OMG, this baby is killing me, So far, I've...

profmcgonagall · May 2020

I guessed. To be honest, I don’t weigh myself or pay attention to my weight during pregnancy because it causes too much stress for me.

baseballismyfavoriteseason · May 2020

I’m basically about even with my pre-pregnancy weight, but that entailed me losing some at first and then gaining it back.

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

I've gained almost 10 lb but I started 5 lb lower this pregnancy than my last one, so I guess I'm semi okay with that. Weight gain became a very touchy subject in my last BMB, probably unsurprisingly so. I do try pretty hard to keep a handle on it just because I know it will be more work for me later to lose, but at a certain point, my body does what it wants.

anitamargarita_82 · May 2020

This post is problematic for those of us with issues about weight. I’ve struggled my entire life with it. The military has only made it worse because my career and in part my worth within the Navy is based on being in standards. I was 245lbs when I graduated from high school and had to lose a lot of weight to get into the Navy. At this point I refuse to even discuss my weight with the OB unless it’s directly impacting the pregnancy which it didn’t last time and isn’t this far.

kboydbowman · May 2020

@anitamargarita_82 that's sort of the point. A lot of us struggle with weight and the weight changes associated with pregnancy are thus very difficult emotionally. I wanted people to see that a wide range of weight changes are normal.

(And I was 242 pounds at 5'1" and change the morning I had weight loss surgery, so I really do understand where you're coming from. "Allowing" myself to gain weight, and a lot of it, has been incredibly difficult.)

westslopemama · May 2020

I agree that talking about weight can be a touchy subject for women. I have struggled with my body image for awhile. Before becoming pregnant with DS I was running a lot and was very lean, but I’ve never felt “good” about my body. After having my son, I didn’t had the motivation to get back into running like before so now I feel even worse about myself. I weighed 7lbs more when I got pregnant this time vs last time. It’s not like I’ve gone up in clothing size, but I am just more flabby than I used to be. So far I have gained around 11lbs this pregnancy. I had to buy a scale for my telemedicine program with the birthing center and I’m sure I’ll become obsessive about weighing myself now that I have a scale. I try and eat when I’m hungry and eat mostly healthy foods, but when you’re married to a husband who could be out of running for 4 months after foot surgery while continuing to eat what he wanted and not gain an ounce of weight or lose any muscle or running speed it can be challenging to feel good about yourself... Regardless of how I feel about the rest of my body I do love my pregnant belly!

aefsparrow · May 2020

I think having a place designated to talk and vent about weight stuff is a great thing. I personally am having a really hard time with the belly. I've struggled with body image issues since I was 10, and find myself constantly feeling squirmy about my body even though I tell myself over and over again that it's a baby and I'm pregnant and it's a good thing that it's growing. My emotions have not quite committed to that however. After spending over a year with a personal trainer to get my body strong and ready for pregnancy I never thought of the fact that my brain would tell me I'm awful for undoing all that work.

baseballismyfavoriteseason · May 2020

I agree, @aefsparrow. Being pregnant actually has brought freedom to my body weight issues, and it’s nice to have a place to discuss in a non-judgmental manner. People who do not wish to participate can simply not. For people who do opt to discuss, I promise to offer nothing but positive support and encouragement. No judgment, no shame, and no medical advice from me!

animalandplantrescuer · May 2020

I haven’t been worrying about weight during pregnancy, and I’ve gained slower than I thought I would, but I started higher than I would have wanted. So I too have trouble watching myself get bigger.

My problem this week is I have to test my blood sugar for gestational diabetes, so now I’m afraid to eat anything, which I know isn’t good, nor the point of the test. Today is day one, so fingers crossed it goes well.

mckjacks · May 2020

Gaining weight has definitely been much harder than I anticipated. I gained over 15 pounds before I even started looking pregnant and not just like I ate the world’s largest burrito. Thankfully my OB knows I’m a very active person and warned me about the amount of weight I’m likely to gain with twins at my first appointment.

babyodo · May 2020

I struggled with an eating disorder for years, which is a big reason why I waited so long to get pregnant. I knew that I would struggle with the weight gain, and I didn't want to put myself in a position where I started restricting my diet to the extreme like I did back then (I limited myself to 300 calories a day or less, and got down to 109lbs at 5'9" in less than two months). It took me almost 12 years and a lot of counseling to change the way I think about food in relation to how I perceive my body. That being said, now that I am nearly halfway through this pregnancy, I can proudly say that I am enjoying the changes happening to my body, and I eat all the things I want without a second thought. I try to get some light exercise in (2.5 mile walks) at least three times per week. As a runner, I would prefer to be running, but with my history of previous loss, I'm a little nervous about that and don't want to overdo it. I have gained about 8lbs this pregnancy, and most of that was in the first trimester, which is weird. I actually haven't gained any weight since about 10-12 weeks, even though my belly is growing. Oh, and I only weigh myself on Sundays, which is when I graduate weeks.

