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December 2020 Moms
cassafrass15
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PGAL Check In 6/22
cassafrass15
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This thread is for anyone who has experienced loss at any point in pregnancy or experienced the loss of a child.
How far along are you?
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not.
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not.
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?
Any upcoming appointments?
GTKY: What is your favorite/least favorite season and why? (Stolen from Nov ‘20)
Apologies that I forgot last week’s post! Should we do monthly maybe? Up to you gals.
Apologies that I forgot last week’s post! Should we do monthly maybe? Up to you gals.
Re: PGAL Check In 6/22
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not. Nmc at 5w June 2019
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Feeling as good(?) As I'm going to i think but worried about going back to clincials with near zero physical stamina. Emotionally steady. Was surprised when my doctor screened me for depression and psychiatric illness at my appointment this week, but obviously so glad she is screening her patients!!!
I was a little annoyed with MH last week. We have been married for almost 4 years and only recently has his family started to accept me (very traditional Hindu family, I'm white American). He told his cousins that we are having a baby and kind of let them assume it was an unplanned pregnancy. Not that I care if it was unplanned, but I immediately felt like he had erased a whole year of TTC/loss which was really emotionally challenging for me in particular. I told him that's how I felt and he didn't have much to say about it. We are not in a place where he's going to share that journey with anyone in his family, not even his brother or parents so there's not much to be done for now. I'm open with my family and friends about how hard that year had been on us so of course I have their emotional support which I'm so grateful for. I'm feeling frustrated and sad about not having that kind of relationship with his family (these are of course not new feelings having struggled with acceptance for years).
I have always said summer since I'm from Michigan but now I'm in Texas it's fall!! Love those sunny 70deg days
I vote once a month.
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not. RPL
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Good! Heartburn is horrible, but two Pepcid AC tablets a day knocks it out. My feet are swollen today for the first time, which is earlier than with DD. MH and I have been bickering quite a bit, which I think it linked to a lack of sex. But our schedules are so different and he’s freaked out about preggo sex sooo ... not sure what to do to rectify the situation!
@gh1219 I’m sorry that your husband isn’t more comfortable sharing your journey, and that you’re lacking that relationship with your in-laws. I remember when we told my MIL that we were pregnant with DD (after 6 miscarriages), the first words out of her mouth were “This one going to stick?” So I almost wish we hadn’t told her about the journey because that was incredibly hurtful and tbh I’m still not over it. Also, I have some very traditional Hindu friends who came to me for a recommendation for an RE and they are super private about their struggle, I think I’m the only person they told and that’s only because they needed the name of my doctor - do you think it’s a cultural thing? Either way, I’m sorry you’re feeling annoyed!
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not. TFMR in December 2019 for T21 and cystic hygroma at just under 16 weeks
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Mostly fine, fatigue is slowly easing but now I'm getting headaches. Nothing bad, more just a nagging pressure in my head. Is it ok to take Tylenol almost every day? (1 dose of two regular-strength tablets) Emotionally, surprisingly good. I actually forgot about my tx EDD until later on that evening. I was so happy and relieved to get the all-clear from the NIPT and Ultrascreen that it crowded everything else out. Now this is starting to feel like it could really be happening.
@gh1219 I'm sorry you're annoyed at your husband, I totally would be too. I get that you don't want to share the details with his family, but he could at least somehow acknowledge "we've had our challenges," though I guess that would invite too many prying questions. It's hard when you don't have a good relationship with your in-laws. I'm very lucky, but my father's family hated my mother until I was in high school (and even then it was really just two aunts who started to reach out, my grandmother and uncle were never welcoming). There wasn't any real bonding among them until my grandmother's funeral, when the same two aunts made a much more concerted effort and rebuilt their relationship. My father and his brother haven't spoken since. None of this was cultural, I'm not entirely sure what the reason was. It made it very difficult for them. They tried to shield me from it as a child, and were successful for most of my childhood, so it's only later that I realized all of this and how hard it was for them.
@cassafrass15 I also vote once a month. Either is really fine, but this thread doesn't get so busy that it's hard to follow if it's open for more than a week.
Thanks! Yes there is a big cultural divide that is a big contributor to his preference to not talk about our loss with his family. However I think that's obviously not the whole picture. I know our relationship will continue to evolve and im hopeful for a really positive direction, I know everyone is thrilled for a new baby in the family.
Also YES it is perfectly fine to take Tylenol every day as long as you're not taking more than 4 grams a day. Hopefully those start to improve though!
Share your PGAL story if you'd like, or previously have not. Shared previously.
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? I’m holding up. NIPT came back low risk, which is one big hurdle passed. Symptoms wise, I still have bad nausea and heart burn and exhaustion. Hoping it gets better sooner than later. I’m taking Zegrig OTC which is helping. Emotionally. I’m just drained. I’m start the process to be able to hold all by classes virtually in the fall, I already know they will deny my request.... so I’m anxious about being exposed to COVID when I have to go back to campus.
Apologies that I forgot last week’s post! Should we do monthly maybe? Up to you gals. I’m fine either way!