Week 3 (Oct 15-21) check-in: 5/11

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

How far along are you?

Due date?

Upcoming appointments?

Rant/rave?

Questions?

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

How far along are you? 16+5 today

Due date? 10/21

Upcoming appointments? Not until AS on 6/8

Rant/rave? Rave-went to the grocery store in person for the first time in 6 weeks this morning and was able to find so much more than normal! Also, it was really just nice to get out.

Rant-I think I might have pregnancy induced sleep apnea...if that's a thing. I snore like crazy when I'm pregnant. The only reasons I can think of is weight gain (but I'm still a totally normal BMI at this point, so I don't think my 5lb increase is enough to cause this), hormones causing all my tissues including my palate to relax, and pregnancy related congestion. I keep waking up with terrible headaches on nights when DH says the snoring was really bad. Not sure if there's anything I can do about it because it went away after I delivered my daughter my last pregnancy.

Questions? Don't think so.

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?
I hope this kid will look like my DD, at least mostly. I have pale skin, freckles, blue eyes and light brown hair (but was blonde until puberty). DH is Vietnamese and Spanish, so he has dark skin, eyes, and hair. DD has light hair, eyes and my dimples, but DHs nose and face shape. Her skin isn't as dark as DH's but she tans super quickly in the sun. I would love for this baby to get his dark hair. DH was joking the other day that people probably don't believe she is his because she looks white, so I took this picture and sent it to him to prove a point. It made me laugh. I love her skin tone.

mamahosch · May 2020

How far along are you? 17 weeks tomorrow

Due date? 10/20

Upcoming appointments? June 3 for anatomy scan

Rant/rave?

Rant: Dealing with a depressed dog is exhausting. Not what I needed during pregnancy. I guess I don’t mind the extra cuddles though.

Rave: I think today I’m going to order the nursery dresser and Halo Bassinest since we got some extra income from our dog having pups! (The breeder pays us for each litter our dog has) I’m in a total nesting/home organization mode. Our living room shelves have never looked so fabulous thanks to my friend’s home decor store live sales 😂

Questions?

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?

Well I hope he or she looks like a mix of the both of us! I hope he or she gets DH’s blonde locks with my curls! 😍

babyodo · May 2020

How far along are you? 17+1

Due date? 10/18

Upcoming appointments? AS on 5/18

Rant/rave? Rave - I'm feeling mentally/physically pretty good. Such a stark contrast to the first trimester. I also was able to go grocery shopping (at the commissary) on Saturday, and got most of everything we needed that suit our preferences, so that was a score. Bonus: I got to park in the Expectant Mother spot next to the handicap spots, so that was nice, especially since it was abnormally chilly this weekend.
Rant - Kind of a long story, but my stepdad (civilian contractor for the military) is currently on a 2 year deployment to Bahrain. Part of him agreeing to it is they offered him a promotion and a pretty hefty bonus, which meant that my mom, him, my brother, and my niece & nephew could finally move here from Kentucky. My mom had agreed to be our nanny since she has done that for all her grandkids, and since this is our first baby, and most of her grandchildren are now old enough to go to school. Well, my stepfather just got some not-so-good news about his heart health, which means he may have to cut his contract short and return to the States, which means they most likely won't be moving here after all. I'm stressing out because the waiting list for local daycares and military CDCs is at least a year, if not longer, so I don't know what we're going to do since it's way too late into my pregnancy now. Yes, I'm super worried about my stepfather's health, but I am also worried about how this affects us, too, so it's just a lot of worry and stress right now that I wasn't prepared to tackle.

Questions? Nope

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?
I put this in my PGAL check-in: Since it's a girl, I sincerely hope she looks like me. MH's side of the family has some very strong masculine genes (strong jawline, prominent chin) on both his mother's and father's sides, which would be hard for a baby girl. I do hope she gets his dimples, though. She'll most likely have light eyes (mine are a grey-green, and MH's are ice blue) and there's a strong chance she'll be either strawberry blonde or very blonde at birth, but her hair will get darker as she gets older (that happened to both MH and me during puberty). Poor thing will probably freckle & sunburn easily - the Irish curse, lol.

amapa20 · May 2020

How far along are you? 17 weeks

Due date? Oct 19

Upcoming appointments? Today for blood work

Rant/rave? Rave: I am really stressing out thinking about day care, since I'm moving in July and they're all closed anyway so how am I supposed to choose/apply, but my mom is so amazing and supportive and made me feel so much better by saying she's planning on being around at least for the beginning, and she's happy to kidnap the baby. I don't know how realistic a plan that is going to be, since she works nights and sleeps during the day, but it makes me happy to have the support.