mckjacks · May 2020

@babyodo as someone who has also previously struggled with eating disorders I can completely relate to your post. The month where I was gaining weight, but not looking pregnant was tough for me

MJDsquared · May 2020

Due to COVID, my OB practice (which is part of a large network) has closed all but four offices and redirected patients to those offices. At my appointment in April, I had an older doctor who said, "You've gained six pounds since your first appointment in February" and then she asked me what my weight was before my BFP (no idea) and I was SO taken aback. My last pregnancy I was of course weighed at every visit, but my weight was never mentioned. I was glad to have a doctor from my practice yesterday, and who is younger and didn't mention weight.

But yesterday I was down two pounds from my April appointment, which I find shocking. I was positive it would be a big jump because my eating hasn't been great and I wasn't as good about taking my nightly walks for a while. I think **TMI** starting to drink coffee these past five days may have cleaned me out?? And I wore lighter shoes.

With DD I gained 45 pounds. I wasn't thrilled with it but I was pregnant so I shrugged it off. Looking back at pictures of her as a baby (under 1) I lost a ton of weight breastfeeding and looking at those pictures now makes me feel bad about myself. I definitely started off this pregnancy heavier than last time and I'm worried about what I'll look like at the end, though it's not something I think about very often.

aefsparrow · May 2020

@MJDsquared I was actually gonna mention the constipation factor in the weight gains and losses. In a month I also lost 2 lbs when I was getting bigger and I think that had a lot to do with it.

I'm a person that doesn't own a scale. The numbers on it never match up to what I actually look like, so before when I was trying to get healthy I used my Body Fat Percentage rather than my weight. It's the only thing that keeps me sane. Cannot use that now obviously, but I just keep reminding myself that this is okay, and I kept a food journal for a month so I could remind myself that I was still eating healthy.

morethanamama · May 2020

I don't really weigh myself ever. I was working out like crazy years ago and was obsessed with it and now IDGAF. Same during pregnancy. It's super hard to see your body change even for those who haven't struggled with body image or eating disorders and "giving yourself grace" is easier said than done. In general, I think as long as you're feeling good and baby is healthy, weight shouldn't be a concern. I know super fit women who have gained 60+ lbs as well as women with higher BMIs gaining very little. I think weight is only important when it impacts health, not for appearances.

I read about Emily Skye when I was pregnant last and wow, that was a story. She is a fitness model and she gained a ton with her first and was criticized by people on social media. She is pregnant again and just as "big" and she doesn't care at all. Her body just does that with pregnancy, her babies are healthy though and so is she.

I will also say that I gained about 25-30 lbs with my first and carried very small, and guess what, I constantly got comments about how small I was, is baby ok, are you sure you're pregnant, are you eating, are you working out too much...it was all a bunch of BS, but it definitely made me sad. I then lost a lot of the weight by 3 weeks postpartum by doing absolutely NOTHING and people, again, were making comments about me "bouncing back" and "really watching my weight". This can be frustrating as well and make you second guess. We are not defined by our weight or appearance. I am lucky I never struggled with eating disorders or body image but I am very sensitive to the topic as it was part of an elective module for my yoga training. The yoga world is absolutely fuc**** up when it comes to body image, and it is pretty enraging.

westslopemama · May 2020

I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to mention women’s size when they are pregnant or otherwise. I gained around 25 pounds last pregnancy, but it was really mostly in my belly so I guess I looked big. My BIL mentioned how huge I was and that maybe I do have GD (when I failed the 1 hr test) because I was so big! I was shocked that a family member would say something like that to me. Just because his wife only gained 13lbs during her pregnancy and barely looked pregnant when her daughter was born doesn’t mean that everyone should look like that.

morethanamama · May 2020

@westslopemama it never ends. I have had FAMILY telling me that maybe there was something wrong with my milk when I was struggling to breastfeed. I don't know how many times I have cried and yelled at my parents for those idiotic comments...UGH!

kboydbowman · May 2020

I had a relatively unknown form of weight loss surgery (duodenal switch) in July 2010. I was 242 pounds at 5'1" (size 24/26) and change the I morning of my surgery. Over a period of about 18 months, I slowly lost the weight and ended up at 120 pounds +/- 5 pounds (ranging from size 2 to 6) until I got pregnant.

