if it.
You didn’t ask for that. But pushing forward and getting help are the best. I’m honestly doing the same locally. We live in the land of eternal 80’F and sun. I’m hoping that helps me. I’ve found there are a number of support groups I can join as well. Someone recommended the book “This Isn’t What I Expected”...I’m afraid I’ve downloaded a sample but haven’t started it yet. The biggest thing is don’t suffer in silence.
I'm really thankful that I have a supportive husband and we've talked about PPD being a possibility. I haven't been depressed before but when I was super morning sick we went and stayed with my in laws for a month (our basement apartment smelled too much for my pregnant nose) but looking back i think i was heading down the path towards depression but it was turned around when I didn't have to be in our stinky, dark apartment all alone feeling awful while my husband was working. Either my MIL or SIL was almost always home during the day.
Different topic a bit: I got a book for the hospital the other day (we got a tour! Yay! They have TWO delivery rooms😅) that was 10 tips for new parents and some I had heard about like recognizing when crying is getting to be to much and putting the baby somewhere safe and leaving the room until more in control but one that i thought was good was for the parent(s) of the baby to talk with each other or someone they trust about their own childhood because experiences in childhood has a lot to do with how each person will be parents. The book recommends making a list of things you want to pass onto your child and things you don't want to pass on.
@babywiik PPD/PPA is very real and very common. As @name1109 said, please do not suffer in silence! Recognizing when to put baby down and let them cry for a few minutes while you recollect yourself is so important. No one wants baby to cry, but you can't pour from an empty glass And please keep in mind there are pregnancy/breast feeding safe anxiety/depression medications available. If you can manage with natural remedies/vitamins/supplements that's wonderful, but do not feel ashamed or guilty if you have to ask for further help or need to take a prescription medication.
I have anxiety and history of depression and have been on fluoxetine since before I was pregnant with DD. Right before getting pregnant with her my OB and I decided to *attempt* weaning me off my med to see how I did (since I was already at a fairly low dosage). It was a disaster, but going back to the lowest dose worked well. Not long after DD was born I remember crying on the phone with my OB asking if it was safe to increase my dosage to what it had been previously. It was beyond "baby blues" and for a little while it helped. Fast forward about a month or two later I was, again crying, exhausted beyond belief sitting in my PCPs office with a crying infant (the nurse, with permission, quickly took her from me and kept her happy during the appointment thankfully ) while I sobbed about how of course I didn't want to hurt myself or anyone else and no I never had those types of thoughts, but I had an extreme desire to just want to run away with DD and hide in a dark cave and never come out. Everything felt too overwhelming and I felt like everything rested on my shoulders and I could never get out from under it all. I was officially diagnosed with PPD, we doubled my medication, and discussed some good strategies on making "me time" a priority. Just starting at 30 minutes twice a week, which seems insignificant, but it helps. Since then I've been at the increased dosage (of course okay'd by my OB when we found out we were having the twins) and have been doing well since. I have a slight worry about what it'll be like after the twins are born, but I feel better in general now (and I have a few less added stress inducing events occurring) than I did at this point with DD.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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Also. A placenta smoothie? Hard pass.
I'm team YOU CANNOT PAY ME TO EAT / ENCAPSULATE / KEEP MY BABY ATTACHED TO my placenta..... Hard no, and I'm side eyeing you a lil' if you cook that shit up for your family to share a meal over...
@babywiik echoing @name1109 and @lurvleybunchococonuts PPD/PPA is so so so so real, and can be so dangerous. Don't suffer in silence. Let us be here for you! I've gone through the extremes of both. I still haven't posted the birth story of DD2 because the pregnancy / birth / postpartum was hands down the most awful year of my life. It can be so real and so painful (physically and mentally). If you do want to reach out, I'm much more open to discussing privately - and probably more so once we move to FB.
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SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)