Questions? Anyone else still having trouble gaining weight? I was so gung-ho about gaining gradually but it's a real struggle even though I feel like my appetite is fine now.

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?

My husband and I have gone point-by-point over the traits we want the baby to get from each of us

I want it to get his red hair, he wouldn't wish redheadedness on anyone. Either way we're both really hairy so we're planning on having a werewolf. My immune system, his cardiovascular system and 20/20 vision!

- amapa

mamahosch · May 2020

@amapa I'm having trouble with weight gain too! For some reason I just haven't had the appetite I had before I was pregnant. I would snack all the time and eat full meal portions... I never really was even sick first trimester. At my 16 week checkup last week she told me I had lost weight since my 8 week appointment (I didn't have a 12 week).

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

@Amapa I gained 4-5 lbs prior to my 12 week appointment but haven't gained any since then. I haven't been as hungry but am still eating plenty and more healthy foods now that I'm not fighting nausea and pounding carbs to counter act it. I'm happy with being stable for now because I know the pounds will come and it's not because I'm not eating. (Back of my mind, always worried that maybe it's because baby isn't growing enough, but trying not to let that bother me until I have an actual reason to think that).

@babyodo that is really stressful about daycare. I would go ahead and get one some lists anyway even though they don't expect to have openings in time. The longer you wait, the less options you will have (which I'm sure you know). We put our name in before I was pregnant at our current daycare that DD attends thinking that would be plenty of time. Well, we got pregnant really quickly and now need a spot at the end of December and they have told me they can't guarantee a spot until March 2021. I'm stressing about it. Hoping that covid might have changed other people's plans and a spot will open sooner. I will have to hire a nanny if not as I have to go back at 8 weeks.

coldbrew · May 2020

How far along are you? 17w

Due date? 10/19

Upcoming appointments? Anatomy scan on the 28th

Rant/rave? Rave - I’m feeling a decent amount of movement now!

Questions? Is everyone still doing virtual visits? When do you start in office visits? My first isn’t until 24w!

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?

I’d love for this baby to look like me since our first 2 look more like DH.

coldbrew · May 2020

@carrotsandpeas3 I think now is when relaxin production really increases, so I wonder if that can affect sleep apnea.

@babyodo I’m sorry about your step father and all of that stress.

Ampala, I hadn’t even thought about how people are securing daycares without being able to tour them. That’s stressful!

AB518 · May 2020

How far along are you? 17 weeks 3 days

Due date? 10/16

Upcoming appointments? 6/2 (anatomy scan)

Rant/rave? My in-laws have agreed to watch DS starting late summer. I'm just not looking forward to telling the sitter that we will no longer need her to watch DS. She doesn't even know that I'm pregnant yet or she might have figured it out because it is getting more difficult to hide this belly.

Questions? How far in advance should I let my sitter know that we no longer need her? Currently, her main source of income (other than child support from her ex) is from watching DS.

GTKY: Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from either of you that you want this baby to inherit? I hope that this baby looks like a good mix of the two of us. DS looks more like me now, but he looked like a baby version of DH when he was born. Overall, DS ended up having a cute combination of mine and DH's features, so I hope that this baby does too. I would prefer for this baby to get my husband's skin tone and hair. And I would prefer for her to get my nose, ears, and feet.

edit: fixed typo

mamahosch · May 2020

@coldbrew I never had any virtual visits. They just ended up cancelling my 12 week and I went in person to 16 week appt. I do have to go alone to them, though, including my 20 week anatomy scan on June 3rd.

AB518 · May 2020

@babyodo Childcare is stressful. Having your mother as a nanny sounds amazing, so to have that possibly taken away sounds awful. I hope that your step-father does well, and that it ends up being a non-issue. You probably should still add your name to daycare waitlists now; there could always be unexpected openings or at least you can try to minimize the amount of time that would be needed for temporary childcare (i.e. having a temporary sitter or nanny) between maternity leave and daycare availability. I remember stressing about childcare with my first. It was difficult for me to accept that I needed to get a sitter or nanny because DH and I often work hours that daycares aren't open.

babyodo · May 2020

Thanks ladies, for your supportive suggestions. I'm going to look into daycares that my coworkers use in this area. The hard part is I am transferring offices on June 15th, and the one I'm currently at is right around the corner (less than 15 minute drive, don't even have to take the highway to get there) whereas my new office is about 40 minutes away (without traffic) and I have to take a highway that includes a bridge tunnel. So, I have to decide whether I should find a daycare located near where we live (since we're not moving) or where I will be working for the next two years. It's a lot to take in.