Since part of what my surgery does is to move food fairly fast through my digestive system, I think part of the reason I have gained 25 pounds with this pregnancy so far is because of the relaxin slowing down my digestive system. Plus I'm eating a *lot* more fruit carbs than I was previously (I only process about 10% of fat and 50% of proteins and complex carbs, but nearly 100% of simple sugars) for nutrient purposes; people who have had my particularly kind of surgery have a number of vitamins and minerals we are very prone being deficient inbecause of the surgically created nutritional malabsorption, so I have been being super vigilant about nutrient, vitamin, and supplement consumption and making them regularly draw my various vitamin labs so I can adjust my supplements.

I honestly won't be surprised if I end up gaining 50 pounds or more by the end of the pregnancy. I know this is all "good" weight for baby,and I will likely drop back down to my pre-pregnancy set point fairly quickly after I have the baby and resume my normal maintenance eating habits, but it's still very, very hard to deliberately allow myself to gain weight when I have worked so hard to lose it and keep it off.

ginevere · May 2020

Not necessarily about weight specifically, but unsolicited comments about appearance in general always get to me. My issues mostly stem from the fact that I look alot younger than I am. Most strangers assume I'm in my teens, but I'll be 30 in two weeks. They pass it off as a "compliment" and "you'll appreciate it when you're older" garbage. However, there have been countless times where I'm not necessarily afforded respect as an adult and it can be hurtful. It definitely doesn't help that I work in retail so it allows for a lot of those negative interactions. "Oh you must be around my daughter's age, she just turned 16, would she like this?" Bitch, I was 16 when your daughter born I don't know what she likes. I like houseplants and embroidery... I try so hard not to let it get to me but I'm cranky.

I knew being pregnant would most likely put me into some awkward scenarios and I am just waiting for someone to try and make a pregnant teenager comment. I am not sure I will be able to hold back my hormones and not fight them! I have gained about 10+ pounds and have always been very petite so a lot of the current comments I'm getting are "you're not even showing yet" type things which someone please tell my bras, pants and underwear that because I have had to overhaul my entire wardrobe... so yeah. I am definitely showing, but thanks for somehow making me feel insecure about it. It's just a small bump on a small person, what were you expecting? I wish people would just say "you look great" or better yet don't say anything at all. Maybe ask how I'm feeling? I don't know.

wineren · May 2020

Weight is weird. I'm definitely a plus size mama. I didn't gain any weight with DS and I don't really weight myself regularly. I was at the doctor in Oct and I'm 10lb less than that 🤷🏻‍♀️ Could have been from the three months before I got pregnant though. I certainly feel bigger.
I also just got diagnosed with GD from the 3 hour early test I took so my carbs are going to be super limited the next 4 months and I think that's the reason I didn't gain anything last time (I had GD then too).
My OB never commented on my weight with DS and since I have the same doctor this go-round, I'm hoping it will be the same.

baseballismyfavoriteseason · May 2020

@ginevere I’m sorry, I know you’re expressing frustration, but I laughed out loud at “I like houseplants and embroidery.”

Yep, I had people make ALL the comments when I was pregnant with my first. “Wow, you must be carrying a linebacker!” “You’re not due for another two months? You look ready to pop!” I would have expected my family to make the worst comments, as families do sometimes, but I was surprised it was actually my coworkers! One of the perks of working from home during this one.

annarach · May 2020

@kboydbowman I have also had weight loss surgery, twice actually. In 2013, I weighed close to 300lbs when I had my lap band taken out and gastric sleeve done. I went down to 172lbs when I got pregnant with my daughter in 2014. I gained 40lbs with her, lost 20, and then got pregnant with my son. I gained 40 with him, and lost 20. I was 220 when I got pregnant this time. I had just started losing weight again and eating well, so I felt defeated when I got this BFP and knew I would be gaining weight again. I lost a couple lbs during the first trimester, but I’m up to 226 now. I’m fine if I gain another 10, 20, or 30lbs as long as baby is healthy. I can always lose the weight if I make enough effort. I’m also really proud of what my body can do. It’s grown 3 babies, working on the fourth, and will hopefully nurse this one too.

aefsparrow · May 2020

@ginevere I totally get that! I dont get pegged quite that young, but definitely early 20s. People see my ring and keep saying things like "why rush" and " you have so much time" I've literally said "bitch I'm almost 30" when someone told me my husband and I should "take some time" before trying for a kid. Now I've literally been asked "didnt you want to finish school?"... I have 2 masters degrees that I finished 7 years ago... and I like knitting lol

babyodo · May 2020

@ginevere - I can totally relate to the age-ist comments. I look much younger than I am (I think the full-sleeves of tattoos has something to do with it), and had joined the military very young (17 years old), so I accomplished a lot at a young age. Fast forward, I am now 35 years old and expecting my first LO, and the comments are really aggravating. I have to remind people that I am considered a geriatric pregnancy, hence all the additional testing (which equals more appointments with specialist and the lab). MH and I also have gotten a lot of head-patty type of comments about, "Oh, just you wait until the first diaper blowout" or "I can't wait to see you try to figure this parent stuff out". Uhm, excuse the f*ck outta me - I have three nieces and four nephews ranging from ages 5 to 22. My little brother was 9 when he became an uncle, so I've essentially been around babies since I was a baby. I'm not a complete imbecile, and neither is my husband.

