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TTGP Grad Check-In 5/21/2020

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This check in is for the ladies who actively participated in the Trying to Get Pregnant Board.

How far along are you?

Upcoming appointments?

Cravings/Symptoms?

How are you doing? Rants/Raves/Randoms?

Questions?
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Re: TTGP Grad Check-In 5/21/2020

  • feather_heatherfeather_heather member
    How far along are you? 10w6d

    Upcoming appointments? NT Scan and NIPT Testing a week from today!

    Cravings/Symptoms? I'm finally starting to feel better!! I haven't been super nauseous or otherwise feeling sick/weak in almost a week! I think it's directly related to stopping the estrogen and progesterone... hoping that's because my body is doing such a great job producing it on it's own, that injecting myself with all of that extra was just too much for my body to handle!  

    How are you doing? Rants/Raves/Randoms? Doing good, now that I feel almost human again! We are headed down the cape after I finish my night meeting tonight for an extra long weekend! Looking forward to a change of scenery and some fresh ocean air! 

    Questions? Nope
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  • thankfullyamamathankfullyamama member
    How far along are you? 11 weeks today!

    Upcoming appointments? On Tuesday I’ll get to see the baby again and meet my midwife for the first time!

    Cravings/Symptoms? I was having lots of craving now I’m having lots of aversions lol and the nausea has come back! Thought it was gone for good because I had almost a week without it 

    How are you doing? Rants/Raves/Randoms? I’m on a 6 day off work stretch so I’m doing good today! My last few work days were literal hell I was so exhausted 

    Questions? So my family members knew I have PCOS and when they asked if it happened naturally I told them honestly that i took clomid to conceive but now whenever I find people talking about my pregnant they refer to it as a “clomid baby” or always include the fact that I needed fertility’s medication and I’m not sure how I feel about this because I want to be open but at the same time I feel like there is still shame about struggling with IF like people’s reactions are “oh you needed help we’ll thank god it worked!” Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing something similar! 
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  • dobiemom11dobiemom11 member
    How far along are you? 9w2d

    Upcoming appointments? Next Wed for a 10 week appt.  This is the first one that DH gets to come to, so that is exciting.  I think it is also the one with all the tests (blood, PAP, and so on).  

    Cravings/Symptoms?  Olives and sour candy.  I had a few good days of nausea only and then had a rough yesterday.  On Tuesday, the mood swings were intense.  Not sure if my husband prefers those or the throwing up.   

    How are you doing? Rants/Raves/Randoms?
    Still nervous about the possibility of returning to work.  Currently spend most of my day on the couch, in bed, or in the bathroom.  I am excited for the long weekend though.  My husband has been putting in long hours at work and they keep cancelling his vacation days.  Ready to do nothing with him all weekend.  

    @feather_heather. Enjoy that ocean air!  Jealous.  Congrats on being done with the shots!  

    @tryingktogku. Enjoy those days off.  You deserve them!  I can't even imagine trying to do your schedule right now.  I can't say I have been in your situation (regarding your question), but I am hoping this is a temporary thing.  I am sure that once the baby comes, people will just be excited about that and will hopefully not focus so much on your journey.  Thank you for being open about it though.  It might encourage others who hear about it.     
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  • shelmcclelshelmcclel member
    hi all - I wasn’t active on the TTGP boards on the Bump, but we were TTC for 26 months before conceiving this cycle (naturally after our IUI was canceled). I was reading this board because I assume many of us have gone through similar scenarios.

    @tryingktogku - I think I understand how you feel! Not going through this exactly but something also frustrating. You’re totally valid and I think it’s okay to tell people that you’d prefer that they stop referencing your use of Clomid. We tried just Clomid for 2 cycles and weren’t successful and it would bother me if people called the baby a Clomid baby or an IUI baby. It totally discounts all of the effort and heartache that comes along with struggling to conceive, and now you’re just happy and excited to have a baby to look forward to and want to move on to what’s next!

    Our family members have been jokingly calling this baby “Quarantina/o” or “Covidian” and I politely asked them to stop on Mothers Day. I told them we didn’t conceive because we all of a sudden starting having more sex in the wake of the pandemic, that they should remember we were struggling for over two years, that I have gone through several painful and awkward tests and procedures in an attempt to conceive, and that their flippant references to this being a Covid-19 baby is offensive and completely discounts everything we’ve gone through. I probably said too much (whoops hormones) but I wanted them to understand why it bothered me. They were all thankfully receptive to what I had to say and agreed to stop. Now they call the baby Charlotte because they know that’s one of my favorite girl names (and everyone is hoping for a girl). Still not perfectly ideal lol but I’ll take what I can get. 

    I don’t think other people who haven’t been through the infertility process can understand or fully empathize with the fact that despite all we’ve gone through, all along we just were hoping for as “normal” of a conception and pregnancy as possible. And we just wish people would treat the pregnancy as nothing but normal and happy and exciting. I doubt any of them intend to be rude or their comments come from a bad place. I definitely think having a heart to heart with those that are saying it might help, though! It did for me. 
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  • dobiemom11dobiemom11 member
    @shelmcclel. I am going to have an issue with people saying that the quarantine resulted in this baby.  We tried for a long time for this and I fully intend to call them out on it.  Most of our family and friends didn't know that we had been trying, because we didn't want to answer all the questions, but it is still so offensive that people would think that.  

    It was eye opening for me to participate in the TTGP board even if we didn't have the battle that some of the women have and are still having.  There is so much strength on that board.  
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  • thankfullyamamathankfullyamama member
    @shelmcclel I think you’re right that people who haven’t gone through IF just don’t get it and they don’t mean to be insensitive! But yes I’m trying to be open because I want to help diminish the same people can feel when dealing with If! 

    @dobiemom11 I’m the same! I correct everyone when they call this a COVID baby. 
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  • feather_heatherfeather_heather member
    @tryingtogku - I'm glad you're getting a break from work! I openly refer to this baby as an IVF baby, because without IVF we wouldn't have this little one on the way. I think it's totally up to you though, if it makes you uncomfortable you can most definitely ask people to stop. 

    @dobiemom11 - So jealous that your husband gets to go to your appointment with you! 

    @shelmcclel - I'm glad your family was receptive to your request! I will stand on that same exact soap box if anyone refers to this baby as a quarantine baby! 
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  • shelmcclelshelmcclel member
    @dobiemom11I wish that I’d looked for an IF board! I had the Ovia fertility app and started looking at pregnancy apps for fun, but never realized they had TTGP boards. 

    ++ @feather_heather @tryingktogku I’m glad  we all agree! I was feeling a little guilty for saying something to everyone, but I know I shouldn’t. 
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