UO Thursday 6/18

inthewoods23 · June 2020

Tell us your unpopular opinions!

the_most_happy · June 2020

Hi everyone- still in my self-imposed timeout from posting in the daily threads for the rest of this cycle, but I finally remembered my UO (maybe?) and don't want to forget again! Haha.

Okay, not actually sure if this is unpopular but it may be since this book is so widely recommended on this forum... I don't really like Taking Charge of Your Fertility! It definitely does have lots of good info, can't fault it there, but it's so freaking corny that I'm finding it hard to get through. In particular, I'm side-eyeing a lot of the anecdotes that the author shares about her clients. There's one early on about a couple she's counseling and she notices the woman's chart shows she's experiencing delayed ovulation and asks if anything is happening in her life that has caused her stress, and and the woman says yes- they had sex in the woman's parents' bed (they were college students living at home) and the parents ended up finding a whipped cream cap that the couple had used in the bed. So that apparently explains the long cycle! I'm just like... 1) that didn't actually happen, and 2) if that minor amount of stress is all that's needed to delay ovulation, how does anyone ever actually have a regular cycle? Haha. So yeah, it's an informative read in a lot of ways but also kind of whack, IMO.

inthewoods23 · June 2020

@the_most_happy I never bothered to read the book. And that's totally more just embarrassment than stress! Trying seeing a cousin's pregnancy announcement before you ovulate - THAT will delay O.

mvt2003 · June 2020

@the_most_happy I've actually never read TCOYF, I read a few other books instead. Maybe that's my UO?!

asf0613 · June 2020

i'm with you @mvt2003 i haven't read it either! and frankly, i'm not sure i need to at this point?

krash_ · June 2020

@the_most_happy I agree I said the exact same things when I started it. It does have some good info but I haven't been able to finish it because of the writing.

inthewoods23 · June 2020

Maybe a dumb question... Is It starts With the Egg the same book or a completely different one?

mvt2003 · June 2020

@inthewoods23 Completely different - I started It Starts With the Egg back when I started to get the feeling we weren't getting KU for a reason, it completely scared the crap out of me (like to the point where I was afraid to touch a receipt and that's literally part of my job), and I tabled it. When I found out our problem was MFI with a physical reason, I didn't pick it back up. No shame over here.

inthewoods23 · June 2020

@mvt2003 it's kind of the same with the things to do/not to do while pregnant and seeing people post on the 1st Tri board FREAKING OUT that omg they didn't realize their salad would come with cold cut turkey instead of "carving board" turkey and did they harm their baby by eating that salad. It really doesn't do us good trying to be hyper aware of everything that could be a potential danger.

It seems like these books are just leaving us to be fearful of everything instead of easing us into being mindful about our choices.

mvt2003 · June 2020

@inthewoods23 Yep!!! I read Expecting Better a few months ago, and it was really helpful at not being an alarmist during my TWWs.

priyadoc · June 2020

I haven't read TCOYF either, and now I definitely don't want to

@mvt2003 I've heard good things about Expecting Better as well!! I had planned to pick it up if I ever get KU but if you found it helpful for the TWW maybe I'll read it sooner. Thanks!!

mvt2003 · June 2020

@priyadoc I would recommend reading the early chapters - there's good information about caffeine consumption and there is a short chapter I believe on TTC. Later chapters can probably be read once it's closer to relevance, but the early chapters are actually very informative even for now!

priyadoc · June 2020

@mvt2003 Thanks!! Just bought it on kindle

keikilove · June 2020

I’ve read both of these TTC bibles. I LOVE information & learning, so found both of the books incredibly helpful. But, TCOYF definitely has a dated style of writing. Personally, I’m turned off by the phrase “make love”🤢🤮, so if the author of a book uses that phrase I’m like, Nope! Turning the page.

It Starts With The Egg is super useful to me for knowing exactly what supplements my husband & I should be taking. I appreciate that it says “If you have this issue, don’t take this. If you have that issue, definitely take that.” It’s given me a lot of useful info to take to my RE and request certain treatments. I definitely wouldn’t be as hopeful as I am without the knowledge gained by reading ISWTE.

bows22 · June 2020

totally agree on the dated writing style and the corny/unrealistic stories in TCOYF. BUT I did really like it for the explanations of how my body works, CM, follicular phase, luteal phase, stuff like that. If you know nothing about any of that (like me) it can definitely be helpful. Fertility 101 haha.

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