This is a place for FTMs to ask questions about, S+TMs to share their prior experience with, and everyone to share what they're eyeing in the world of maternity, baby and postpartum products. Each week we'll spotlight a new category of product to help streamline and make it easier to refer back. This week we're discussing toys!
Please use the prompts below to try to share as much relevant info as you can in a format that is easy for those reading to navigate and respond to.
For S+TMs:
- Individual (e.g., lifestyle) factors that might influence your choice:
- Favorite toys (brand, style, etc.):
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- Cost (either actual dollar amount, or just $, $$, $$$, etc.):
- What you like and don't like about it:
- Is there a toy (brand, style, etc.) you don't have but are considering? Why?:
- Is there a toy (brand, style, etc.) you've tried that you absolutely hate? Why?:
- Additional thoughts on toys (brand, style, etc.)?:
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- Toys (brand, style, etc.) you're interested in:
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Re: Product Spotlight: Toys
So I am anti pretty much anything electronic. I'm happy to get in to the why I'm so anti electronics especially for kids under two, but I won't get on my soapbox here. I will say I'm a teacher and a huge child development nerd. For toys for babies I am a big fan of black and white books or things they can actually interact with. Both of my girls LOVED oballs and plush dolls as well as a variety of things from Manhattan toys. https://www.manhattantoy.com/collections/all-baby?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI_4fbo8fA6gIVTOG1Ch0T0Qw1EAAYASAAEgLbuPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
I am also interested in a lovevery subscription for this little guy. They definitely did their research around what makes sense developmentally at each age and provide great guidance for parents with each box. https://lovevery.com/
@bserena So to start with, the AAP says "Avoid digital media for toddlers younger than 18 to 24 months other than video chatting. For children 18 to 24 months, watch digital media with them because they learn from watching and talking with you. Limit screen use for preschool children, ages 2 to 5, to just 1 hour a day of high-quality programming." They have a whole section on their website about technology and kids. https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/news-features-and-safety-tips/Pages/Children-and-Media-Tips.aspx#:~:text=Avoid%20digital%20media%20for%20toddlers,day%20of%20high%2Dquality%20programming.
There are mountains of research about how the first two years of a baby's life are critical for brain growth and development and that they learn best through human interaction and exploring their environments. Toys where you just press a button and the toy does something for you really require no actual thinking. It is better for babies to explore, turn things over, grab, manipulate, etc. and talking through it with them, or commenting on what they're doing. I'm a fan of any toys that come from a Montessori type background. Wooden, classic toys are the way to go for us. I also personally can't stand the beeping and flashing lights that come on a lot of baby toys.
For our family that also means that all TVs and screens are off until our kids go to sleep (under the age of 2). We make an exception for FaceTiming with family. For our big kids, outside of pandemic times, they are allowed one 1/2 hour show on Saturdays and one on Sundays and we have just begun a once a month Friday movie night as a family. For us, the screen is a tool that I control and use when I need it.
Here's an old article but quick read that I connected with. https://www.urbanchildinstitute.org/articles/features/avoiding-an-electronic-childhood-six-tips-for-replacing-screen-time-with-?fbclid=IwAR1nQ76z_HyrYoTs4r3QYHKOmGejbD-OAuoZnQd5trTk5El0V3hPTgjVDtI
I have purchased mainly books so far and have been holding off on toys/activity centers/etc until the baby shower, as I figured we will probably get stuff like that from friends and family.
I had to edit this to add that green toys are another favorite! They make all kinds of different vehicles and play sets out of recycled milk cartons which I think it just the coolest!
@acdc1109 +1 to Green Toys - we basically want all of them!
We love Hape, Plan, Green Toys and other sturdy, multi-use toys that encourage imaginative play. For more on simplifying the toy situation, we were inspired by reading "Simplicity Parenting" by Kim... something.
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Edit: I can't forget books! I don't know if they're considered toys but I LOVE books!😍
All this to say, do what works best for your family. She is wicked smart (which sometimes scares the crap out of me lol) and I do not feel like I have "damaged" her in any way but letting her explore a little bit of everything. That is just my two cents on the other side.
Also ETA: @babywiik yes! One thing I will not compromise on is books. We have close to 150 if not more books in her collection and it is a non-negotiable for me. We read all the time! As someone with an English degree, she was going to like books whether she wanted to or not lol.
Toys like stacking or nesting cups, push/pull toys, a mirror, shape sorter, board books, family photo book are great for the little ones. And as they get older toys that build their imagination; dress-up toys, farm set, or pretend food.
My favorite was Go Dog Go by Dr.Suess. I bought it for DD1 in English and in Spanish.
So far her favorite book is Old McDonald Had A Farm with the Poke-A-Dot
Melissa & Doug Children's Book - Poke-A-Dot: Old Macdonald’S Farm (Board Book with Buttons To Pop) https://www.amazon.com/dp/160169024X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ip3fFb16EFVR9
I definitely want to build a large collection. I should go raid my moms house, I’m pretty sure she kept all of our old books.
We've been gifted a lot of toys from family and friends and I prefer the non-electronic ones (wagon, ball, blocks, shape sorter, pull back cars) but he does have a few noisy toys that he enjoys.
He also loves empty containers and lids (tissue boxes, puff/ cool whip container), kitchen utensils and tissues. So there's that haha
We also have a ton of books that we rotate through and keep a couple in his room, the car and others in the main living area.
We use the TV. I kept it under 1 hour a day until DD hit 2 years. Then it went up to 1.5-2 hours a day. We are currently probably somewhere within 2-2.5 in these times with covid and having nowhere to go and no extracurricular activities. I'm a SAHM and cant just sit on the floor entertaining a 2.5 year old for 12 hours a day. He's hit all of his milestones and has honestly learned a ridiculous amount from the programs that he watches. Sesame street has been great. He's also learned a ridiculous amount of stuff from Blippi. Things that I couldn't teach him!
I'm very aware of screen time. I always have been. But I also think that with anything in life moderation is key. I've heard way too many stories of parents restricting things like sweets, tv, etc. with their kids and then as soon as the kids have more freedom they go overboard with it. IMO screens are a part of life now so I dont want to overly restrict something that is just part of life and want to teach DS how to use it in moderation!
I would never judge anyone for what they do in their own house though!
all that being said, we do have maybe 1 electronic toy which is that vtech learn and play walker which doesn't get any use these days. we have lots of riding toys (John Deere kid over here, Thomas the train also), and tons of blocks, BALLS, shape sorters, stacking cups, lacing toys, cars, trucks, slides, nuggets, balance board. all that to say he reads his farm books all day and throws whatever is nearest to him.
Bridger (that's LOs name) will be getting all of big brothers toys and im certainly not buying a single thing except for maybe a new Sophie teether.
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then we also really love all things Sandra Boynton - so cute!
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