God, I hate people sometimes.

And the worst comments are the ones about my weight. I have two older half sisters, and my middle sister always calls me "skinny little b*tch". She had HUGE babies. All four of her kids were 9+ lbs at birth (her oldest was two weeks overdue and weighed 10lbs 6oz when she was born), so she gained a lot of pregnancy weight, which caused horrible stretch marks on her stomach and she never really lost the weight. I know these are her issues, but it just makes me really irritated anytime she asks to see my belly or how much weight I've gained. It's almost as if she's wishing obesity on me or something. I have to remind myself that we have different dads (hers is very Germanic, resembles John Goodman; whereas mine is very tall and thin, resembles Billy Bob Thornton), so I'm sure that plays into the differences in how we gain weight. But, damn if it doesn't get under my skin. Especially since it's pretty much the topic of conversation every time we video chat with the family.

ginevere · May 2020

@babyodo and @aefsparrow I'm so glad I'm not alone! Anytime I try to complain about it I get a lot of people who just don't understand why I can't be "thankful". What. I totally realize looking young or being petite and thin are not bad things, but that doesn't mean people cant be harsh and hurt my feelings.

And @babyodo if my sisters said that I would be so mad! I'm definitely the thinnest of us and of course we always picked on eachother so I definitely can relate. In highschool my older sister's, she has always had a very large chest, friends nicknamed us Big T and Little T. It was supposed to be for our last name which began with a T, but everyone joked it was more relevant to "tit size". Kind if scarred me. Luckily, my sisters have been really excited and supportive. My older sister has a 4yo and I think she's just excited to finally have a cousin for her daughter so she's been really nice. Unlike mycoworkers and some random people, they know what my body usually looks like and anytime they see me or see a picture they just call out my bump and it makes me happy. For some reason my phone is just not capturing it AT ALL but I am determined to get a good shot next week for HDBD!!

aefsparrow · May 2020

Went to my mother in laws house yesterday... it was fun and good to see family. But I have to get use to eating more at her house if we do that again. Basically everyone there eats tiny portions and I feel weird being like... um.... I need to actually eat lunch and dinner and a snack k. I was up at 6am so we could drive out there, and all I had all day was a breakfast burrito, 2 small tacos, a few chips and 2 small crepes... by the time we got home at 9pm I was so hungry I was nauseated so I had half a sunbutter sammich. My husband was working outside most the day, and has trouble understanding why I feel weird scarfing down food in front of his size 00 mom and sisters...

kboydbowman · May 2020

@aefsparrow what is a sunbutter sandwich?

aefsparrow · May 2020

@kboydbowman I'm allergic to nuts, so I cant have peanut butter... so its sunflower seed butter... I use it just like peanut butter. I put it on whole grain bread with a bit of jam.

wineren · May 2020

@aefsparrow Sunbutter is so yummy!

jgrodo · June 2020

@aefsparrow have you found anything that really helps with constipation?

aefsparrow · June 2020

@jgrodo I have! I'm using Hemp Fiber Powder that has protein and fiber in it (I found it at sprouts), and chia seeds. The Hemp powder I use about 2 to 3 times a week, and the chia seeds I try to have daily. I mostly mix them both into dairy free yogurt or smoothies. The chia seeds I'll just put in some lemon water. Nothing is perfect, but I've been a lot more comfortable since I started the fiber supplement. I'm also doing the standards (ie lots of water and trying to eat leafy vegetables and beans). I just really didnt want to resort to more chemical based stuff. I try my best to stick with as natural as possible. Anyone else find anything that works well?

mckjacks · June 2020

@jgrodo @aefsparrow I take a magnesium powder supplement mixed in water daily to help with constipation

jgrodo · June 2020

@aefsparrow and @mckjacks thanks! I'm going to try and add those in! I totally agree I'd rather that then the colace and I'm totally over prunes
What are you putting in your smoothie? We got rid of our blender a while ago but I've been thinking if getting one again

aefsparrow · June 2020

@jgrodo I have a nutribullet and it is my saving grace for things like smoothies! I tend to always have fruit on hand. I always add a banana, then berries or pineapple is always good. I'm a fan of getting the pre-portioned smoothie packs from Walmart that are fruit and veggie. I also normally throw some spinach or kale in. Lemon or orange juice is also good, just depends on the mood.

animalandplantrescuer · June 2020

Can I just say laundry day is not my friend anymore? Either that or she has just had a huge growth spurt. 😂

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