If I can't secure daycare around the time that I have to go back to work after maternity leave, I might float the idea of having my MIL come stay with us to watch the baby in our home. It wouldn't be ideal since she and my FIL live several states away (about an 11 hour drive or 2 hour flight), but I'm sure she would love it since this is her first grandchild, we have two extra rooms for her to choose from, and she's not a burden to be around. It would also give her a break from the harsh Massachusetts winter, lol. It's just an idea I'm tossing around in my head, since I would much prefer to have family watch our daughter than to thrust her into daycare before she can even hold her head up. ETA: I'm certainly not judging those who do, it's just my own comfort level in that respect (I hope that makes sens

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

@babyodo DH and I both work about 40 minutes from our house as well. With my DD, I ended up going with a daycare close to our house, which was nice as she didn't have to sit in the car long (because she hated car rides at different points the first year) and it was nice if I got off work early for some reason so I could go home and get something done before heading to grab her. It was also convenient for my parents when they were visiting and dropping off or picking up for me. Only downside is when I got a call that she was sick or something. I just got there as soon as I could and it was never a problem.

We switched daycares about 6 months ago and our new place is halfway between work and home. It has been nice that I don't feel as pressured to leave work in time to get there before closing since it is closer to work, but is still only 15-20 min for her in the car.

I also think having your MIL come stay with you for a bit early on to help the transition is totally reasonable! My DD started daycare at 8 weeks and it really killed me emotionally. They took good care of her though and after about 6 months of age, I really do think it helped her socially and she loves it so much now at 21 months--she practically sprints into the school in the mornings.

mamahosch · May 2020

@babyodo I think that’s a great backup plan to have your MIL stay if you can’t get daycare secured! I actually contacted our daycare when I was 5 weeks pregnant because the town I teach in is a smaller town and only has a few in home daycares and I wanted it secured! I refuse to take him or her to the centers they have in that town and my city is bigger and I didn’t want to try and search for an in home near me. The one I really wanted uses a school year schedule so we only pay for the school year, no summers and no snow days, which is PERFECT for me as a teacher, and a few of my coworkers use her as daycare. (And their preschool aged kiddos were in my class this year and went there, so the provider definitely knows who I am considering they called her Mrs Hosch all the time 😂) I’m taking 12 weeks so Baby H won’t start until January.

babyodo · May 2020

Thankfully, the military give us 12 weeks maternity leave, and we can take our own earned leave on top of those twelve weeks. I'm considering adding on some time after that so I won't return to work until March 1st (my family is planning a large week-long reunion trip to WDW in late-February, and it just makes more sense to not have to return to work before we go on that trip). Fingers-crossed my new command approves that request, otherwise I'll have to figure this all out by January 18th or so.

amapa20 · May 2020

I'm loving the daycare discussion. It sounds like I should just research the best I can and go ahead and apply ASAP if I want to get into a daycare by January!

@coldbrew I've been lucky enough to keep all my in-person appointments. I do wish any other patients at the clinic would wear masks, but I'm glad to be able to keep up on urine samples and monitoring fhr and the growth of my uterus. Plus I admit it's nice to get to talk to other humans.

@AB518 Just my opinion, it seems like it would be nice to tell your babysitter the situation as soon as possible. I'm sure she'd appreciate the time to sort out her own situation.

New rave: my screen name is finally showing up!!

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

@amapa20 yay!!!! That took a crazy long time. So glad you stuck it out. 😊

kalesix3 · May 2020

How far along are you?
17+2 wk

Due date?
10/18

Upcoming appointments?
This afternoon, I think it's just a normal visit.

Rant/rave?
Anterior placentas are for the birds.

Questions?
I can't think of any atm

GTKY (stolen from PGAL thread, sorry if it's a repeat for you!): Do you hope this baby will look like you or your SO? Is there any specific feature from ether of you that you want this baby to inherit?
I don't know what my partner looked like as a baby as he was given up for adoption and he doesn't have any photos from before he was a toddler, but toddler him was absolutely adorable so I hope baby will look like him, but will have tons of long hair like both me and our first baby had.
Our first looked like me, so it'd be cool to have a mini him this go around.

AB518 · May 2020

@carrotsandpeas3 After I read your post, I actually held up DS's hand to mine like your picture and I started laughing because it looked similar to your picture and DH has also joked that people probably don't believe that DS could be his kid. I'm pale, and DH has a dark skin tone. I always considered DS to be pale like me because he is so much lighter than DH, but now, I feel even more pale after realizing how tan DS looks compared to me. It makes me hopeful that he won't burn as easily as I do.

@coldbrew I have been lucky in that I have been going to my appointments as they are normally scheduled without any changes other than wearing masks and limiting additional visitors. Virtual visits are an option. I am at higher risk going to my job at a hospital than going to an appointment, so I have declined doing virtual visits.

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